Please help, I've sexually sinned against God.

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
S

shalomandme

Guest
#1
I've been keeping my virginity for a long time now and was successful for 20 years. But recently my desire to have sex has been so over powering. To the point where I masturbate. Although I do not ever put anything in my little lady. But yesterday I consciously sinned with a guy. We performed oral sex and although I was not penetrated I was fingered. I am so sorry about the explicit detail but I am absolutely devasted. I feel so bad! God has been giving me so much opportunities and I am so grateful but I just couldn't control how I felt any longer. The total horrific part is that I don't regret the intimacy I shared with my guy. I just don't think it was worth risking my entire salvation and almost guaranteeing my place in hell. I don't know what to do because I know I can't pick and choose scriptures to live by. I'm so sad I've lost my innocence this way. In my heart God knows I wanted to keep myself pure for my husband. :-( devesated soul. X x
 
Oct 12, 2013
481
0
0
#2
I've been keeping my virginity for a long time now and was successful for 20 years. But recently my desire to have sex has been so over powering. To the point where I masturbate. Although I do not ever put anything in my little lady. But yesterday I consciously sinned with a guy. We performed oral sex and although I was not penetrated I was fingered. I am so sorry about the explicit detail but I am absolutely devasted. I feel so bad! God has been giving me so much opportunities and I am so grateful but I just couldn't control how I felt any longer. The total horrific part is that I don't regret the intimacy I shared with my guy. I just don't think it was worth risking my entire salvation and almost guaranteeing my place in hell. I don't know what to do because I know I can't pick and choose scriptures to live by. I'm so sad I've lost my innocence this way. In my heart God knows I wanted to keep myself pure for my husband. :-( devesated soul. X x
You are not making sense. You say you don't regret the affair which means you are not repentive. So why the tears? Geez

Are you male or female? yOU SAID YOU DON'T PUT ANYTHING IN YOUR LITTLE LADY, THEN YOU SAID YOU WANTED TO KEEP YOURSELF PURE FOR YOUR HUSBAND ??????????????
 
Last edited:
A

AmmiAmmiel

Guest
#3
Dear sister,..

I can tell you that you are not alone. I have in the past consciously sinned in a sexual way as well. With a witch of all people,.. I will never forgive myself for that, although I know The Lord has. The devastating feelin of knowin I betrayed my faith to satisfy my lustful desires grieves me beyond comprehension. But I look at it this way, I thought I had the power to resist. My spirit was strong but my flesh was weak. So God made me understand what He meant when He gave those words to Paul. God crushed my spirit and made be humble before Him. For now I know how utterly helpless I really am. Cry out to The Lord and ask Him to assure you that it won't happen again. For me, the thing that currently keeps me from doing it again is the thought that it could lead to the concequence of death,.. God has a reason for allowing these things, His will is good. So there is a positive outcome for everything we fail in. We fail, God wins. He is sovereign and He takes care of His people. His way of disciplining us is righteous. We sin and He convicts and convinces us. The more the righteous conviction, the less we sin. The more it effects us, the more we learn not to do it again. So end it on this note: repent and He will bring you comfort[:

I truly hope and pray that The Holy Spirit speaks to you through these words. That He may be praised and glorified through me, His humble Bondservant.
 
Nov 30, 2012
2,396
26
0
#4
Sister in Christ,

Christ will and has forgiven you. Regret what you have done, but now look to the adulterous woman and the prostitute who washed Christ's feet with her tears. Christ did not look upon them with disgust, but love. Christ looks upon you and smiles for He sees the daughter He adores. You are still among us, and we will all stand before the Lord, glorified and perfected.
 
E

Exoaria

Guest
#5
Sister in Christ,

Christ will and has forgiven you. Regret what you have done, but now look to the adulterous woman and the prostitute who washed Christ's feet with her tears. Christ did not look upon them with disgust, but love. Christ looks upon you and smiles for He sees the daughter He adores. You are still among us, and we will all stand before the Lord, glorified and perfected.
Exactly this.

Isaiah 64:6
All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.

The word for filthy here is iddah which literally means menstruation cloth. Your best days, your abstaining from sin, your intimate time with God where you sit down with your Christian music and you've been good to everyone all week — to God it's like a dirty tampon. I'm not being filthy, it's in your Bible. Look it up and study it if you don't believe me. That's how disgusting all your righteous acts are to God apart from Christ.

Romans 5:1
Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.

You did not heave peace with God before you had this intimate sexual act because you were abstaining from sexual intimacy. That was not your core value. The only reason that you have been justified is by Christ and Christ alone. Your faith is the only thing that makes you righteous before God and your actions are like filthy, filthy rags.

Romans 5:19
For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners, so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous.

It was not your obedience to God's laws that made you righteous. It was never all the good things you did, it was never all the times that you 'rebuked those horrid thoughts' from your mind. There is only one thing that has made you righteous which is the obedience of Christ. To think that you can top the righteousness that has been imputed as a gift to you by abstaining from sexual sin is a thought that should be as far away from your mind as possible.

Romans 6:15
What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means! Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?

This is not a verse about behavioral modification. This is not saying "because you're a slave to righteousness, you now have to do righteous acts and stop sinning because Christ has gotten you off the hook."
This is either a real, living, breathing, supernatural gospel or a new age philosophy of religious values.

This is what I believe it's saying, in 1 John...

1 John 3:9
No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God.

You are the temple of the Holy Spirit. You're born of God's seed. Your righteous acts will never make you righteous, and it is by faith alone that you've been saved. But you have the Living God inside of you. 1 John 4:17 says that in this world you're basically another incarnation of Christ. What do you believe, that you're a sinner? Or that in this world you're exactly like Jesus?

This doesn't mean stop sinning. This means 0% try to stop sinning because you're born of God. This means realize who you are, find your identity, start to manifest that and see if you're still able to sin.
What is sin defined as? Transgression of a law. The only two laws we have are to believe and to love our neighbor. The more you get to know God, the more you'll see this. The more you'll look at yourself as opposed to 2 months ago and say... Wow, I really do have Jesus inside of me. The best part is that it's only uphill from here.

You are forever justified, righteous, and at peace with God through Jesus Christ and God was never counting anything you did or did not do against you. (2 Corinthians 5:17) You cannot violate that. No-one will ever snatch you out of His hand and He will never be angry at you again.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#6
So, Exoaria, are you essentially saying that you can't lose your salvation, even if you fornicate? That's what it sounds like you're saying. The Bible says to be holy as Christ is holy. No, we are not made righteous or saved by works, but faith without works is dead. If we could continue sinning and still go to heaven, there would be no purpose to the law or the Bible. Jesus could have redeemed us and that would be that.

Also, what of the Scriptures that talk about the grace of God and the belief that we should continue sinning so that grace abounds. That, as the Word says, is madness.

I don't know if you were essentially saying that it doesn't matter what you do in your post above or what you were saying. Could you sum up your post in a nutshell?
 
S

Snowflake85

Guest
#7
Is it just me or is mystdancer50 being very judgemental and not acting in accordance to what the bible teaches. I know what you are probably thinking I'm the one being judgemental, but it does say in the bible to judge those based on their fruits and I believe that fits under that category. God is love, not of condemnation and mystdancer should be ashamed of her actions.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#8
For the second time, and thank you for ganging up on me, which is very Christian*, I must say, my post was NOT DIRECTED AT THE OP. It was directed at the post above mine, the post by Exoaria and was strictly asking for clarification. Once again, read the post carefully before casting your judgments. And now you, too, shall be added to my blocked list. Send as many 'friends' as you want to against me. All you do is look bad.

*This is sarcasm.
 
J

Jesusismyrock

Guest
#9
Yep, what she said I completely disagree with(about mystdancer50)
You can sin less by making an effort but you can't come to a stop and never sin again unless Jesus returns before there is time for another sin. The reason God sent his son and that died was to wash away the sins. However doesn't mean deliberately sin because you are saved.

It must be hard, I'll pray for you shalomandme.
Plus mystdancer50, she said she doesn't regret it but doesn't mean she doesn't want to regret it.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#10
For the third time, I WAS NOT ADDRESSING THE ORIGINAL POST, people. Sheesh.
 
J

Jesusismyrock

Guest
#11
Mystdancer, sorry, by the time I had sent Miya post , yours hadn't registered as coming through
 
Sep 8, 2012
4,367
59
0
#12
Jesus forgives.
Did you say - "In my little lady?" - Is that what you claimed to say?
That's a stretch.
- Same ole', same ole'
- - All the chickens come home to roust.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#13
Thank you. I am so frustrated right now. I didn't say anything cruel to the OP. I specifically named the person I was speaking to in the post so there wouldn't be any confusion and suddenly I'm being ganged up on and confronted in PMs and on here. It's sad and ridiculous. I don't know how I can be any clearer that I wasn't addressing the OP. Sigh.
 
Sep 8, 2012
4,367
59
0
#14
Thank you. I am so frustrated right now. I didn't say anything cruel to the OP. I specifically named the person I was speaking to in the post so there wouldn't be any confusion and suddenly I'm being ganged up on and confronted in PMs and on here. It's sad and ridiculous. I don't know how I can be any clearer that I wasn't addressing the OP. Sigh.
No. I was referring to the so-called O.P.
She/he/it reffered to her privates as "My little lady"??? Really? Have you ever heard a woman, much less a young virgin, call her anatomy "my little lady" in public?
- I don't even think the most trodden upon porn actress would say that.
- Obvious catfish. - String 'em in bud.....don't worry, what goes around finds a way to come back around.
- - Honestly, I'm so tired of these fakes.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#15
No. I was referring to the so-called O.P.
She/he/it reffered to her privates as "My little lady"??? Really? Have you ever heard a woman, much less a young virgin, call her anatomy "my little lady" in public?
- I don't even think the most trodden upon porn actress would say that.
- Obvious catfish. - String 'em in bud.....don't worry, what goes around finds a way to come back around.
- - Honestly, I'm so tired of these fakes.
:) Sorry. I was thanking the person above your post, who apologized to me. I have had a PM sent to me and then other accusations here and I was getting frustrated, since I wasn't talking to the OP in my post. I think I may have to stay away from the young adults area. I have never been so attacked on here in all my time here, and I've posted really strong statements that the one I posted here doesn't even come close to.
 
A

AmmiAmmiel

Guest
#16
Why do self proclaiming "Christians" on this site always stray from genuine concern for the person in distress and bicker among themselves? Why can't you just put yourself in her position and stop thinking about yourselves?? I'm sure if this woman were to cast herself upon Christ's feet and confess to Him in your presence, you'd dare not say a word! This is no matter for arguing among yourselves about who said what,.. We are to follow Christ's example and show love. Not throw senseless words at each other that distract from the main topic that's being addressed. I for one, truly care for this girl and understand her grief. All you people are doing is making her feel worse by not showing genuine concern for her. When my spirit is distressed, I'm in need of attention that only The Holy Spirit can bring. If I were her, the spirit that some of you give off would certainly not be comforting. It's sad even then that I can sense this from a third person view. What if we all were together in person and she is crying her eyes out because of her sin. Would you still babble about? Because we are together in spirit, And should be trying to help her.

Shalomandme, feel free to message me about your situation if these people are bothering you.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#17
What is ironic is you could have emailed her something encouraging and uplifting rather than berating on the public forum. Essentially, you are doing the same thing you are accusing others of doing.
 
Sep 8, 2012
4,367
59
0
#18
Listen, no girl,....or middle aged woman, or prostitute would go on a public site and name her private region "my little girl".
Especially while asking for prayer.
- It's not a girl. You've been catfished.
 

mystdancer50

Senior Member
Feb 26, 2012
2,522
50
48
#19
The way this thread is going, I personally think it should just be closed. Seems to have a sort of attack spirit on it, you know what I mean? Either that, or I'm really tired.
 
Dec 21, 2012
2,982
40
0
#20
1 Cor 13:12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

kid_troll.jpg