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jw696973

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I am a girl and I am ashamed to say I am addicted to fingering.😖😖. I have no right to advice you. Moreover, I can't ho is ok with porunderstand much about men body urges. Let Jesus help us all
im a believer who is fine with porn and i have Bible reasons for it..
 

Mii

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im a believer who is fine with porn and i have Bible reasons for it..
Seems like a very suspicious gravebump.

Do you have any particular reason for doing so?


There is plenty of science out there from secular sources that say otherwise. In remaps the brain very similar to drug addiction. Not to mention that voyeurism is nowhere mentioned in scripture.


At the VERY best...personal gratification (outside explicit material that is obviously based on wickedness) is selfish and a work of the flesh.

There were allowances for NE in leviticus and the other verse that someone else mentioned I don't think has to do with personal gratification...merely happenstance (which does occur although quite rarely in our desensitized culture I'd imagine). I'm not going to get explicit but it could easily not apply and if you want specifics you can PM me.



Your best bet is to utilize the build up for something productive. Physical exercise is probably the BEST way to make excess energy to serve you. I would also encourage you to read scripture out loud and see where that gets you. Any time I "gave in" in the past that was always an option and I knew it was there but I wanted to dine on myself. It cost me something. So many excuses I gave...NONE hold up.

Also...what do you need a computer for? School? Use school computers. Recreation? Go to the library.
Convenience? At least have someone in the room with you. Accountability can be quite humbling...but the Lord gives grace to the humble. I've watched so many opportunities for these things slip through my fingers due to my own pride. Gotta submit :)



I will say that we can bear these burdens together...we aren't alone. Each on of us would do well to ask the Lord about it (if you find yourself "mostly" past the passionate phase). How could we help others with what we have learned. With respect of course to being an unintentional stumbling block by not considering more sensitive ears/eyes. It takes real abiding, and it's hard. Leastways for me it does...but I know it pleases him.
 

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Hi all. I am a 61 year old male and have struggled with porn since I was 12. What started out as a curiosity soon became an addiction to seeing the images and masturbating to them. I continue to this day and have struggled to stop many many times but find when I get somewhat depressed I turn back to the old familiar. The most I can not masturbate is about 3 days and then I fall back into its clutches. This has definitely caused tension in the home with family.
I would advise fasting, seek the Lord as to what he would have you give up and for how long, it is designed to combat the flesh and that seems to be what you are up against.
 
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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
You are a sexual being. That will not go away. God will not take away something that you are. If there is something that you need to learn from your sexuality the learn it.
 

Silverwings

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You are a sexual being. That will not go away. God will not take away something that you are. If there is something that you need to learn from your sexuality the learn it.
I disagree totally, he stated it was a porn addiction, this is not normal, it is an outside influence brought about by unclean spirits, i think you do a major disservice to him and to anyone else reading this to say, that it is normal.
 
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I disagree totally, he stated it was a porn addiction, this is not normal, it is an outside influence brought about by unclean spirits, i think you do a major disservice to him and to anyone else reading this to say, that it is normal.
Well if I had said that then I would agree with you. But I didn't. And I think you do a disservice by suggesting evil spirits. You don't know that.
 

Silverwings

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You are a sexual being. That will not go away. God will not take away something that you are.
Is what I actually said, rather than your partial decontextualised quote; which you chose to refer to pornography addiction.
 

Mii

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Well in one sense I can agree...that the Lord isn't going to change how he made you to be.

However the question is, how did he make you to be?



I would highly encourage anyone not to disassociate from sexuality. Disassociating from the flesh (ignoring it) doesn't work. Maybe it has some utility in certain situations but most certainly not as an over-arcing solution.
 

Meena

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i am ashamed to say that i am addicted to it. sorry
 

Lafftur

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i am ashamed to say that i am addicted to it. sorry
You’re in a prison cell of bondage, the enemy has lied to you and told you you cannot be free but….the enemy is a liar.

The door of your prison cell is shut but, it is NOT LOCKED.

God’s love for you is greater than any addiction. You CAN WALK OUT of that addiction prison cell any time you choose to do so, in the power and authority of Jesus Christ.
 
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It's an addiction as you said, it took me a long time of praying and confession to others and replacing the lies I told myself with the truth.
I found that shame is your worst enemy and will only keep you rolling in the cycle. Remember that God loves you, and he forgives you. The longer you go without it, the longer you deprive yourself of the dopamine, and replace it with prayer and God's word...the easier it becomes. After a while of dedication and deprivation, you will find yourself not feeling you NEED it as much. It gets easier as you stay dedicated to God. Time and God will heal you. I still struggle, but no where near as much as I have before.
 

I_am_Canadian

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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
Hey first rule in advertising is that sex and violence sell, the immoral images produced are nothing more than tricks to get more viewers and more customers to make more money.

Second here's is a word of the wise, if you can't control your addiction your addiction is controlling you. If you want to conquor it get rid of anything in your house that would allow it in. Tv, movies, internet, and subscriptions you might have have.

If you need Internet access try your public library where people can look over your shoulder and see what your doing so their is no temptation to look at that crap.

It's unlikely anyone would but keeping that thought in mind helps.
 

TheLearner

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there are studies that internet porn makes you soft, so to speak
 

I_am_Canadian

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there are studies that internet porn makes you soft, so to speak
Not sure about the studies but I would put it up their with worshipping a graven image and adultery.

Mostly because people like what they see and keep going back to it and lust after the people on the screen
 

TheLearner

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Not sure about the studies but I would put it up their with worshipping a graven image and adultery.

Mostly because people like what they see and keep going back to it and lust after the people on the screen
"Researchers surveyed 312 men, ages 20 to 40, who visited a San Diego urology clinic for treatment. The rates of organic causes of erectile dysfunction in this age cohort are low, so the increase in erectile dysfunction for this group in recent years needs to be explained. "
https://www.pollockclinics.com/pornography-cause-young-mens-erectile-dysfunction/

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Is Internet Pornography Causing Sexual Dysfunctions? A Review with Clinical Reports

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Flight Surgeon, Fleet Logistics Support Squadron 40, Norfolk, VA 34800 Bob Wilson Drive, San Diego, CA 92592, USA
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The Reward Foundation, 5 Rose Street, Edinburgh EH2 2PR, Scotland, UK
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Department of Urology, Naval Medical Center San Diego, 34800 Bob Wilson Drive, San Diego, CA 92592, USA
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Department of Mental Health, Naval Medical Center San Diego, 34800 Bob Wilson Drive, San Diego, CA 92592, USA
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Department of Ophthalmology, Naval Medical Center San Diego, 34800 Bob Wilson Drive, San Diego, CA 92592, USA
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Behav. Sci. 2016, 6(3), 17; https://doi.org/10.3390/bs6030017
Received: 10 May 2016 / Revised: 29 July 2016 / Accepted: 2 August 2016 / Published: 5 August 2016
(This article belongs to the Special Issue Addictive Behaviors: Assessment and Treatment)
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Abstract
Traditional factors that once explained men’s sexual difficulties appear insufficient to account for the sharp rise in erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, decreased sexual satisfaction, and diminished libido during partnered sex in men under 40. This review (1) considers data from multiple domains, e.g., clinical, biological (addiction/urology), psychological (sexual conditioning), sociological; and (2) presents a series of clinical reports, all with the aim of proposing a possible direction for future research of this phenomenon. Alterations to the brain's motivational system are explored as a possible etiology underlying pornography-related sexual dysfunctions. This review also considers evidence that Internet pornography’s unique properties (limitless novelty, potential for easy escalation to more extreme material, video format, etc.) may be potent enough to condition sexual arousal to aspects of Internet pornography use that do not readily transition to real-life partners, such that sex with desired partners may not register as meeting expectations and arousal declines. Clinical reports suggest that terminating Internet pornography use is sometimes sufficient to reverse negative effects, underscoring the need for extensive investigation using methodologies that have subjects remove the variable of Internet pornography use. In the interim, a simple diagnostic protocol for assessing patients with porn-induced sexual dysfunction is put forth."
https://www.mdpi.com/2076-328X/6/3/17/htm

https://www.forhims.com/blog/porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction
https://rexmd.com/learn/porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction
https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed#takeaway
Con https://www.everydayhealth.com/erec...ed-to-erectile-dysfunction-research-suggests/
https://www.verywellhealth.com/can-porn-cause-erectile-dysfunction-5196444
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/317117

Sort answers: pixels are closer together giving higher stimulation to the brain. This results in men and some women needing much higher stimulation in real life. Answer, stop using online porn and stop all porn to reprogram the brain. Second cause: Men who know it is wrong to use porn gets anxiety in real life from using it. There are experts, who disagree, but to my knowledge they have not done any studies. There may be a study by the internet porn industry that I am not aware of.
 

TheLearner

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google internet porn male dysfunction penis studies pro con