Your tipping point
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I've gotta share what happened last night at Olive Garden. The waitress was really sweet. She asked if we wanted grated cheese on our soup and salad the first time she brought it, but each time after that she added it without before even bringing it out since she knew we liked it. She also brought a fresh salad refill out before we really needed it, which I appreciated.
So that was my tipping point. I put a nice tip on the check, and wrote a personal note telling her how great she was, and drew a little heart and signed it. Dorky, I know. Ha.
She came back to the table later, pulled out a chair and sat down. She said she had to tell us something. She thanked me for the note and told me that the encouragement was so needed because she was having a hard day. She had just lost her newborn preemie baby a month before, and had just returned to work. She was grieving so much, and my note was like a gift to her. I of course started to cry along with her, and hugged her, and I plan to send her a small token to remember her baby by.
It really emphasized to me how much these little things can mean to the people who receive them. God can use us to bless others who are going through things we don't even know about.
So that was my tipping point. I put a nice tip on the check, and wrote a personal note telling her how great she was, and drew a little heart and signed it. Dorky, I know. Ha.
She came back to the table later, pulled out a chair and sat down. She said she had to tell us something. She thanked me for the note and told me that the encouragement was so needed because she was having a hard day. She had just lost her newborn preemie baby a month before, and had just returned to work. She was grieving so much, and my note was like a gift to her. I of course started to cry along with her, and hugged her, and I plan to send her a small token to remember her baby by.
It really emphasized to me how much these little things can mean to the people who receive them. God can use us to bless others who are going through things we don't even know about.
**Crap I derailed Catherders thread ..what to do...think of creative way to incorporate tipping before he sees it****
achemmm ..Why yes Mailman, I often tip my friends when they go out of their way to have Sumatra coffee at their house for me when I come to visit.
**CWS smiles..that was a great save**
achemmm ..Why yes Mailman, I often tip my friends when they go out of their way to have Sumatra coffee at their house for me when I come to visit.
**CWS smiles..that was a great save**
I'm not a great fan of "going out for coffee" ( just doesn't make sense, I can brew a whole pot for a fraction of what they charge for just one cup) but from what I hear Caribou Coffee makes a good cup. Likewise if your part of the country is anything like mine you probably have at least one locally owned coffee house mini chain.
I never understood this, I mean how does something like this become law? I grew up in So Cal and in my late teens worked in a gas station and there we routinely got Oregon tourists (they have the same law) pulling up and sitting at the pump honking their horn because no one was helping them. The more humorous part is that we still had a "full service" island that was clearly marked but they would pull up to the (also clearly marked) "self service" island.
I never understood this, I mean how does something like this become law? I grew up in So Cal and in my late teens worked in a gas station and there we routinely got Oregon tourists (they have the same law) pulling up and sitting at the pump honking their horn because no one was helping them. The more humorous part is that we still had a "full service" island that was clearly marked but they would pull up to the (also clearly marked) "self service" island.
...further derails thread...
Oregon has gas attendants to create jobs. Plus? RAIN, people.
Caribou coffee is burnt. Starbucks is mediocre at best. Folgers is so old and dried out....as is most grocery preground coffee. Find a local roaster and buy your beans 1x/week. (Can you tell that the booth next to mine is a coffee roaster?)
...goes back on topic...
Utah, they let you tip the gas attendant? They refuse tips when I try here. (But the offer usually gets my windshield washed.)
Oregon has gas attendants to create jobs. Plus? RAIN, people.
Caribou coffee is burnt. Starbucks is mediocre at best. Folgers is so old and dried out....as is most grocery preground coffee. Find a local roaster and buy your beans 1x/week. (Can you tell that the booth next to mine is a coffee roaster?)
...goes back on topic...
Utah, they let you tip the gas attendant? They refuse tips when I try here. (But the offer usually gets my windshield washed.)
*Pops in with a quick tip.*
If you try to tip someone and they politely say "no thank you" (such as the kid who takes your groceries to the car), they might be following store policy and could possibly get in trouble if they accepted.
I have worked in stores where you could get fired for taking money from a customer. It was store policy that employees were not to accept tips because the store wanted to be known as offering services like carry-outs as a free perk (setting us apart from the competition.) Now, there could be some exceptions. There were many instances in which a customer would bring someone a Christmas card and slip money into it--that was considered a personal exchange and allowed.
But otherwise... I love people's generous hearts and am a good tipper myself... But if you ever come across someone who refuses a tip, it's because it might be risking their job (I had a very sweet lady once give me all her extra change after buying groceries... When I politely said thank you but that I couldn't accept it, she left it on the counter for me.)
I had to get a manager, tell them what happened, and show them as I put it in the drawer, because any "tip" money would simply go to the store at their discretion. Had I taken it myself, I would have possibly lost my job.
If you really want to tip someone at a place that isn't known for tipping (I'm thinking of grocery and retail stores, where I've primarily worked), checking with store policy first (and a manager at that) is always best. Some stores will simply or record an employee taking money from someone and putting it in their pocket, and it could all go downhill from there.
If you try to tip someone and they politely say "no thank you" (such as the kid who takes your groceries to the car), they might be following store policy and could possibly get in trouble if they accepted.
I have worked in stores where you could get fired for taking money from a customer. It was store policy that employees were not to accept tips because the store wanted to be known as offering services like carry-outs as a free perk (setting us apart from the competition.) Now, there could be some exceptions. There were many instances in which a customer would bring someone a Christmas card and slip money into it--that was considered a personal exchange and allowed.
But otherwise... I love people's generous hearts and am a good tipper myself... But if you ever come across someone who refuses a tip, it's because it might be risking their job (I had a very sweet lady once give me all her extra change after buying groceries... When I politely said thank you but that I couldn't accept it, she left it on the counter for me.)
I had to get a manager, tell them what happened, and show them as I put it in the drawer, because any "tip" money would simply go to the store at their discretion. Had I taken it myself, I would have possibly lost my job.
If you really want to tip someone at a place that isn't known for tipping (I'm thinking of grocery and retail stores, where I've primarily worked), checking with store policy first (and a manager at that) is always best. Some stores will simply or record an employee taking money from someone and putting it in their pocket, and it could all go downhill from there.
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Hmm... asking the manager about it probably wouldn't be worthwhile unless you frequent that store.
And I share confusion about gas pumping. Here in TN we don't even have full service any more. In some states it is required? As in... not only is full service prevalent but you're not allowed to pump your own gas?
And I share confusion about gas pumping. Here in TN we don't even have full service any more. In some states it is required? As in... not only is full service prevalent but you're not allowed to pump your own gas?
Well, I usually have a lil coffee with my creamer anyways! lol
I used to grind my own. Maybe Ill get the beans next month instead of the huge container of folgers I get at costco.
I guess Ive trained myself to be frugal with things that arent a necessity. I do love my french vanilla creamer!!
I have pumped my own gas for decades. Ugh....
Here in Az it is rare to see a "full service gas station".
I do remember the days pulling in to a gas station and you hear the ding ding when you drive in.
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I went to a new hairdresser and before my second visit, he emailed me with links to some really cool video tutorials for me to experiment on my own - I tipped him above and beyond, because I felt like he genuinely cared about understanding what I wanted, and really made sure I was happy with his service, I wasn't just another transaction.
Yup. When I wrote my post, I was thinking of places people visit on a regular basis that might not have an obvious tipping policy.
The whole point of asking a manager about the tipping policy is because I've worked with employees who are dishonest and will take money from customers even though it's clearly against company rules. I worked with an older gentlemen (around 70) who was repeatedly caught taking money from our customers despite repeated reprimands. They eventually cut his hours drastically. He wasn't a good worker either (spending more time complaining than working), so customers weren't tipping him for quality of work. He had some other things going on in his life and so many people felt sorry for him. (He also had something like 11 children with 7 different mothers and was always trying to talk to our new, younger, female employees.) The company saw it as stealing, and I personally see it as stealing from the customer as well because taking money from them or telling them you can take it when you know you're not supposed to is lying to them.
I've really enjoyed the tipping stories shared here, and someone made an especially good point about tipping well so that a server won't see a single diner as a waste of time. I've always thought that as well.
Hellooo reminded me of stories about hairdressers who are worth a good tip. I have a problem with hairdressers not believing me when I try to tell them what works and what doesn't for my hair, and some of them decide to do their own thing (I give a "polite" tip--the going accepted percentage) and I quietly never go back. My hair isn't "typical Asian hair" at all and I've had some beauticians want to try some crazy things I knew wouldn't work.
I used to have a hairdresser who not only followed all my directions exactly for a perm: purple rods, wrapped as tightly as possible, and two full perm solutions--it took her almost an hour and a half to wrap my hair (I could tell she was wrapping it right because of how small the sections were and how long it took her) and the whole process lasted almost 3 hours. And this was at a little hole-in-the-wall salon out in the middle of nowhere. I've been to fancy salons where the stylists have special training and their perms on me fell flat within months (if they do it right, it lasts until my hair is cut off.)
So in other words... this gal was taking the time to follow my specific requests to a T. And for all that, she only charged me $65 (the "normal" going rate is at least twice that, often $150 for my length of hair, and I would have had to tip on top of that.) Not only was it the best perm I've ever had, she was actually SAVING me money in the long run AND a lot of hassle in my daily morning routine.
I gave her $100 and told her to keep the change. Someone like that was well worth every penny and then some. (Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find someone else as good since.) But if I do... I'll have that extra tip waiting.
The whole point of asking a manager about the tipping policy is because I've worked with employees who are dishonest and will take money from customers even though it's clearly against company rules. I worked with an older gentlemen (around 70) who was repeatedly caught taking money from our customers despite repeated reprimands. They eventually cut his hours drastically. He wasn't a good worker either (spending more time complaining than working), so customers weren't tipping him for quality of work. He had some other things going on in his life and so many people felt sorry for him. (He also had something like 11 children with 7 different mothers and was always trying to talk to our new, younger, female employees.) The company saw it as stealing, and I personally see it as stealing from the customer as well because taking money from them or telling them you can take it when you know you're not supposed to is lying to them.
I've really enjoyed the tipping stories shared here, and someone made an especially good point about tipping well so that a server won't see a single diner as a waste of time. I've always thought that as well.
Hellooo reminded me of stories about hairdressers who are worth a good tip. I have a problem with hairdressers not believing me when I try to tell them what works and what doesn't for my hair, and some of them decide to do their own thing (I give a "polite" tip--the going accepted percentage) and I quietly never go back. My hair isn't "typical Asian hair" at all and I've had some beauticians want to try some crazy things I knew wouldn't work.
I used to have a hairdresser who not only followed all my directions exactly for a perm: purple rods, wrapped as tightly as possible, and two full perm solutions--it took her almost an hour and a half to wrap my hair (I could tell she was wrapping it right because of how small the sections were and how long it took her) and the whole process lasted almost 3 hours. And this was at a little hole-in-the-wall salon out in the middle of nowhere. I've been to fancy salons where the stylists have special training and their perms on me fell flat within months (if they do it right, it lasts until my hair is cut off.)
So in other words... this gal was taking the time to follow my specific requests to a T. And for all that, she only charged me $65 (the "normal" going rate is at least twice that, often $150 for my length of hair, and I would have had to tip on top of that.) Not only was it the best perm I've ever had, she was actually SAVING me money in the long run AND a lot of hassle in my daily morning routine.
I gave her $100 and told her to keep the change. Someone like that was well worth every penny and then some. (Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find someone else as good since.) But if I do... I'll have that extra tip waiting.
This only expresses how silly and unfortunate that our 'threads' get so off kilter and course that it makes absolutely NO difference what comment we make, because the topic is so secular and having nothing to do with CHRIST and this website. I should really not have responded, because it is as usual, a total waste of time.