Worried about my type of mate

[DuchessAimee]

Physical preferences are an interesting thing. My favorite combination of looks are brown hair, brown eyes, tall, and not skinny.


Every boyfriend I've ever had has never fit this bill. All except one has been blonde, they've been blue/green/brown eyed, and a range of body types. It's the person inside who really matters.



I've seen MANY men who fit my physical favorite, but they've either been incompatible, taken, or most of the time... they'd open their mouths and I'd think to myself, "Man, why did you have to talk?!".




You are young and immature in many areas. I won't even lecture about the frontal lobes not being done developing. In my moderately professional opinion, you have no business being in a relationship until you do some growing up.

 

[Nautilus]

Maybe she is the one guys missing rip

 

[troubledgirl]

No, God doesn't have anyone planned for me. I know it. And He'll lead me to the one of my type. I cannot fall in love with a guy who has short hair. Short hair is overrated.

 

[lil_christian]

No, God doesn't have anyone planned for me. I know it. And He'll lead me to the one of my type. I cannot fall in love with a guy who has short hair. Short hair is overrated.

Goodness, girl friend. Hair is hair. I just can't see how someone can be like, "Sorry, I can't marry you...your hair isn't long enough." I mean, it's good to know what you want, but do you really know what you want? I mean, granted I'm a bit younger than you. But let's think about this for a moment. What are you REALLY wanting? Not even just talking about guys, but life in general. Sometimes your outlook and desires in life coincide with what you desire in a guy.

SO, before going dramatic and considering being a nun, think about those sorts of things. Think about your relationship with Jesus and what your true focus is.

 

[FireWire]

This thread is...ad nauseum

 

[Nautilus]

No, God doesn't have anyone planned for me. I know it. And He'll lead me to the one of my type. I cannot fall in love with a guy who has short hair. Short hair is overrated.

I hope you marry a guy with long hair who then immediately goes bald. Unfortunately, Im sure you'd divorce him then, because you just simply seem that shallow and superficial.

 

[ChandlerFan]

I don't like to accuse people of being trolls hastily, but this one is definitely leaning into troll territory...

 

[Cairparavel]

There are a lot of people in the world. There are a lot of christian goth/metalhead guys around. No one's judging you, at least not yet.

I will say this, you're not going to get together with anyone or marry anyone who you are not physically attracted to. Physical attraction is big with me, why would God want you with someone who just didn't look that good to you? It just doesn't make sense. You're still pretty young, this look may be attractive to you now, but it also my change in the future, who knows. Either way, don't worry too much about it.

I did. I married someone i'm not really attracted to. I haven't from the start and its been 15 long years. Along with his wretched temper... But I don't want to go into my desperate reasons for getting married. Long story. But you get used it. Females I think are a lot less judgemental of outward appearance and can handle being married to someone they aren't very attracted to. You learn to deal with your choices - marriage is until death. Divorce should never be an option, so choose wisely and don't make a lifechanging mistake.

But true joy doesn't come from a spouse anyway. It comes from God...no matter how cute or attractive your spouse might be in the beginning, what happens when they become disfigured or paralyzed from a car accident? What if they lose limbs, or they become a burn victim? You still need to remain faithful no matter how ugly they might get. You need to look at their heart and spirit before choosing a mate, because in the end they might be the one being your caregiver after a horrific accident happens to you and you are confined to a wheelchair, for example. Attractiveness might work for the honeymoon, but not for the long haul. Just my 2 cents!

 

[Oncefallen]

All I can say is that after reading through 5 pages of this thread I can assure everyone that the OP picked a very accurately describing nic.

 

[troubledgirl]

Seriously, stop calling me a troll because I am NOT! I have some emotional problems but I am not a troll. You better apologize me for calling me a troll.

Also, don't listen to anybody who says that I am a troll because I am not a troll.

And also, I just cannot fall in love with a guy who has short hair because it's not so charming and romantic...

And I don't like people who act like Mad Hatters because they hurt my feelings with their pranks, stupid jokes, continuous partying, and too wild behavior. So that's why I want my type of guy to be very peaceful.

 

[troubledgirl]

I don't like to accuse people of being trolls hastily, but this one is definitely leaning into troll territory...

I am not a troll. Apologize me for calling me a troll. I am serious and honest all the time.

 

[troubledgirl]

And please, stop saying that God will give me a weird surprise guy who is not my type or someone other who is not my type because I don't want.

And because you say such thing, are you actually meaning that there are no guys of my type who are single then? The ones of my type who are single are atheists or from other religions?

I am also very jealous when I see guys of my type being with girls. Why can the other girls have guys of their type and not me?

 

[secularhermit]

Just I saw this: "And also, I just cannot fall in love with a guy who has short hair because it's not so charming and romantic..."

It seems selfish! You expect too many things...

Hope she finds you the way you are! They also have too many dreams unachieved (yet).

 

[Tintin]

Grow up, seriously! People have offered helpful, godly advice and you don't want anything to do with them. You don't listen. You just want to do your own thing. And then you whinge and whine about the same old thing. No wonder you're troubled. Good gravy! I'm off this boat. Too much Mad Hatter behaviour here!

 

[troubledgirl]

Grow up, seriously! People have offered helpful, godly advice and you don't want anything to do with them. You don't listen. You just want to do your own thing. And then you whinge and whine about the same old thing. No wonder you're troubled. Good gravy! I'm off this boat. Too much Mad Hatter behaviour here!

No. I am not the Mad Hatter. The Mad Hatter person is the one who parties all the time, acts too wild kind of like ADHD, plays pranks on me and other people while I hate pranks, and then tells a joke or jokes in the way that I go like "OH MY GOODNESS! REALLY? WHAT CAN I DO NOW, HALP!?". I want a guy with black long hair who will be really peaceful and who will never play pranks and only rarely joke but not joke in the way that I get scared and offended and who only goes to parties in certain occasions and not all the time and who is very calm and not a wild person that seems like ADHD. Yes, I want a guy who is exactly like the knave of Hearts, but a nice one, and not an evil one.

 

[MissCris]

No. I am not the Mad Hatter. The Mad Hatter person is the one who parties all the time, acts too wild kind of like ADHD, plays pranks on me and other people while I hate pranks, and then tells a joke or jokes in the way that I go like "OH MY GOODNESS! REALLY? WHAT CAN I DO NOW, HALP!?". I want a guy with black long hair who will be really peaceful and who will never play pranks and only rarely joke but not joke in the way that I get scared and offended and who only goes to parties in certain occasions and not all the time and who is very calm and not a wild person that seems like ADHD. Yes, I want a guy who is exactly like the knave of Hearts, but a nice one, and not an evil one.

Maybe you'd have better luck finding this Dream Guy if you logged off your computer and went outside.

 

[troubledgirl]

Maybe you'd have better luck finding this Dream Guy if you logged off your computer and went outside.

Sure. And I will also ask God to send me my type of guy and I swear that He will because I will reject every guy who is not my type...

 

[BugeyeSTi]

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[troubledgirl]

If "god" would give you a wacko, a monster, etc., He is pretty sure you would be divorced BEFORE YOU´VE GOT MARRIED... Obvious, young girl, you don´t trust He loves you the way you want to be loved.

Just give "them" the chance to think the same way the NORMALLY think. Be of shape, be loyal enough, NEVER do what "Bella" did with Jacob (Twinlight movies) and be sure enough you would never be cheated on (never you would fool another when a KEN man comes to you).

He will give YOU the best, I hope you grow OLD to give him, the one GOD could pick for you, the best.

The best who Gould would give me is the one who is my type. I will never be interested in any other type of guy...

 

[troubledgirl]

Also, I am already listening to your advice, but I don't believe God chooses the spouse for me because I don't want to. And also, God choosing the spouse=soulmate theory.

I will NEVER be with someone who is not my type. Ew.