the not kissing before marriage game

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This is an admirable idea.. I could possibly do that. I think if you are attracted to someone and seeing them/holding hands makes you weak in the knees, you dont NEED to kiss, etc to know you will hit it off romantically.
 
RoboOp said:
Man o man... the thought that you have to find out how somebody kisses before you can marry them.

Let me tell you something more important... how somebody performs in the bed is a whole lot more important than just how they kiss. So better test that before you marry, too, huh?
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I totally agree with you on this... What ever happened to trusting God completely to bring the right girl or guy to you? I mean, I think that physical intimacy is important to a MARRIAGE, and I think that God is wise enough to understand that and intelligent enough to bring someone to us that we will connect with emotionally, spiritually, and pysically. But there is no need to "test out" a girl in anyway shape or form before I marry her. I trust God a little more than that, so I think you are right on.
 
christiancollegegirl said:
Does it matter that I've already kissed 2 guys? Not kissing another guy till I'm married is gonna be real hard
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Christiancollegegirl: I'll tell you what's hard.

It's really hard to not have sex before marriage.

And kissing and smooching and making out makes it ten times harder.

If I lay down on a couch with a woman and start making out with her, I'm gonna feel like doing a whole lot more.
Maybe I'm just abnormal. *shrug*
 
RoboOp said:
Christiancollegegirl: I'll tell you what's hard.

It's really hard to not have sex before marriage.

And kissing and smooching and making out makes it ten times harder.

If I lay down on a couch with a woman and start making out with her, I'm gonna feel like doing a whole lot more.
Maybe I'm just abnormal. *shrug*
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LOL oh yeah definitely abnormal .. j/k
 
I don't think you should even meet the other person before marriage.
 
RoboOp said:
Christiancollegegirl: I'll tell you what's hard.

It's really hard to not have sex before marriage.

And kissing and smooching and making out makes it ten times harder.

If I lay down on a couch with a woman and start making out with her, I'm gonna feel like doing a whole lot more.
Maybe I'm just abnormal. *shrug*
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Yeah Robo, I totally agree with you. I'm still a virgin, but staying that way hasn't been easy. It would be way easier just to give in and do it, but then something pulls me back. I think I talked about this in the sex before marriage thread.
 
RoboOp said:
Christiancollegegirl: I'll tell you what's hard.

It's really hard to not have sex before marriage.

And kissing and smooching and making out makes it ten times harder.

If I lay down on a couch with a woman and start making out with her, I'm gonna feel like doing a whole lot more.
Maybe I'm just abnormal. *shrug*
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Wait.......who says "kissing" requires you to "lay down on a couch" or "make out" ???
 
nanabean said:
Wait.......who says "kissing" requires you to "lay down on a couch" or "make out" ???
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It doesn't, but it can lead to that which is why some people want to avoid kissing before marriage. Again, I don't think it's wrong to kiss before marriage, but you have to be very very careful if you do.
 
Golfaholic30 said:
It doesn't, but it can lead to that which is why some people want to avoid kissing before marriage. Again, I don't think it's wrong to kiss before marriage, but you have to be very very careful if you do.
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I generally go by a hands rule. When hands start going where they shouldn't, it's time to cut it out and say goodnight, or go for a walk, or do something else, etc. It's worked very well for me.
 
A friend of mine came up with this rule of thumb that I love and use: "You know you're too close when Jesus starts feeling claustrophobic." :p

It's really sad that our culture has perverted and twisted physical intimacy to nothing more than an animalistic, hormonal reaction. Plus you have the added bonus of contracting all kinds of wonderful venereal diseases!

I have not personally known anyone who has waited to even kiss before they were married but I admire anyone who does. I did not have such a conviction when I was younger and have kissed three different guys. I'm not going to condemn anyone who does kiss before the marriage alter. But I will caution them about the temptation. I think maybe if it were a semi-courtship it could work. If you couldn't be alone together but a smooch here or there would be alright????

I don't think it would be embarassing or awkward to have your first kiss in front of a multitude of people if you truly understand the source of the love you feel towards your fiance (hint, hint God). And most everyone who is attending should know why you waited and be supportive.

This is my overly expressed answer to your question RoboOp!
 
Honestly?? No offence...but geez its just kissing or cuddling or whatever...but u can believe wut u want thass kew I respect that...
 
Well I'm in the never-been-kissed category (not by choice), and I have known a few people who have never kissed anyone and they like the idea of having their first kiss at the altar. Me, not so much! I really wouldn't want my first ever kiss to be in front of my parents, his parents, all of our relatives, and everyone we know! So I do respect those who choose to wait till marriage, but I would totally kiss before getting married!
 
i don't know i always thought it was too conservative not to kiss while dating..... but now that i think about it... it's not such a bad idea.
 
nanabean said:
Wait.......who says "kissing" requires you to "lay down on a couch" or "make out" ???
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Okay then :)

So you just kiss different guys before marriage, not lay down with them and totally "make out".

So..........

Your future husband will be thrilled to know that your tongue has been in the mouths of all these other guys (including some of the guys in the church that you both go to). Wonderful. :D
 
I mean my thought is if your gonna make out all the time then you should try sex and after that you should probably move into together just to make sure everything will work out and while your at it have 8 or 9 kids just o be sure you and your significant other are meant for each other. And if after all that don't work just go out and repeat with another of the opposite sex.
 
RoboOp said:
Okay then :)

So you just kiss different guys before marriage, not lay down with them and totally "make out".

So..........

Your future husband will be thrilled to know that your tongue has been in the mouths of all these other guys (including some of the guys in the church that you both go to). Wonderful. :D
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Wow....I've never had my toungue in anyone else's mouth but my hubby's and if you KNEW me at all, you'd at least know I've been married for over 23 years, (happly!!) All I asked was since when did KISSING involve laying down?? or making out?? I didn't say kissing as in frenchies....and you hadn't either. Would you really french kiss at the altar?? ugh. I mean...you DID say wait for your first KISS for the altar, right?? If you meant toungue in mouth kissing when you said kissing, then no, MY first KISS was on my wedding NIGHT!!!
 
Sorry nana I didn't really mean you persay just responding in general... :D
 
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