Would you date someone who's got a terminal or mental disease?

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cinder

cinder

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Well any kind of serious lifelong illness or disability (mental or physical) would definitely make me proceed with caution. I'm pretty sure I'd have it in me to be the friend who stuck by a friend through such junk even to the point of putting dating anyone else on hold (just because I'm like that), but that doesn't mean I'd date them.

A more complete answer would probably involve me asking questions like why would I date or marry someone in the first place; what is the purpose of getting married; how do I determine when I'm loving with the love of God and when I'm trying to be the savior for someone who is hurting, what is the difference between dating and devoted friendship anyway, etc. and that would take several months or years or possibly decades.
 
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Crazydude

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Here is as a question for people to think about, what if you were with someone say married or about to get married who then got a mental illness or a life threatning disease or in a car crash which crippled them or like the story behind ALS ice bucket challenge, (despite ALSA if you agree with it or not with them doing bad things with the money and their research is done on Child embryos, aborted babies and animals etc)
But the guy who started it saw the challange being done for other charities and decided to do it for ALS, as it was something that he had who was engaged when they found out he had ALS but she stayed with him got married and looks after him as well as having a kid on the way
So would you stay or go if someone you were engaged to or married to had developed one of these issues??
"through sickness and through health"........

I know after watching the story only recently on the ALS guy it really made me think about that question, so it was timely that i just saw this post.
 
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Aya2011

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Crazydude said:
Here is as a question for people to think about, what if you were with someone say married or about to get married who then got a mental illness or a life threatning disease or in a car crash which crippled them or like the story behind ALS ice bucket challenge, (despite ALSA if you agree with it or not with them doing bad things with the money and their research is done on Child embryos, aborted babies and animals etc)
But the guy who started it saw the challange being done for other charities and decided to do it for ALS, as it was something that he had who was engaged when they found out he had ALS but she stayed with him got married and looks after him as well as having a kid on the way
So would you stay or go if someone you were engaged to or married to had developed one of these issues??
"through sickness and through health"........

I know after watching the story only recently on the ALS guy it really made me think about that question, so it was timely that i just saw this post.
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But prior to getting married would you say "yes" to it?
 
secularhermit

secularhermit

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Not to mention he is handsome too...:)

He is a perfect example of having a broken body or incomplete body but his spirit is whole and so inspired.
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Honestly? I wish I knew how many would try anything like that, cause WE here see the point of the iceberg... What about Steve Reeves or socially handicaped ones?

I have read several novel-testimonies and that life is less easy than "normal" life, that of us who are wholy and complete.
 
Descyple

Descyple

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I have a disease that is both terminal and mental - it's called "Manhood", and yet women still date me anyway.

Thank God for charity!!!
 
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biscuit

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Aya2011 said:
Like if a person has cancer, AIDS, multiple sclerosis, etc.

I'm not sending out some kind of negative tone here, I just wanna know what's your take on this matter.
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Aya,

There a Christian movie that you can watch on YouTube titled "A Walk to Remember" that covers just about everything discussed here. It is about one hour & forty minutes long. Worth watching.
 
IDEAtor

IDEAtor

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That is a good question. No single quality should determine a relationship's beginning, or that is how it could end.
 
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arwen-undomiel

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I think it would be on a guy to guy basis.
But I think an STD is where I would draw a line. I just fear for my own protection. I know it may of not been even the guy's fault either :( Its hard to say. It would make me uncomfortable :(

Some mental illnesses like Schizophrenia and anything Psychotic I would be very apprehensive about. My uncle had schizophrenia when he was alive, and seeing him in that state, I couldn't do it. Also Borderline Personality Disorder, plus it is often difficult to treat.


And I also agree with Ugly.
 
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