what a kettle of fish that can be.
in a previous life, i was all about what i considered "innocent" dating. i figured that there was nothing wrong with taking the fast food approach toward meeting and getting to know somebody in a very respectful way. i had it all sorted out in my head that if i was upfront about being a christian, that naturally, i would meet men who identify themselves in such a manner because they would have similarly honorable and good intentions.
what i found is that christian is a label that became so worthless to those that bandied it about and i stopped using it for awhile and substituted "christ-follower". many so-called christians have enough jargon down that they can pull it off for a bit, between the "getting to know you" discussion (and in some cases un/willing suspension of disbelief).
the problem is that even when you have it worked out in your head and understand what your goals are, you can't be sure that the other one is on the same page. for over 6 months this guy i went out with twice and talked to on the phone a couple times with responded to my (very kind and sincere) rejection with stalking me, including coming to my church and sitting behind me, following me online and called me so much i had to change my number, not to mention casually driving by my house at all hours, and he was one of the more innocuous of the "nightmare guys".
eventually i learned to be far more clear about my specific requirements, and to do a better job of vetting candidates before allowing them to consider that we were doing anything that resembles a "date". i also rethought things, and learned to date a bit differently as well. i am still quite naive and optimistic about much, but all i can say is that the best i hope for with non-christian guys are friendship, and even then one has to be very mindful of that.