Would you...

[CatHerder]

...leave CC if you got into a relationship?

In my 1 1/2 years in CC, mostly in the Singles Forum, I have seen many come and go. Some find a partner and disappear, only to return when the relationship fails. Others have a boyfriend or girlfriend and still stay. We even have a couple of married folk who have the Singles Forum as their CC "home" (and I am glad they are here!).

My question is this:

If you were in a relationship, would you ditch CC in its entirety? Would you hang out in Miscellaneous or another part of CC? Would you still frequent the Singles forums? Would you feel comfortable doing so?

This is my first attempt at making a poll, so....we will just see how that goes.

 

[MissCris]

Bet nobody can guess which option I chose.












































Boo-yah!

 

[blue_ladybug]

...leave CC if you got into a relationship?

In my 1 1/2 years in CC, mostly in the Singles Forum, I have seen many come and go. Some find a partner and disappear, only to return when the relationship fails. Others have a boyfriend or girlfriend and still stay. We even have a couple of married folk who have the Singles Forum as their CC "home" (and I am glad they are here!).

My question is this:

If you were in a relationship, would you ditch CC in its entirety? Would you hang out in Miscellaneous or another part of CC? Would you still frequent the Singles forums? Would you feel comfortable doing so?

This is my first attempt at making a poll, so....we will just see how that goes.

​Good poll, CatHerder..I just cast my vote..lol.. I probably would most likely stay on CC, but not in singles forum..

 

[Loveneverfails]

There's simply no place on CC like the singles forum. I understand why married folks would want to stay here, and I'm glad they do.

 

[CatHerder]

I agree! If I got married, though, I would still be on CC, but probably not the singles forum. I think its different for a married man than a married woman. Double standards suck!

 

[Loveneverfails]

I agree! If I got married, though, I would still be on CC, but probably not the singles forum. I think its different for a married man than a married woman. Double standards suck!

I've never thought about that before... What if your wife was okay with you hangin' with your CC singles forum peeps?

 

[Ho11y]

I would not!



but seriously... what is a relationship??

 

[cinder]

I'm going to refrain from voting because I'm really not sure. I enjoy being around the singles forum, but part of that is interacting with people who are in a similar situation in life, can encourage me to stick to my convictions, etc. So if I got married then my life situation would change and the stuff I'd be facing would probably not be as relevant to singles. Still I like giving advice and stuff and would have had a lot of years of singleness experience to be giving advice on. So I really don't know. But as my relationship horizon is still pretty empty, you guys are stuck with me for a while it would seem

 

[CatHerder]

I'm going to refrain from voting because I'm really not sure. I enjoy being around the singles forum, but part of that is interacting with people who are in a similar situation in life, can encourage me to stick to my convictions, etc. So if I got married then my life situation would change and the stuff I'd be facing would probably not be as relevant to singles. Still I like giving advice and stuff and would have had a lot of years of singleness experience to be giving advice on. So I really don't know. But as my relationship horizon is still pretty empty, you guys are stuck with me for a while it would seem

and we're so happy to be stuck with you.

 

[Tintin]

I would say, even though I'm in a relationship, I currently have no plans to leave CC - the Singles Forum or any other part. I love you guys! You've supported me, challenged me, encouraged me, laughed with me, prayed with me etc. Besides, I wouldn't even be in a relationship right now without CC (and of course, our God). Sometimes life does gets really busy though, so I can't promise that I'll always be here. If I do get married, and I hope I do, I would still aim to stay on CC, even in the Singles Forum (you guys are family) but I'd probably have something in my signature that said I was unavailable because I was married. That would put paid to any misunderstandings or awkwardness.

 

[Tintin]

I've never thought about that before... What if your wife was okay with you hangin' with your CC singles forum peeps?

Or you even met your wife on CC in the Singles Forum?

 

[gypsygirl]

i really don't know, to be honest. this is really kind of an unusual chapter in my life, and cc has fit well into it, largely because of that.

while i've been a blogger in the past, and been part of online communities, this is the first time i've been part of an online christian community, and have come to appreciate the value of what it has brought to my life, especially during this chapter/season. when i found cc, it was at a time that was sort of a perfect storm of need and opportunity. and i'm grateful i was led here.

while i don't think i'd disappear entirely... a number of you would no longer be privvy to the details of what i'm having for dinner. ; p

 

[wisebeardman]

wots a relationship?

 

[tourist]

When I am married my wife and I will continue to reside at CC as this site is an important facet of our life. We both plan on frequenting the singles forum as that is where all the fun threads are.

 

[zeroturbulence]

wots a relationship?

It's this.....

 

[tourist]

Or you even met your wife on CC in the Singles Forum?

It is where I met my future wife.

 

[wisebeardman]

It's this.....

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what is this I don't even

 

[Tintin]

It is where I met my future wife.

Yes, Tourist, we're quite aware.

 

[seoulsearch]

For me, it would all depend on the situation. A relationship and married life would bring new responsibilities and sometimes I feel overwhelmed with the ones I already have! And, seeing as I've been single for a long, LONG time, I kind of doubt my situation will change anytime soon.

I really enjoy the company of many of our married folks here and hope they'll stick with us. Plus, the current married crowd we have here is really understanding and teaches us a lot without talking down to us, which I greatly appreciate. I've been on this site since 2009 and there have been several people who appointed themselves "marriage experts" who regularly gave "lectures" even when they weren't asked for.

I sincerely hope those who are getting married will at least come back and visit us now and then in order to tell us what married life is REALLY like, because I'm a long-term thinker and it doesn't look like I'm going anywhere for now. While I enjoy watching people in the beginning stages of love, I'm even more interested in the time that passes after all the butterflies and romance.

If something changes, will people be able to tell us honestly what's going on? If they're unhappy, or feel they've made the wrong choice, or are struggling, separated, etc., will they share with us how they are getting through? I want to know what happens when you've been together 5, 10, 15, 20, 30 years, have gained 35 pounds, now have 3 children, are nursing a sick family member or even your spouse, are raising your own grandchildren... and are completely, utterly exhausted. I want to know what it's like when you feel you're pushed to the brink and can't go on another day. I want to hear what your prayers are like during those times.

I don't want to be let in on just the good times when people are anxious to share. I need a balance, so if all the chips should fall, I need to hear about that, too. Maybe even more so than about the good times, because the fairy tale stage only lasts for so long.

I need to know how to endure/survive/thrive throughout the rest of life.

 

[violakat]

Yes, This ^^^