Who Should Be Teaching Sex Education?

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I really wish my mom would have talked to me about sex. Its strange, because she dealt with a sexual addiction for about 15 years. God set her free from that through programs and lots of prayer. I didnt find out about my mom having this problem until i was well into my addiction. I was so mad at her once she told me about her experience. I thought well mom if you would have talked to me about this when i was younger and explained to me how this can effect you maybe it would have saved me from some of the things i did.

Now that i know this is something that runs in my family among women. Im gonna make sure and talk to my daughter as soon as she is able to understand, I want to drill into her head starting at a young age what sex is about and when it is appropriate. She is 4 right now and ive already taught her the proper names for her stuff. I dont want her walkin around callin her private parts some weird nicknames.

I feel like it is the parents job to educate our children on sex. I dont want a teacher or anyone else filling my childs head with things that i might not agree with.

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

Agreed. Among the young, if you don't like something, it's "gay." I've never been to or heard of this homosexual utopia where it's a badge of honor.

Sure it is, lesbianism and bi-sexuality is one of the "hottest" things a girl can do to make her more desirable to boys in colleges and bars. In my wild days (thank you Lord they're over) I used to tell this to men so they'd leave me alone but they never did, they just said "wow thats hot!!!!"

You want to see people parading homosexuality like it's an olympic metal? Go to fashion school. Most days I go I need a barf bag.

 

[seoulsearch]

Sure it is, lesbianism and bi-sexuality is one of the "hottest" things a girl can do to make her more desirable to boys in colleges and bars. In my wild days (thank you Lord they're over) I used to tell this to men so they'd leave me alone but they never did, they just said "wow thats hot!!!!"

You want to see people parading homosexuality like it's an olympic metal? Go to fashion school. Most days I go I need a barf bag.

This is my experience too, Dread (as I posted earlier, in many cases... not all, but many... even the most Christian of men will squirm a bit when the subject of women with women is mentioned... because they're attracted to it.)

I never went to bars and clubs much but yes, there was one time I told a particular guy that my (female) friend with me was my girlfriend (like you, I just didn't want the hassle) and she even played along, saying, "Hey, I'm really jealous and I don't like her talking to anyone else," and you know what?

That just makes them try all the more.

 

[MusicalMe]

Well, since I'm part of the reason this post was written, I might as well jump in with my two cents.

I think parents first and foremost should be teaching sex education, but since most parents these days want to leave education up to the schools and spirituality up to the church... then removing it from schools would only make the problems worse.

I didn't go to public school so I don't know what sex education there is like - but I do know that many people who came out of that system are really confused, even to the point of thinking you can't get an STD if you have oral sex.

What I don't understand is why the church seems to be so terrified of handling this subject. If God created sex, why can't we talk about it? If sex should be a part of any healthy, Christian marriage, why is it treated like something so sinister? The way it is typically being presented is that sex outside of marriage is a horrible, nasty, dirty, evil, sinful thing, and sex inside of marriage is mind-blowing, amazing, and pure - no wonder everyone is confused!

I have a great relationship with my parents, and I feel like I can talk to them about anything - except sex. We just never developed an ability to talk about that. When I got my first period, my mom handed me two books about it, and that was basically my education on sex. I didn't even read one of them because the sperm and egg were cartoony drawings with smiley faces on them and I felt insulted. My sex education (as far as the biology of it) came from my friends' dirty jokes in middle school and high school, movies, television, and whatever research I've done on my own (and for the record, that means reading - not doing). I really wish I could ask my parents some questions, but I think if you don't develop that aspect of the parent/child relationship earlier, it's impossible to do in your late twenties. If I ever have kids, I want to be very involved in their education of the biology, spirituality, and ethics of sex.

 

[sandtigeress]

Parents should do that. But I think it is very neccessary that the schools teach it too. Because every set of parents have different ideas about what their kids need to know. And if kids don't know, older kids tell them horrorstories (f.ex. that it is ok, to let them do something).
Kids need a way to say: No, we learned in class ... and my seatneibour can confirm that.

 

[JesusChica1991]

In terms of morals, that should be left up to the parents. In terms of diseases and how children are conceived, that can be done with both parents and schools.

 

[MrsAsghar]

I strongly believe that parents today need to step up and do their job. Whether one is Christian or not, it is the parents job and duty to teach their children about sex. Sex is a huge responsibility and should never be taken lightly. Parents should want to take on this responsibility so they are assured their children have the correct information and a healthy view on the subject. In health class in school is where follow up should be. When girls turned 12 we all got taken into the assembly room at school to watch a health video on reproduction. Mainly focused on the menstrual cycle.

I also strongly believe that children under the age of 16 are too immature to take on the responsibilities of dating. There is nothing wrong with being friends and having study time together, but no child under 16 should be going out on dates. If parents raised their children properly and took interest and cared about their children, they would give them all the important information needed to prepare them for when the time comes for dating, so the parent can have peace of mind knowing their children will do the right things. If a child is taught and brought up the right way by their parents, they would never give in to the pressures of doing something they know they should not be doing.

God tells us all to not have sex before marriage, for many reasons, basically for our safety. As a parent, shouldn't we want our children to be safe? Shouldn't we want the best for them at all times?

This is what boggles my mind, as to why these little kids now days are even interested in sex. My goodness, they should be more interested in playing with Barbies and Matchbox cars. Having slumber parties with best friends, staying up late playing games, watching movies, telling stories, playing in sports, going to sporting events, etc. I don't understand why "sex" seems to be the only thing on every ones minds. Life is so much more than sex, sex is only a tiny part of life. It is something special and sacred to be shared only between a husband and wife.

Praying for society and the future of every ones well being. Lord knows we need help and have gotten off the right path a long time ago.

 

[Tintin]

It's interesting that one person voted for - Sex is Something that Should Not be Discussed with Kids or Teens.

 

[Grey]

It's interesting that one person voted for - Sex is Something that Should Not be Discussed with Kids or Teens.

Great idea just let them figure it out for themselves

 

[colalella2891]

This is a tough one... I of course hate the way society is today, but that's just the way it is...

In my opinion, somebody in their lives should teach them, whether that's a parent, teacher etc. ... Of course kids shouldn't be having sex, but kids are going to have sex anyway so they should know what they're doing so they don't ruin their lives. There are bound to be parents who don't teach their kids about sex, so teachers should definitely cover it in school. In my high school, they covered it in health class, but they didn't go that deep into it, believe it or not. They never showed us how to put a condom on a banana, cucumber, etc. Schools should do that so these stupid kids (no offense anyone) don't end up with a baby at age 16 or an STD that they have to deal with.

My school was also very extreme when it came to sex... My classmates were doing things that their parents thought they wouldn't be doing until college. So, yeah.

It's always tough for the christian kids though... I feel for them, since I was one of them. Unfortunately christian kids still end up messing around too because of the way things are. Bottom line, sex education should be a major priority.

PS: Not trying to judge anyone by the way.

 

[DuchessAimee]

Something that people forget is that teens (whether they're educated about sex and what God says about sex) are going to do whatever they want to do. We do not give those kids enough credit. They may not be able to fully realize the extent of their folly due to the pre frontal cortex not being fully developed, but they can make valid decisions. Their choices may or may not reflect on their parents. You have to keep in mind that parents may teach their kids all about sex and how to have a healthy biblical view of sexuality, but it's the teens (or anybody's) choice to abide by it.

The parents should have an open and honest line of communication with their kids about sex. Personally, if my child came to me and told me they were pregnant or they got someone pregnant, I would accept them and the situation. No shunning, no condemning. And I wouldn't feel that their mistake is a reflection on me or my husband. Parents can only do so much, can only teach so much. At some point the child becomes accountable for their choices.

Now, this rant may or may not really fit into this conversation. It's 2:19am here and I'm kinda sleepy. I apologize if I derailed this thread.

 

[Ephraim]

IT depends, really, on what you think is acceptable about sex. I personally think people were given the ability for free thought for a reason; to make their own decisions. Nothing good comes from forcing anything on someone.

And that's where my issue with christian institutions teaching about sex comes from; they make it feel like it's something to be ashamed about; to have a desire for the opposite sex. The dynamics of relationships are shut under the surface just as much as the sexual aspects of them. Women and men from christian backgrounds tend to grow up misinformed about sex. inexperienced in interaction with the opposite sex and often feeling the need to hide any form of thought about it under the surface. It's repressed.

And these people, I see frequently, end up unsatisfied and feeling peculiar in marriages; particularly where sex is concerned.

Then there's the opposite end of the spectrum; the cold, logical, scientific approach. The view that sex is animal, primal, and just a biological interaction between two consenting people. And it isn't, it's much, much more than that.

I don't really have much control over how my eventual children are taught about sex, either in church settings (if that's the path they choose), or in school, where sex-ed is mandatory where I live. But I WILL instill them to be confident and open about it; not to be ashamed of it. And I will teach them the importance and emotional and mental value of sex. The tools to becoming good at interacting with the opposite sex and the mindframe that doesn't look at women (or men) all as potential suitors or as pieces of meat. To learn how to choose a partner for themselves and how to make that relationship positive, open, communicative and loving, first and foremost, before anything else.

These are things that sex-ed doesn't really teach; either in a christian environment or a scientific school environment.

 

[hattiebod]

Discuss sex with your children, just as you would discuss everything!! and start early. if we have an open communication policy, they will come to us because they respect us. So we need to have a strong relationship and be spending time with them so they can ask...when they are ready, not to suit us. My son often has the best conversations with his dad on the squash or golf course! And both sexes need to know all there is to know. My son was informed about menstruation, no big deal. As parents this has been easy because we always talk about everything anyway. Nothing was or is ever a forbidden subject. My children could and can, ask when ever they wanted, what they wanted to know and knew they would not be 'lectured' and the door was always open, no question too silly. I cannot remember ever 'doing the talk' as it was ongoing (still is as they wanted to know...if you create that atmosphere then your children will come to you. Often they would hear something and check in with their father or I. You can then be the one that teaches and corrects. They grow up with all the information and can make informed choices. Of course, it does help if there are two parents, both singing from the same sheet! I never expected schools, christian or otherwise, churches etc to be the ultimate source of my children's moral foundation. they live in the world, and i want them to be part of that, they need not be anxious, they can and do make good choices. Lets pray that continues....but they also know, if they fall, this house and their parents are always here and we will never cast them out. We love them way too much!! <><

 

[Kenny47]

The State should never be allowed to teach anything to do with sex education other than the mechanics/chemistry of procreation.
In Canada the State is insisting upon forcing children in schools to be acquainted with the option that same sex intercourse is a genuine option. Need I go into details here?
Personal behaviour is the sole responsibility of the parents.

 

[Ephraim]

The State should never be allowed to teach anything to do with sex education other than the mechanics/chemistry of procreation.
In Canada the State is insisting upon forcing children in schools to be acquainted with the option that same sex intercourse is a genuine option. Need I go into details here?
Personal behaviour is the sole responsibility of the parents.

Why not?

Children often take what they learn in school to be more world-valuable than what their parents say. The general consensus is more important to children than the sole advice of parents, a lot of the time. And when children are ONLY taught a cold, logical approach to sex, in schools, without any emotional emphasis or any kind of importance placed on it, then we give kids the idea that sex is just sex and nothing more.

In a perfect world we'd teach the psychological and emotional aspects of sex in schools along with the physical, perhaps from a qualified, experienced counselor; someone impartial and whose job demands them to be. Someone who has seen much to do with the mechanics of relationships and the effects of sex, infidelity, etc etc.

 

[Nautilus]

I'll probably teach my own kids about sex, simply because i dont approve of the way churches nor schools do it.

 

[Photoss]

No one taught me sex ed. When I was curious about it in my early teens, I got out the 1968 World Book Encyclopedia and looked it up. After reading for about 20 minutes, I said "So that's how that all works", and that was that. No discussions, contemplation, or lectures.

 

[Fromdomlove]

Parents, schools, churches, but always stick to the bible.

 

[Nautilus]

Parents, schools, churches, but always stick to the bible.

you realize the bible really doesnt teach anything about sex other than waiting til marriage...

 

[Grey]

you realize the bible really doesnt teach anything about sex other than waiting til marriage...

Not to mention it has nothing on sex ed.