Feelings.

[DamaraXD]

I am starting to think that my personality is not that attractive...

I sometimes do not get jokes and sometimes can cross boarders, like asking too many questions.

I think it is because I love to learn and I love to communicate with people. I love to see how they became the people they are today.

I have been having trouble with some of the girls I room with in my college dormitory.

One of them used to be my roommate and she will literally just not talk to me. I have no idea why, but I get these little subliminal hints in class and such. (small college, so she is forced to see me)

For example, in class today our professor said "there are only eight of you in here and you all get along..." well I looked over and the two girls I dorm with were snickering.

Now this one girl that used to room with us got married and she has seen first hand the way both of these girls can act and she feels the same way, she doesn't know what she did or why they do not like her.
I have another friend that says she gets the same "vibes" from these specific two girls and that they ignore her for no apparent reason.

Apparently now they are getting along though, so I am curious if I just have one of those personalities that people do not enjoy having around?

I know most of you do not know me well enough to know if this is the case, but what causes a person to completely ignore someone for no reason at all?

I usually ignore it, but I really think I am just a dis-likeable person because I see it happening in other acquaintance-based friendships.
Is this a Christian thing?

It really bothers me, and it's stupid that I let it bother me, but I want to know what I am doing wrong.

"just ask her" yeah believe me I have tried lol it's hard to talk to someone who avoids you and everyone you talk to.

Just a side note to show what exactly is happening: one day this girl was talking to the professor and the professor stopped talking and I said "hey ... (her name) what was question five?" she acted like she did not hear me. I said it again, no response. I was closer to her than the professor...

Or one class literally it is just me and her and the professor. She will not even look at me. It's like I'm such a disgusting person she cannot even bare to see. If I make a comment about the assignment to the professor, the only way she will talk to me is indirectly by saying to the professor "yes it is on the syllabus"
lemme elaborate..
Me: Professor what day is such and such due?"
Professor: "It's on the 19th"
Her: "Yes because it's on the syllabus"

I will only receive indirect comments like that.. or am I just crazy?

 

[Huglife]

No your not crazy. Those girls are just mean and rude. Ignore them. They are not children of God if they treat you like that.
And always be yourself you are how the Lord made you:a buetiful, kind person who loves God

 

[PrynceNY]

The body of Christ accepts you as you are. You shouldn't blame yourself for the actions of others. Those girls may have allowed demonic spirts in their lives. Considering you are a christian those demonic spirts could be influencing them to act negatively towards you. God loves you for who you are & that is what ultimately matters.

 

[Ugly]

Sounds like some people are still in high school mode and haven't grown out of that mentality. This is a case of their behavior speaks more about them than it does about you.

I find you are one of the more enjoyable posters on the site. I saw you post yesterday and realized you hadn't been on for a while (or I have just been in less perhaps) and was happy to see you back on. You seem to be liked, generally speaking, on the site. So I think you're being hard on yourself

 

[Fenner]

You're not crazy, you're dealing with the mean girls. Sounds like you aren't the only one either. Are you currently living with them? If so is there any possibility of changing your living arrangements?

These girls obviously haven't matured above the age of 12 yet and avoid discussing anything with them when possible. If she answers for the Professor again say, excuse me but it's not polite to interrupt. This is what I say in a non confrontational or a non mean tone to the pre school kid's when they constantly interrupt. These ladies sound less mature than the Pre-Schoolers I work with everyday.

 

[Magenta]

They are jealous of you. Even if they completely ignore you, they cannot not hear you
if you speak right to them. You could say something like, I am not sure why you have
decided to act as if I do not exist, but I want you to know I have appreciated your
friendship while it lasted and am sorry if I ever did anything to hurt you. Then say
nothing else to them, seek nothing more from them, unless they initiate contact
to reconcile, but I would not expect it. They have their reasons which you may
never know nor understand, but not everything is given for us to understand.
Try not to take personally the things they have taken upon themselves.
Develop other friendships, and rejoice that you do not behave so hurtfully.

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and
remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may
become vain or bitter, for always there will be
greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble,
it's a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals, and
everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity
and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the
trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt
the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the
noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

 

[Marek]

Look, you seem pretty nice from the little that I've gleaned from you. But you're cool. I believe those two are like the previous posters said, high school mentality little... well I'm not gonna say the word. Usually when you get completely ignored like that, jealousy plays a big key in that. Not sure why or what they are jealous about, maybe they wish they had your personality. Don't let it bother you, ignore them back , do your studies and move on. They aren't worth it.

 

[DamaraXD]

Well you know we are not all perfect Christians, but it seems as though ever since first semester when I fell back on reading my bible, that is when she became kind of rude towards me and it has grown ever since.
I think it must be because I am not her type of Christian and do not act like it all the time

 

[Adstar]

Well you know we are not all perfect Christians, but it seems as though ever since first semester when I fell back on reading my bible, that is when she became kind of rude towards me and it has grown ever since.
I think it must be because I am not her type of Christian and do not act like it all the time

What "Type" of Christian is she? Is she a Christian? And has see seen you reading the Bible? ..

 

[Adstar]

I know i have been shunned by people once they found out i was a Christian..

 

[Magenta]

Well you know we are not all perfect Christians, but it seems as though ever since first semester when I fell back on reading my bible, that is when she became kind of rude towards me and it has grown ever since.
I think it must be because I am not her type of Christian and do not act like it all the time

The only perfect One is Jesus Christ, but even in the flesh, He denied being good. Besides, perfect in the way most people use it regarding Christians does not mean without flaw, but set aside for God. We have, however, entered into a process of sanctification. We have been called out of the world. Your former friends are acting in very worldly ways. Are you sure they are Christians? Being brought up in a Christian family does not automatically make one Christian. There are those who are religious but lost. Religion is a harsh mistress.

 

[tourist]

You are not dislikeable at all. Try writing more frequently on CC to integrate into the community so at least you will have support and comfort from the members of this site. Life is a struggle at times and people can be cruel. These people need our prayers. Looking forward to your future posts. Be of good cheer because God loves you.

 

[Spiritualpixie]

If you happen to be prettier than the norm and have an intelligent brain as well.... I am afraid it's because of jealousy, as for you personality.....Looking to others to accept you will only make you depressed. So stop doing it....Like yourself First......And yes, turn the other cheek.....

 

[Spiritualpixie]

If you happen to be prettier than the norm and have an intelligent brain as well.... I am afraid it's because of jealousy, as for you personality.....Looking to others to accept you will only make you depressed. So stop doing it....Like yourself First......And yes, turn the other cheek.....

 

[DamaraXD]

I don't think I'm pretty haha

 

[Roughsoul1991]

If God created you in his image then what does that say about how you look. God did not make a mistake? I do not believe God makes mistakes so you are here on this planet earth for one purpose to bring God glory.

If I was you I wouldn't care what others think. Live for God the best way you can and never let somebody rule over your life other than God. I try to explain to my wife all the time that she has the keys to having a good day. But she lets sometimes one rude comment bother her all day. I explain that do they force you to feel this way? Or do you allow them to make you feel this way? It's all a choice, Choose to be happy or choose to let it bother you. Obviously, yes people do hurtful things and its okay to be sad sometimes but just remember the world is a sad place. So be prepared to live everyday radiating God through the actions of your life. With so much darkness and despair in the world, people need a beacon of light to guide them back to the feet of Jesus. Be strong and ignore the girl with kindness and respect. And focus your attention elsewhere.

 

[DamaraXD]

If God created you in his image then what does that say about how you look. God did not make a mistake? I do not believe God makes mistakes so you are here on this planet earth for one purpose to bring God glory.

If I was you I wouldn't care what others think. Live for God the best way you can and never let somebody rule over your life other than God. I try to explain to my wife all the time that she has the keys to having a good day. But she lets sometimes one rude comment bother her all day. I explain that do they force you to feel this way? Or do you allow them to make you feel this way? It's all a choice, Choose to be happy or choose to let it bother you. Obviously, yes people do hurtful things and its okay to be sad sometimes but just remember the world is a sad place. So be prepared to live everyday radiating God through the actions of your life. With so much darkness and despair in the world, people need a beacon of light to guide them back to the feet of Jesus. Be strong and ignore the girl with kindness and respect. And focus your attention elsewhere.

Thank you! That helped a lot

 

[zeroturbulence]

Wow that is rough. They are being a couple of disrespectful little....(I can't say the word here).. Have you seen the movie Heathers? No, don't see that.. hmmmm... not sure what options you have here...

Ok I just read something that suggests that you should ask them if they are upset with you about something and if they say no, then tell them how the way they are treating you is making you feel.

Here's the link to what I read:
How to Deal With a Mean College Roommate | eHow

Hope that helps.

 

[Searching4Truth]

Yeah. I'm here just to raise my post count.

Feelings suck.

 

[psalms128]

jesus is the answer for you