Best man in a gay wedding

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jameen

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Am I sinning if I allowed myself to be the best man in a gay wedding even I myself do not believe that both sexes should have romantic relationships?

Just for the sake for good camaraderie for my homosexual friend.
 

Demi777

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I dont know if your sinning but I wouldnt do it. Iwould have a bad conscience
 

Ahwatukee

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Hello Jameen,

I know that this is a sensitive subject, being that he is your friend, but I am being honest here.

I would say that by being his best man, the message you would be sending is that you support it and condone his practices. If your friend is one who does not recognize same-sex as a sin, then you know what the consequences will be according to God's word, right?

"In like manner, Sodom and Gomorrah and the cities around them, who indulged in sexual immorality and pursued strange flesh, are on display as an example of those who sustain the punishment of eternal fire."

"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
 

blue_ladybug

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I agree with Ahwatukee.. By being best man, you're showing your support for their lifestyle. Don't do it... Just be honest and tell them it goes against your beliefs.
 

RickyZ

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The best man is supposed to throw the bachelor party ... consider what that may entail for you ;)
 

Mel85

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Well, if you recognise that it’s a sin (homosexuality), then why would you go along with it?... I know it must be hard since that’s your best friend and all but you gotta ask yourself if this is right in your view or God’s view.

Personally, I wouldn’t do such thing, even if it were my own family - I fear God too much more than anything in this temporary world.
 

jameen

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I agree with Ahwatukee.. By being best man, you're showing your support for their lifestyle. Don't do it... Just be honest and tell them it goes against your beliefs.

Can't be my reason for being the best man is let the wicked become more wicked and the filthy to become more filthy as Jesus mentioned in Revelation Chapter 22?


I believe I can't simply change a homosexual for saying "Oh that's bad" "God only allows men and women to be couples" "you will be cursed and go to hell if you don't change"
 
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Can't be my reason for being the best man is let the wicked become more wicked and the filthy to become more filthy as Jesus mentioned in Revelation Chapter 22?


I believe I can't simply change a homosexual for saying "Oh that's bad" "God only allows men and women to be couples" "you will be cursed and go to hell if you don't change"
we as Christians are not told to let the wicked be more wicked and let the filthy be more filthy. that is not the correct meaning of that passage in context. we are called to preach the gospel of salvation and the forgiveness of sins through the blood of Christ Jesus. for me personally, i would not even attend such a wedding, let alone be the best man. to do so would be condoning such sin. the entire purpose of Christ coming was to condemn sin in the flesh and destroy it on the cross.

if you think that what your friend is doing is in wicked and filthy, and you really love your friend, why would you condone his sin? what if you stood firm in the faith and told him that you could not participate because of your faith, and it convicted him and lead him to repentance? likewise, what if you participating sent him the message that it was okay, and he did not repent and it lead to his condemnation?

loving someone is telling them the truth, even if they will hate us for it
 

LittleMermaid

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Am I sinning if I allowed myself to be the best man in a gay wedding even I myself do not believe that both sexes should have romantic relationships?

Just for the sake for good camaraderie for my homosexual friend.
This is a good question to ask because it's something that a lot of us are going through or will go through as the LGBTQ community grows. I don't know if it's right or wrong...but Jesus loves everybody. I'm sure if you did it...you'll be forgiven if it is a sin.
 

calibob

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i might stand as a wittness in court for them but not in the eyes of god, never
 

Ahwatukee

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This is a good question to ask because it's something that a lot of us are going through or will go through as the LGBTQ community grows. I don't know if it's right or wrong...but Jesus loves everybody. I'm sure if you did it...you'll be forgiven if it is a sin.
Hello LittleMermaid,

Yes, it is true that God is love, but His love does not override His righteous judgment, as He requires repentance. Since we are dealing with this issue, one who is living a same-sex life style needs to recognize it as sin and have a repentant heart towards it. Jesus did not shed His blood to allow us to go on willfully sinning, for we are supposed to be in the process of being transformed into His image. The true believer has a repentant heart regarding the sinful nature and is wrestling to overcome whatever impedes between him and God. In opposition, the one who is willfully living a same-sex life style is justifying and embracing his sin. Regarding those who approve of that sin or any sins of the sinful nature, Paul says the following:

"That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved."

"They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too."

By Jameen agreeing to be best man where these two men are getting married (however, not in God's eyes), would be encouraging, condoning and supporting that sexually immoral life style, which God refers to as detestable. How could he as a Christian rejoice and bid these two men good life, when he knows that by willfully continuing in that state it will lead both of them to condemning judgment in the lake of fire?
 

Miri

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Am I sinning if I allowed myself to be the best man in a gay wedding even I myself do not believe that both sexes should have romantic relationships?

Just for the sake for good camaraderie for my homosexual friend.

I’m curious does your friend know you are a Christian?

My brother is gay, he knows I’m a Christian, he knows I love him but
out of respect and love for me. He would never put me in such a position.
 

LittleMermaid

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This is a good question to ask because it's something that a lot of us are going through or will go through as the LGBTQ community grows. I don't know if it's right or wrong...but Jesus loves everybody. I'm sure if you did it...you'll be forgiven if it is a sin.
This was not one of my best answers. I apologize for that. I am kinda losing my mind because my grandma is on her deathbed right now. It's driving all of my family nuts.
But yeah...maybe it's not such a good idea to be involved in this type of wedding. God loves everyone of course...but if you are involved it wouldn't look good on you as a Christian.
 

tanakh

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From the little I know I'm surprised you were asked to be best man in the first place and he didn't ask a fellow gay instead. Even though he considers you to be a friend gays tend to keep to their own social circles.
 

calibob

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From the little I know I'm surprised you were asked to be best man in the first place and he didn't ask a fellow gay instead. Even though he considers you to be a friend gays tend to keep to their own social circles.
Oh!! what tough love. People are narrow minded and can't see there is a difference between secular marriage and christian. Being that a secular marriage dosn't involve a vow before God. Would it be any different if two athiests wanted to get married, by a magistrate, judge or J.P.?
 
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Ask yourself this are you hurting anyone by being a good friend? I totally support you doing it. I'm Catholic but I'm also a strong supporter of the LGBT because God made us all in his vision.
 

Ahwatukee

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Ask yourself this are you hurting anyone by being a good friend? I totally support you doing it. I'm Catholic but I'm also a strong supporter of the LGBT because God made us all in his vision.
Tell that to Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding cities. When being a good friend supports and condones sexually immorality, then one has to draw the line and stand with the word of God. In the book of Revelation in the letter to the Ephesians, Jesus commends them proclaiming their good qualities and then rebukes them for falling from their love for Him. Then He says, "but you have this in your favor, you hate the practices of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate. This was a group, just like with Balaam who taught Balak to entice the Israelites to commit sexual immorality. Therefore, what the Lord hates we should not support or condone, but believers should hate what the Lord hates. Now, that does not mean to hate them, but to warn them about the consequences of living that life style. To be clear, they have the freedom to continue living that life style, but the consequences are the same. Those who are willfully living according to the sinful nature will not inherit the kingdom of God.

That said, do you think that for Jameen to agree to be the best man at his gay friends wedding, where two men will be entering into the detestable practice of sexual immorality men with men, which the Lord hates, that Jameen will not be hurting anyone by his decision? First of all, by being present there as best man, he will be supporting and condoning that event, something the Lord hates, as well as taking part in contaminating the institution of marriage which God made only to be between a male and female.

"Have no fellowship with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them."

By agreeing to be best man, he would not be exposing that deed as belonging to darkness, but supporting and condoning it.

You are correct in that, God did make all of us in His likeness, but then came the fall. Now He urges all people to believe in His Son and repent of the sinful nature. What you are suggesting above is from a sinful-world point of view and not from a Godly one.

If you are a strong supporter of the LGBTQ, then being a Catholic will not save you, for you are siding with the enemy. I would advise you to seek God regarding this, repent and reevaluate your position regarding this, because this thinking is not from the Spirit of God, but from the evil one.

"In like manner, Sodom and Gomorrah and the cities around them, who indulged in sexual immorality and pursued strange flesh, are on display as an example of those who sustain the punishment of eternal fire. " Jude 6
 

Olivia123

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Am I sinning if I allowed myself to be the best man in a gay wedding even I myself do not believe that both sexes should have romantic relationships?

Just for the sake for good camaraderie for my homosexual friend.
Personally, as a person very strong in my faith, I believe love is love. God created us all for a reason and makes no mistakes. Because of this, I do not see an issue with you supporting your friend.
 

Olivia123

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Ask yourself this are you hurting anyone by being a good friend? I totally support you doing it. I'm Catholic but I'm also a strong supporter of the LGBT because God made us all in his vision.
I agree with you 100%. Christianity is about showing love and support, not judging other for who they decide to love.
 

Ahwatukee

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Personally, as a person very strong in my faith, I believe love is love. God created us all for a reason and makes no mistakes. Because of this, I do not see an issue with you supporting your friend.
"Love is Love" is a worldly viewpoint Olivia. According to the word of God, "He made them male and female and for this reason a man is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh."

God did not make men for men, nor women for women. When you support and condone such things you are just as guilty and will be held accountable unless you repent, because it is sin. When God created the angels, He made no mistakes, yet Satan in his pride because of his beauty sought to be like the most high God and thereby sinned. When God made mankind they were perfect, until they disobeyed by listening to Satan and through that one man sin entered into the world, for all have sinned.

Your view is definitely not from the Holy Spirit.