Pornography and Masturbation Struggles

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actually, clear through 4:33
 

QuestionTime

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I just need to learn discipline myself in the first place. Even though satan puts these sexual and impure thoughts into my head, I need learn to get myself out of the temptation and look to God for help. But doing so has been tough for me lately and idk why. Any who I would prefer men to answer and give me advice, but women are most certainly available to do that as well. I would just like to know of any bible verses regarding tempation, impure thoughts, lust, etc. Once I take a look at them, I need to read them over and over again and meditate on them. I'll probably memorize them. Reading God's word does help me understand that what I have been doing is wrong and sinful and that I need to do my best to stop it. Thank you to those who read this. I appreciate it! :)
I am sorry, but you are very mistaken. You don't need to learn to discipline yourself. You need to learn that you are weak and helpless, and that your discipline will ever fail you. Then when you lose all hope in yourself, Christ will begin to have an opportunity to work in your life.

23But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed.
24Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.
25But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster.


You have a sort of faith, but devils also have a sort of faith:

19Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.

You do not have saving faith yet, you are still "kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed."

The law must weigh you down under it's impossible burden, just like Pharaoh weighed down the Israelites with an impossible task:


7Ye shall no more give the people straw to make brick, as heretofore: let them go and gather straw for themselves.
8And the tale of the bricks, which they did make heretofore, ye shall lay upon them; ye shall not diminish ought thereof: for they be idle; therefore they cry, saying, Let us go and sacrifice to our God.
9Let there more work be laid upon the men, that they may labour therein; and let them not regard vain words.
10And the taskmasters of the people went out, and their officers, and they spake to the people, saying, Thus saith Pharaoh, I will not give you straw.
11Go ye, get you straw where ye can find it: yet not ought of your work shall be diminished.
12So the people were scattered abroad throughout all the land of Egypt to gather stubble instead of straw.
13And the taskmasters hasted them, saying, Fulfil your works, your daily tasks, as when there was straw.
14And the officers of the children of Israel, which Pharaoh's taskmasters had set over them, were beaten, and demanded, Wherefore have ye not fulfilled your task in making brick both yesterday and to day, as heretofore?

The straw was like the nature Adam had in the Garden of Eden, he could fill his quota of bricks. But Adam lost that nature, and no longer can any man fulfill the quota of bricks that the Law demands.

Christians live for all their lifetime - many - live under the Old Covenant, they never do get into the New Covenant... You're under the Old Covenant. Unless God sets you free you are gonna go out under the Old Covenant. And you will never be free, you will always be bound by your sin. You will never understand freedom. You won't understand the glory of the cross, when you are under the Old Covenant, and you've got to come by faith into the New Covenant! - David Wilkerson

Please watch:

David Wilkerson - Freedom from sin - YouTube
 
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babarainbowsheep

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#23
I just awoken :)

Had a dream about a sex addict.
She was obsessed with a man she had had sex with and it made her feel so good she would do anything to feel that on expense of others, walk over dead you name it.

She was a mother.boys and a babygirl I think but she neglected her children because of her obsesseion with this man and having sex with him.
He was not interested in her and loved another.
At a point in the dream they were all 2 sitting 2gether at a table and he was making clar to sexaddict he not interested cause she stalked him etc.
His woman left for 5 min and when she returned the other one stole her place beside him.He moved to sit beside the woman he loved.
This made the addict mad.
She used to use sex to get what she wanted and for power etc and she started threatening him and being abusive.

Sometimes she dragged her children with her to chase him.
In the dream she looked and behaved drunk and tacky as to show that even if its not a visible addiction it still is a aaddiction and causes behavioures etc.
She did some really bad things.(if he was my partner ide have him take her to prison)

Just b4 I woke up after a long time had passed the Holy Ghost came and all spririts passed through her showing clearly situation so that others knew and were not fooled because it was not "visible" as such.


What sexuality you have is with you but how you use it and if it hurts yourself or others who dont want a part of it then thats not ok.
If its a addiction then its hurting and damaging you.
There are sexual sadists also that get sexually turned on by seeing someone curled up on the floor in agony day after day, have a s sexslave, "their dog, "their retard", ridecule them, brainwash and do all kinds of horrific things and thats criminal.


Turn to Jesus :)
Have intimate conversations.
He understands and can help.
 
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Peter321

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Memorizing bible verses is not going to help at all. You'll always have this desire.

BTW, Masturbation is good for your health. Not good to hold it all in. :)
Do not believe this, it is was really not good for your health or bad, God would've suuuuuuurely thought of that and 'fixed' this.
 
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dl1980

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IM GOIN THROUGH THE SAME STRUGGLES IM31 AND I FACE IT EVERYDAY AND UNLESS YOU ARE SUPERHUMAN U WILL FACE IT. I THINK ANY SINGLE MAN, WHO SAYS THEY GOT THIS PROBLEM COMPLETELY UNDER CONTROL AND IS MALE AND SINGLE,GOOD FOR U,I DOUNNO.
 
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babarainbowsheep

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#26
Be understanding, supportive, encouraging and kind to yourself.
Pray to jesus for help and understanding.

maybe find things to do instead that you might find as much pleasure from but in a different way.

When I quit smoking I started crewchetting a lot and sucking suck lollies........
So replace the bad with something better for you.
Have conversations with Jesus.

I was molested

This alone leads to destruktive behavioures often but on top of that other things happened........that were hurtful

I also had sexual problems.I was promiscuous didnt give me pleasure but I was also used sexually and then was like a sexslave with sadistic sm done on me and I could not escape it and it was torture and rape of my soul.
It went on for several yrs.

Theres been other things, wont write of here.
I have also been in a porno (bad) was not sexing someone but was "just me"and has its reasons but God knows me and I admit where Im wrong and why Im wrong and I also know where Im not wrong but Im made to look like it was me when it was not.God knows this also.
I was also a stripper in younger days.
But I was like a programmed robot, a puppet on strings, a empty body....In a way it was my body just.My soul was not stripping nor was my spirit.Difference of that is as is.

(really "spillin me self here hey" )



All I wanted was love.
and sometimes just sometimes i got a touch of it through sex not in younger yrs but older yrs.
Now I am celibate and in deep conversations with Jesus and angels.
Think of Madonnas song "like a virgin".... Thats how Gods love makes me feel.

I would love a love/sex life one day but I want it to be intimate, in holy union (marriage), loving , respectful, private etc and till then I will to prayer and do my best to be my best.

Thought of movie sisteract, was a nice movie :) and good musik.

Sex can be destruktive and a addiction and some use it to get power , some get sexually aroused by seeing someone in agony day after day .......It can be a sick, sick, sick thing

I wish us all a lovelife more than anything.
Lovelife b4 sexlife can blossom into lovemakinglife :)

I said to Jesus "Jesus I am yours" and I mean that with all my heart and soul.
I would rather be without sex and with Jesus than have sex all the time but no Jesus.....