Why do christian women prefer a atheist/muslim husband?
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I can understand that. That happens in America/ states too. It's more common than people care to admit. There are children that grow up in a "Christian" home that convert to all kinds of religions, including the Muslim sects. Your country is even more secular, so It stands to reason that there is a higher percentage of atheists and Muslims if they are welcome to settle there. We used to have wealthy Saudis that entered years ago that went to our colleges. I worked with a possible "christian" who had a Muslim boyfriend. The girl was planning on going into full time Christian service after graduation from Bible college. That's just one personal example.
I can understand that. That happens in America/ states too. It's more common than people care to admit. There are children that grow up in a "Christian" home that convert to all kinds of religions, including the Muslim sects. Your country is even more secular, so It stands to reason that there is a higher percentage of atheists and Muslims if they are welcome to settle there. We used to have wealthy Saudis that entered years ago that went to our colleges. I worked with a possible "christian" who had a Muslim boyfriend. The girl was planning on going into full time Christian service after graduation from Bible college. That's just one personal example.
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So is it "women" collectively that prefer Muslims and atheists over Christians? Or even the subsection of women who identify as Christian?
I'll assume that you think this holds even for Christian women since that's what you seemed to indicate earlier. Hmm, even though I'm from the neighboring country of Finland, I'm not that intimately familiar with everything that goes on in Sweden. Just based on my general impressions, I would suspect that the average Swedish Christian woman tends to be politically left-wing (certainly by American standards, probably even by Nordic standards). So perhaps there could be an element of "self-hate" with some Swedish Christian women, and it could then get redirected toward white Swedish Christian men in particular. It doesn't even have to be completely internalized. In a country that is heavily leftist and has only a minority (even if a relatively sizeable minority) of Christians, there can be social pressures from the non-Christians within the Christian women's circle of friends, etc.
Another factor to consider: the more conservative Christian women probably marry at a younger age on average than the leftist-liberal Christian ones. So they will be in the dating pool for a shorter period of time, and this can create a sort of biased perspective on the views of the total population of Christian women. There's also the phenomenon that on average, women tend to marry either "up" or at their own level (in terms of social status, etc) whereas men tend to marry either at their own level or "down". So probably many of the men who are left in the dating pool for longer periods are the ones who are (rightly or wrongly) considered "less desirable" by women in general. Many of the "most desirable" Christian men may be already married to the marriage-minded conservative Christian women.
So putting all of this together, it could be that there are enough factors in play to make your observations more believable than I initially thought. So I don't think I'm quite as skeptical of your claim now. Still I suspect there may be some level of exaggeration as to how common this is, but I could be wrong.
None of this is meant to say that I approve the prejudices that single Swedish Christian women may have against single Swedish men. I'm just trying to understand the phenomenon. Just on the basis of what I know about the situation in Finland, probably the vast majority of single Christian women who are serious about their faith would prefer a Christian man (all other things being equal). But they may be more open to dating non-Christians than in some other countries. As for women who are less serious about their faith but still identify as Christian, the partner's faith or lack thereof may be close to a non-issue but still most of them wouldn't actively prefer a non-Christian man, at least if they haven't had bad experiences dating Christian men.
I'll assume that you think this holds even for Christian women since that's what you seemed to indicate earlier. Hmm, even though I'm from the neighboring country of Finland, I'm not that intimately familiar with everything that goes on in Sweden. Just based on my general impressions, I would suspect that the average Swedish Christian woman tends to be politically left-wing (certainly by American standards, probably even by Nordic standards). So perhaps there could be an element of "self-hate" with some Swedish Christian women, and it could then get redirected toward white Swedish Christian men in particular. It doesn't even have to be completely internalized. In a country that is heavily leftist and has only a minority (even if a relatively sizeable minority) of Christians, there can be social pressures from the non-Christians within the Christian women's circle of friends, etc.
Another factor to consider: the more conservative Christian women probably marry at a younger age on average than the leftist-liberal Christian ones. So they will be in the dating pool for a shorter period of time, and this can create a sort of biased perspective on the views of the total population of Christian women. There's also the phenomenon that on average, women tend to marry either "up" or at their own level (in terms of social status, etc) whereas men tend to marry either at their own level or "down". So probably many of the men who are left in the dating pool for longer periods are the ones who are (rightly or wrongly) considered "less desirable" by women in general. Many of the "most desirable" Christian men may be already married to the marriage-minded conservative Christian women.
So putting all of this together, it could be that there are enough factors in play to make your observations more believable than I initially thought. So I don't think I'm quite as skeptical of your claim now. Still I suspect there may be some level of exaggeration as to how common this is, but I could be wrong.
None of this is meant to say that I approve the prejudices that single Swedish Christian women may have against single Swedish men. I'm just trying to understand the phenomenon. Just on the basis of what I know about the situation in Finland, probably the vast majority of single Christian women who are serious about their faith would prefer a Christian man (all other things being equal). But they may be more open to dating non-Christians than in some other countries. As for women who are less serious about their faith but still identify as Christian, the partner's faith or lack thereof may be close to a non-issue but still most of them wouldn't actively prefer a non-Christian man, at least if they haven't had bad experiences dating Christian men.
