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Good points.. But I do disagree with how you mention people being married and what no.. I'm not married and I have a son.. He now lives in a broken home because his mother and I were in such a hurry to rush things.. I speak from experience as to why these forewarnings are in place.. I've taken the wrong path and here I am..
I believe in doing what you feel is right.. In marriage or in the moment.. But, I also see now what my pastor used to say about the guidelines not being there to control your life.. It's an extremely good point.. I think it's a better taken point then saying "because it's a sin" etc etc etc..
If you're not going to wait for marriage.. at least think about it first outside of the "moment". If you choose to carry on with unwed sex, then yes, oral is probably a bit safe. Just remember STDs do exist as well..
I believe in doing what you feel is right.. In marriage or in the moment.. But, I also see now what my pastor used to say about the guidelines not being there to control your life.. It's an extremely good point.. I think it's a better taken point then saying "because it's a sin" etc etc etc..
If you're not going to wait for marriage.. at least think about it first outside of the "moment". If you choose to carry on with unwed sex, then yes, oral is probably a bit safe. Just remember STDs do exist as well..
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Ira I just want to say THANK YOU so much for saying that. I don't think I could have said it better myself.
As a Married woman I personally DO NOT see anything wrong with oral sex.
I find it funny for whoever said why would you lower yourself to do such a thing. I don't find having oral sex inside marriage to be lowering yourself. I mean are you implying that only women who don't respect themselves do such an act? Because honestly I can say that I respect myself very much to the point that my husband is the only person I have ever been with and it honestly kinda of makes me upset that someone would see it as lowering yourself or making yourself seem lower than your spouse. I feel that my husband and I are equal.
I think whatever goes on behind closed doors is just fine as long as the person your with is your spouse. Thats not saying you should bring others into ur bedroom because that would be commiting adultry but if its between u and ur husband that its fine.
I agree that sometimes you have to spice it up with your spouse so that its not boring. If I feel that doing something someone else may disagree with to keep my sex life exciting than I will do so. But that dosen't mean everyone has to do the same thing. Everyone has their own prefrences. There are things you will do inside a marriage that you may have said you would never do before just simply to try it. I mean seriously haven't you ever heard of the saying that says "don't knock it until you try it".
SO all in all my opinion is if ur married whatever you decided to do or not do behind closed doors with your spouse is just fine. To answer the original question you should not have oral sex outside of marriage because it is a sin outside of marriage.
Tisha
As a Married woman I personally DO NOT see anything wrong with oral sex.
I find it funny for whoever said why would you lower yourself to do such a thing. I don't find having oral sex inside marriage to be lowering yourself. I mean are you implying that only women who don't respect themselves do such an act? Because honestly I can say that I respect myself very much to the point that my husband is the only person I have ever been with and it honestly kinda of makes me upset that someone would see it as lowering yourself or making yourself seem lower than your spouse. I feel that my husband and I are equal.
I think whatever goes on behind closed doors is just fine as long as the person your with is your spouse. Thats not saying you should bring others into ur bedroom because that would be commiting adultry but if its between u and ur husband that its fine.
I agree that sometimes you have to spice it up with your spouse so that its not boring. If I feel that doing something someone else may disagree with to keep my sex life exciting than I will do so. But that dosen't mean everyone has to do the same thing. Everyone has their own prefrences. There are things you will do inside a marriage that you may have said you would never do before just simply to try it. I mean seriously haven't you ever heard of the saying that says "don't knock it until you try it".
SO all in all my opinion is if ur married whatever you decided to do or not do behind closed doors with your spouse is just fine. To answer the original question you should not have oral sex outside of marriage because it is a sin outside of marriage.
Tisha
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That scripture was totally taken out of context. Jesus wasnt talking about oral sex and you know it lol.
If anyone wants to seek answers regarding sex (and related activities) for pleasure then why are we ignoring the only book that purely answers this question? Is everyone here completely oblivious to a book called Song of songs?
The male writer in the song of songs is constantly refering to a womans sexual anatomy as a locked up fruit orchard. In chapter 4 it describes the wedding then the honeymoon night:
12 You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.13 Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard,14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices. 15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.
First he acknowledges her kept virginity, which she has saved for him as a closed up fountain. Then he describes her like shes his own personal brand of exotic fruit salad to eat. THEN, he says she is now a free flowing fountain (literally meaning that theyve just consumated their marriage).
Heres a couple of points Id like to make.
Song of songs like every other book of the bible is God breathed and motivated and therefore useful to learn from. Nowhere in this narrative does it mention at all this sexual intimacy as a means to procreate. Its all about fun that is 100% blessed by God in the context of marriage only.
Secondly, I could make a long list to the countless references to oral sex in this book. Oral sex I might add which was largely initiated by the man. Dont get me wrong they mention good ol regular intercourse enough times as well but Im just noting oral sex in this case. But if oral sex is mentioned in such a joyful positive way so often in a book of our very bible. Then who has the right to call it sexual immorality?
Virginity is not just about the physical act of intercourse. It about the fact that you have kept parts of your body hidden and kept safe for your future spouse. Having oral sex then claiming youve done nothing wrong and you havent lost your virginity is just plain manipulation. Marital intimacy is all about exploring. No one is going to have fun doing that if they know that person has been explored before. It just wont be the same..
If anyone wants to seek answers regarding sex (and related activities) for pleasure then why are we ignoring the only book that purely answers this question? Is everyone here completely oblivious to a book called Song of songs?
The male writer in the song of songs is constantly refering to a womans sexual anatomy as a locked up fruit orchard. In chapter 4 it describes the wedding then the honeymoon night:
12 You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.13 Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard,14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices. 15 You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.
First he acknowledges her kept virginity, which she has saved for him as a closed up fountain. Then he describes her like shes his own personal brand of exotic fruit salad to eat. THEN, he says she is now a free flowing fountain (literally meaning that theyve just consumated their marriage).
Heres a couple of points Id like to make.
Song of songs like every other book of the bible is God breathed and motivated and therefore useful to learn from. Nowhere in this narrative does it mention at all this sexual intimacy as a means to procreate. Its all about fun that is 100% blessed by God in the context of marriage only.
Secondly, I could make a long list to the countless references to oral sex in this book. Oral sex I might add which was largely initiated by the man. Dont get me wrong they mention good ol regular intercourse enough times as well but Im just noting oral sex in this case. But if oral sex is mentioned in such a joyful positive way so often in a book of our very bible. Then who has the right to call it sexual immorality?
Virginity is not just about the physical act of intercourse. It about the fact that you have kept parts of your body hidden and kept safe for your future spouse. Having oral sex then claiming youve done nothing wrong and you havent lost your virginity is just plain manipulation. Marital intimacy is all about exploring. No one is going to have fun doing that if they know that person has been explored before. It just wont be the same..
Hey guys,
I just want to make it clear from the get go that I am NOT interested in giving nor recieving oral sex, but this question is out of curiousity because I've been thinking about it alot.
I want to know the Christian perspective about having/doing it BEFORE marriage. I'm too shy to bring this question up at youth group, so i figured why not ask it here.
So many of my friends are talking about it, and it brought up the question in my head
"How wrong is it to do it before marriage?".
If someone could please answer this for me it would be great.
Thanks
JOB 19:25
I just want to make it clear from the get go that I am NOT interested in giving nor recieving oral sex, but this question is out of curiousity because I've been thinking about it alot.
I want to know the Christian perspective about having/doing it BEFORE marriage. I'm too shy to bring this question up at youth group, so i figured why not ask it here.
So many of my friends are talking about it, and it brought up the question in my head
"How wrong is it to do it before marriage?".
If someone could please answer this for me it would be great.
Thanks
JOB 19:25
those christians who think they are not engaging in sex because it is oral..are on the same BS plane that Clinton was on when he shook his finger at America and siad...."I never had sexual realtions with that woman!!" ..
hmmmphhh..yeah right Bill..cuz you didn't have "intercourse"..wow what a fine example you have been to our children...
the christains who tease each other sexually..but do not actually have sexual intercourse..are stil lplaying with fire..
I am a sinner in many wayz...I have come to learn from my experience with sin..
Sex is a beautiful gift..given to us by our maker..to create new life...in LOVE..
we humans have degraded this gift to the point...of
abomination and blasphemy..
The lord wants us to be in a close loving trustful relationship ..to share this precious gift...
sometimes things don't work out as planned and hoped though and many hearts have been broken through the marraige vows..
sometimes these hurts can be healed through prayer and forgiveness...
I am learning much still as I try and walk my christian walk...
sometimes I falter and stumble....trying to see what is good and what is not pleasing to God..
I thank the faithful for discerning prayers...
to help me understand the will of Jesus with a pure heart
L
I dont believe there is anything wrong with oral sex once married, but before marriage any kind of fornication is definately wrong including oral. I think the real issue is - is it LOVE? any kind of carnal perversitity is ungodly and lust is not from god, but Godly sexual desire for your husband/ wife is. Mutual giving and receiving in and out of the bedroom, serving one another in purity of mind and heart. You can really enjoy sex as a married couple and it can be very adventurous and exciting and really i think alot is ok, i would definately draw the line at anal sex though, as i think this is a perversion and usually is linked to ungodly experiences in childhood or ungodly use of sex before marriage that causes the desire for that kind of thing. As God purifies our hearts and motives and our intentions and as he heals us, then we will really know what it is like to be pure but ultimately whats wrong for one due to a weak conscience may be right for another whose conscience doesnt condemn him expressing himself in that way with his wife before God without defiling himself or her.
Oral Sex is not a sin, so be cautious not to lay burdens upon others.
Song 2:3
3 As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
KJV
Song 8:2
2 I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother's house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.
KJV
M
Paul says not even a HINT of LUST! i think thats more than a hint no? LoL. But as for oral sex after marriage, i dont find much wrong in that. Bible doesnt say anything about that. If anything the bible sort of encourages for husband and wife 2 pleasure eachother. As long as the couple does not put sex or in this case, oral sex, before prayer n relationship w/ God :] if i am wrong in any way here, plz let me know cuz i have a feeling i might not be 100% correct :]