Why not go for it if you like him/her? Who should make the FLIGHT move?

[GreenNnice]

Well now, so you know them, they've shown you their picture, you showed the yours. You'ce talked on c.c. a few million posts, maybe , in the chatroom too.

So, what's REALLY stopping you from taking that next big step?

Keep in mind, girls often are poorer than you, guys, as, wage scales are unfortunately, different. So , if you got $800 worth of free Airlines miles why not spend $300 of them on a round-trip ticket to see someone you obviously know fairly well on c.c. and just let the Lord lead.

There is that website too to see if their photo is really REAL, if I really do look like Michael W. Smith



-too scared
-- too poor
--they need to come see me

 

[allforfun]

The internet is full of ax murders don't you know? They will become the next Jimmy Hoffa's. Or something.

 

[USNCorpsman76]

*cleaning ax*

oh...maybe I should do this later....


Haha jk but to the OP there was a guy that actually moved from Hawaii to Ohio to be with a girl friend he found on CC

 

[Jullianna]

A CC friend from Texas just married another CC friend from Scotland.

A canadian female attorney I knew from a law enforcement forum married a retired officer from Virginia a few years ago.

It does happen.

 

[Pheonix]

well If I were to find someone like that and I had the money, I wouldn't have any problem at all going to visit.

I have this rule you see, it goes somwthing like this:

If she lives more than two hours away by car, don't ask her to come to you, you go to her. If she chooses to travel to you however, that is her choice.

 

[Timofree]

Definitely not impossible, but the internet favours the world when it comes to relationships......

As a non Christian- yup she's fit, lets meet and find out if were right along the way.........
as a Christian- yes she's attractive, I would definitely prayerfully consider starting a monogomous relationship with her, possibly leading to marriage.

Fair play to anyone who can make it work, but for me, if possible, Id like to get to know someone in reality, over a longer period of time than a 2 week visit.
But not ruling it out, and when the time comes, on/offline it'll become clear

 

[seoulsearch]

I have a friend who met his future wife online, and she as on the other side of the world. They knew each other for... I think, 9 months? And he flew there to meet her and her family--was gone about 3 weeks. She later came here for about 3 weeks as well... They got married maybe 6 months later? And have been married for... something like 6 years and have a lovely family.

I flew to the other side of the States to meet someone on CC last year--but a female friend, obviously no romance involved!!

I try to be very open to the idea that God could have someone for me in another country, or at least, in another location... I would hope we could work something out as far as travel arrangements.

I had wanted to try to meet Nuke Pooch before he left the state, but alas... Someone must have warned him. He packed up and left before I could take him out for coffee!

 

[Matthew]

I'd definetly fly to meet someone from CC, it'd be a great adventure but sadly I have no money, otherwise I would've flown to see Kim many moons ago I know there are a lot of of success stories on CC of people pursuing friendships and relationships in person, I'd definetly give it a go.

 

[GreenNnice]

I have words for everyone , three of my favorite ones for some time now, and one extra..... The words are applicable to many things in life, and, certainly doing this 'flight' would be some application, for the guy, for the gal, who sees God's hand in changing their life in this fanciful (fancy?) way . Let Him lead.

The Lord leads.

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Ok, this other stuff said too.

---Matthewdisciple, phoenixfire, don't let money stop you, don't let ANYTHING stop you, except God. And, a lot of times, God will say things are stopping you, like money, just listen closely to Him, especially IF you are content with your situation as that is the secret to understanding God's success for your life, but, be liistening, too, because when you least expect it could be when..... God says, You are ready, my child, for that flight.'

--allfunfor? I guess your favorite movie is not 'So I married an ax murderer.' ha-ha p.s. dont let unsaxman76 fly your way.

---timofreely? That's not possible to get to know someone from c.c. in reality, you MUST go Remember, the Lord leads. And, perhaps, He is just leading you to look closer to home.

--julieannie, seoulsearcher? It could happen to you, too. Think that lottery movie, except instead of a lottery ticket wtih Bridget Fonda and Nick Cage, it is a man. You just never know when it could.

Fortunately, you don't need to know, He knows. Everything. Best. For you.

 

[seoulsearch]

I'd definetly fly to meet someone from CC, it'd be a great adventure but sadly I have no money, otherwise I would've flown to see Kim many moons ago I know there are a lot of of success stories on CC of people pursuing friendships and relationships in person, I'd definetly give it a go.

OOOUUUCCCCHHH!!! Matthew is threatening me!!! HA HA HA HA. I am just kidding!! I'm sure you'd have a great time watching me bore you to death.

LOL. HA! You know it'd be great to have an argument face-to-face instead of through email exchanges...

Who knows, maybe someday??!!! Money and time (off from work) are the biggest reasons I haven't met more people here in person.

Green, I totally understand what you're saying about not letting money stop you, but we have to be wise and discerning as well. If it were up to me, I'd go on a whim and rack up thousands of dollars worth of flights I couldn't afford... So, it's important to balance learning to go where God is leading us vs. our own impulses as well. God doesn't want us to be irresponsible, of course.

 

[princessbella]

if it was right and genuine deffintly money however would be an issue

 

[hyla05]

you are extremly right GREEN but sometime its hard to make that person believe in you
you may like him/her be you are so scared to tell the person because you don't know what the expecttaion will be be from that person you also dont know what the some person will think of you.
you know may may be scared of losing that person because of the way he/her may think of you,
you scared to get a hash answer or give a heart broken.

its hard siriously not that easy.

from the person wi

Well now, so you know them, they've shown you their picture, you showed the yours. You'ce talked on c.c. a few million posts, maybe , in the chatroom too.

So, what's REALLY stopping you from taking that next big step?

Keep in mind, girls often are poorer than you, guys, as, wage scales are unfortunately, different. So , if you got $800 worth of free Airlines miles why not spend $300 of them on a round-trip ticket to see someone you obviously know fairly well on c.c. and just let the Lord lead.

There is that website too to see if their photo is really REAL, if I really do look like Michael W. Smith



-too scared
-- too poor
--they need to come see me

 

[iraasuup]

Well now, so you know them, they've shown you their picture, you showed the yours. You'ce talked on c.c. a few million posts, maybe , in the chatroom too.

So, what's REALLY stopping you from taking that next big step?

Keep in mind, girls often are poorer than you, guys, as, wage scales are unfortunately, different. So , if you got $800 worth of free Airlines miles why not spend $300 of them on a round-trip ticket to see someone you obviously know fairly well on c.c. and just let the Lord lead.

There is that website too to see if their photo is really REAL, if I really do look like Michael W. Smith



-too scared
-- too poor
--they need to come see me

The thing that disturbs me the most about this post is the concept that in the US women are paid less then men? Is this actual fact?
Whatever happened to a level playing field?
Such a thing would NEVER occur here- it's against the law. It doesn't matter if you're male, female or indfferent- you are paid according to your skills, abilities etc under the legal award of the field in which you work.
Each industy has it's own 'award rates' which apply to it- Employess are paid accordingly. Then, relevant skills/ training/ experience are also taken into consideration. I am 6 years younger than my husband, and have obviously been working fewer years than he has, yet I actually earn more than him - simply due to the industry in which I work being a generally higher paid industry, and the fact that I have 14 years experience in a variety of sectors within that industry!

I simply cannot fathom this 'women are worth less then men attitude' still happening in the 21st century!

 

[allforfun]

The thing that disturbs me the most about this post is the concept that in the US women are paid less then men? Is this actual fact?
Whatever happened to a level playing field?
Such a thing would NEVER occur here- it's against the law. It doesn't matter if you're male, female or indfferent- you are paid according to your skills, abilities etc under the legal award of the field in which you work.
Each industy has it's own 'award rates' which apply to it- Employess are paid accordingly. Then, relevant skills/ training/ experience are also taken into consideration. I am 6 years younger than my husband, and have obviously been working fewer years than he has, yet I actually earn more than him - simply due to the industry in which I work being a generally higher paid industry, and the fact that I have 14 years experience in a variety of sectors within that industry!

I simply cannot fathom this 'women are worth less then men attitude' still happening in the 21st century!

Women on average make 60-70 cent to the dollar compared to a man. With the same skills, same experience. Happens every day. It is beyond frustrating at times. I work in a man predominated field and when clients have found out I am a female have blatantly stated they would have paid less for what I did for them. Having a mind and uterus is not an advantage over here.

 

[iraasuup]

Women on average make 60-70 cent to the dollar compared to a man. With the same skills, same experience. Happens every day. It is beyond frustrating at times. I work in a man predominated field and when clients have found out I am a female have blatantly stated they would have paid less for what I did for them. Having a mind and uterus is not an advantage over here.

I cannot believe that's not illegal over there! I'm seriously speechless!

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Well now, so you know them, they've shown you their picture, you showed the yours. You'ce talked on c.c. a few million posts, maybe , in the chatroom too.

So, what's REALLY stopping you from taking that next big step?

Keep in mind, girls often are poorer than you, guys, as, wage scales are unfortunately, different. So , if you got $800 worth of free Airlines miles why not spend $300 of them on a round-trip ticket to see someone you obviously know fairly well on c.c. and just let the Lord lead.

There is that website too to see if their photo is really REAL, if I really do look like Michael W. Smith



-too scared
-- too poor
--they need to come see me

I think it's just what Hyla said.

What if you tell him or her that you like them and he or she doesn't reciprocate the feelings back.
Then everything is awkward and you may have lost whatever friendship or relationship may have been forming because you came out with the... i like you..

That's a tough risk to take, especially if you really do like the person. There are so many what if's. I think that's what ultimately stops us from taking that step.

I guess a big question in my head is. How do you even know when you should take the first step? When is it even okay to tell him or her .. i like you....

 

[Jullianna]

I think it's great if you meet someone you care for online, but I do think you should take your time and get to really know someone first, just as you would if you met someone where you live. During that time you can set funds aside for your plane ticket. If things don't work out for whatever reason, you have wisely saved some cash.

I've met some guys online that I really liked and I thought it might grow into something, but it seems to get a little wierd at some point and we end up at the "just friends" stage. *shrugs* I don't know what the answer is to your question, Holly. *sigh* They clearly like you and you like them back...but it never gets past that. I dunno...

 

[Liamson]

I think it's just what Hyla said.

What if you tell him or her that you like them and he or she doesn't reciprocate the feelings back.
Then everything is awkward and you may have lost whatever friendship or relationship may have been forming because you came out with the... i like you..

That's a tough risk to take, especially if you really do like the person. There are so many what if's. I think that's what ultimately stops us from taking that step.

I guess a big question in my head is. How do you even know when you should take the first step? When is it even okay to tell him or her .. i like you....

I wish I knew the answer to this one too. Even in my own relationships, I'm usually the last to know. It will gradually progress from friendship into relationship and its not until I miss the person for a week that I realize how much they mean to me. That is when it becomes painfully obvious how deeply invested I have become.

I think it's great if you meet someone you care for online, but I do think you should take your time and get to really know someone first, just as you would if you met someone where you live. During that time you can set funds aside for your plane ticket. If things don't work out for whatever reason, you have wisely saved some cash.

I've met some guys online that I really liked and I thought it might grow into something, but it seems to get a little wierd at some point and we end up at the "just friends" stage. *shrugs* I don't know what the answer is to your question, Holly. *sigh* They clearly like you and you like them back...but it never gets past that. I dunno...

I think this has more to do with the idea of who someone is rather than the actual foundations of what a relationship is like with them. I've seen people that I deeply admire online but, I think there is a bit of a difference between having a way to build a good relationship with someone and really liking them. Honestly I don't know what the answer is to this either. I struggle enough with understanding the rules where I live, not to mention trying to figure out what is customary for someone I have never met.

 

[Pheonix]

Rules????

If there are rules, then us guys must not have gotten a copy. don't forget to include an index and a copy of the book explaining all the rules and contradictions please.

Some of us aren't telepathic.

 

[Jullianna]

I'm always lost on the rules thing too....