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sevenseas

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Hi all. I am a 61 year old male and have struggled with porn since I was 12. What started out as a curiosity soon became an addiction to seeing the images and masturbating to them. I continue to this day and have struggled to stop many many times but find when I get somewhat depressed I turn back to the old familiar. The most I can not masturbate is about 3 days and then I fall back into its clutches. This has definitely caused tension in the home with family.
 

Lafftur

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Hi all. I am a 61 year old male and have struggled with porn since I was 12. What started out as a curiosity soon became an addiction to seeing the images and masturbating to them. I continue to this day and have struggled to stop many many times but find when I get somewhat depressed I turn back to the old familiar. The most I can not masturbate is about 3 days and then I fall back into its clutches. This has definitely caused tension in the home with family.
This is the conclusion I have arrived at regarding ALL addictions:

In God’s domain, NOTHING is a battle. It’s all about AUTHORITY. Who is The Most High? He is the One with the most authority.

In Christ, we are born again of incorruptible seed and given authority over our sinful nature and this world.

Therefore, we are NEVER taken as captives to sin, but we have a choice to walk according to our flesh or the spirit.

If we choose the flesh, we will sin.

If we choose the spirit, we will not sin.

It’s not about “natures” anymore. We’re back in the garden - it’s about “choices”..........again!!! :love:(y)

Romans 8:1 King James Version (KJV)
8 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

We are no longer a slave to sin. We have authority that gives us power to "choose" to say NO to sin.

Fall in love with Yeshua/Jesus - focus on Him and falling more and more in love with God - LOVE is extremely powerful and helps us to "choose" the Spirit instead of the flesh.

 

Noel2019

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Jan 28, 2019
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Porn addiction , is like all other addiction , but let me tell you something , Porn ! when you stop watching porn you will have a better sexual life with your partner , believe me ,
Pornography is among the most sad things that have happen to this world , especially those porno video sadomazo , , only here to promote sexual assault ,
 
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Repentance is the answer. Note 2 Peter 3:9. What did Jesus say in Matthew 5:27-30?

Go read it.

R C Sproul had an excellent message on this, talking to those professing believers who involve themselves in fornication, porn, what have you. His advice is Christ's in the same text above. Pray God to bring you to full repentance by his mercy. The other consequences are irreparable and eternal.
 

Nessadon

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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
Anything dealing with sex is a common addiction. I struggled with a sex addiction for a while and it ended up making me feel even more alone and lost. I literally have to have talks with myself and tell myself what I am NOT going to do. Mind over matter. I am a firm believer that once an addiction is present, it will always be a struggle. Even after I got myself back on the right track, the desire would still present itself. I have learned that I have to be stronger than my addiction and that God is the way to get me through it. Allow him to help you and he will be there every step of the way. It's also good to have people you can call or talk to if your feeling overwhelmed. If you need someone, your welcome to talk to me. I definitely understand and have been through this.
 

Frontios1996

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While I've never considered myself a problem drinker, there's been a time when I didn't like how much I was drinking. What I did was what you should do-set limits. For example, I set days and times when I drink, and only drink then. (For the record, Wednesday and Saturday evenings). Maybe you'll choose to look at porn only on Saturday, or something like that. It's not ideal, but better than going cold turkey.
 

Subhumanoidal

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While I've never considered myself a problem drinker, there's been a time when I didn't like how much I was drinking. What I did was what you should do-set limits. For example, I set days and times when I drink, and only drink then. (For the record, Wednesday and Saturday evenings). Maybe you'll choose to look at porn only on Saturday, or something like that. It's not ideal, but better than going cold turkey.
I'm guessing you have no Real experience with addiction. If you had you'd know addiction doesn't work like that. If you had that much control over it then it wouldn't be an addiction.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Anything dealing with sex is a common addiction. I struggled with a sex addiction for a while and it ended up making me feel even more alone and lost. I literally have to have talks with myself and tell myself what I am NOT going to do. Mind over matter. I am a firm believer that once an addiction is present, it will always be a struggle. Even after I got myself back on the right track, the desire would still present itself. I have learned that I have to be stronger than my addiction and that God is the way to get me through it. Allow him to help you and he will be there every step of the way. It's also good to have people you can call or talk to if your feeling overwhelmed. If you need someone, your welcome to talk to me. I definitely understand and have been through this.
Doubt he will take you up on that since he hasn't logged in for 3 months. ( ;
 

Didymous

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Feb 22, 2018
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I've learned from past experience, and talking with others, that what one thinks about is what one will be addicted to, so I learned that I need to think about the word and Jesus. As Paul noted in Philippians 4 if we think on good things, then one has the God of peace with one.
 

SIMON55

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Feb 15, 2019
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Hi all. I am a 61 year old male and have struggled with porn since I was 12. What started out as a curiosity soon became an addiction to seeing the images and masturbating to them. I continue to this day and have struggled to stop many many times but find when I get somewhat depressed I turn back to the old familiar. The most I can not masturbate is about 3 days and then I fall back into its clutches. This has definitely caused tension in the home with family.
Are you an internet cop also?
Or just your two followers the school age girls who are subserviants to kings who thumbed you up during AM school hours?
Man they jumped on you within 10 mins. of each other like ticks to a bloodhound!
Better watch your six and be careful what you talk about .
Just saying beware of the obvious!!!
 
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Try replacing it. Don’t allow yourself free time and have short term and long term goals. Keep your mind elsewhere. Stay busy doing other important things. Keep focused on your daily goals.
When your 15/16 it was alot harder to find other things to do,LOL.
 
Mar 25, 2019
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Try all u can not to watch any form of porn and always read your bible and pray try and always have fellowship with God on your own never allow any evil thought to occupy your mind when it come quote the bible and u will overcome
 
Apr 8, 2019
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I am also prone to addiction. I have be studying medicine while studying the Bible and asking God for healing and wisdom. I have been addicted to many things, past girlfriends, bicycling, facebook, youtube, nicotine ecigs, porn, hunting, research. I have been researching low dopamine levels and my own genetics as well. I repent and dont keep porn around me. I try to stay off facebook and only research so much a day. It is very difficult. Porn is just one of the addictions that causes dopamine release. Cupcakes and sugary food can be an addiction.
Almost anything can be an addiction and release dopamine. Shopping, power/esteem, food, exercise, social media, and many things can release dopamine and cause addition. I have many genetic mutations as well. I believe that not only it is a spiritual problem but it is also a physical problem. Just like depression, serotonin is normally low as well as all the thoughts of suicide or sadness. I have been there. Jesus is the only reason I am alive this second.
I have been on over 20 anti depressants and thank God our Father , I am off all of them and stable. I believe we we have a two sided coin problem. People either see everything as physical only (doctors , unbelievers) or only spiritual ( believers.) I believe we need to attack the problem from both sides. Physical and Spiritual. I have been addicted to masturbation since 7 years old and was abused by a man at 14 and introduced to porn by him as well. He died of a heart attack when he was 44 years old. I have had depression since 14 years old.
I have learned to cope and change my nutritional needs and to seek God and pray and put on christian music and read at least a chapter of the Bible every single day. I am 35 now. It took many years of pain and sadness to get here through God's strength. My fibromyalgia has been healed and so has most of my diarhea and stomach pain that crippled me when younger. Life has been a battle for me. God has been my fortress. I have tried to help so many people and I am at the point I need help. Red is very bad and yellow is bad. I ask God for strength and wisdom as I don't want to quit one addiction and pick up another. I was addicted to bicycling and broke my ankle severely in 2012 and almost died of blood clots from the surgery. God has brought me through so much. We are all working to help each other and I am glad I finally came here and addressing the addictions in my life.
 

Meena

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Jun 17, 2018
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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
I am a girl and I am ashamed to say I am addicted to fingering.😖😖. I have no right to advice you. Moreover, I can't understand much about men body urges. Let Jesus help us all
 
Apr 8, 2019
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Lust is adultery in our heart. "if anyone looks at a woman to lust for her, he has committed adultery in his heart". We know lust is sin. But masturbation in and of itself is never told as sin. "Leviticus 15:16 16"'When a man has an emission of semen, he must bathe his whole body with water, and he will be unclean till evening. " Notice the man does not have to do a sin sacrifice. Just wash and be unclean for a day. I believe the act of lust is sin due to all the verses, but the act of masturbation is not as the verses just mention. I have studied this. I don't want to sin. I don't want to make up things either. I don't want to listen to some pastor. I want to listen to the Word of God. Anything can be an addiction and we are told to not let sin rule over us, sin as in addiction. I believe we are not to be controlled by sin. I believe we are not to be addicted to masturbation,porn,food, coffee, wine, nicotine, heroin, tv shows, movies, facebook, youtube and others.
 

jw696973

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Jul 16, 2019
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ive been masturbating for years and it seems to be a pretty natural thing