which would be harder for you?

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DuchessAimee said:
This reply may be inappropriate, but since I've already posted on Facebook that I took a pregnancy test today, why not answer this question?



I think it would depend on the kiss. If you're talking about kissing someone's cheek, hand, or forehead, it's not that big of a deal. If you're talking about kissing someone on the mouth, that's different. And I'm assuming for a female they would be kissing a male, true? Although, I'd kiss a female on the cheek or hand. But now I have started to consider germs and all that. According to my current lab instructor, once I get to microbiology my house will smell like bleach all the time.


I have a several questions because 1) it matters, 2) that's part of the medical training, and 3) it's more entertaining this way. So, OP, please clarify. :)
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yes i meant opposite gender and on the mouth
 
@ lil. i think it would be harder for me to go without heat....im so cold blooded.

@aimee....people are such know it alls...to think they know if you're preggers or not. it's absurd.

@zero. i don't understand why you'd comment on one of my threads. i thought you wanted nothing to do with me ever again and i was to pretend you didn't exist anymore. you're on my ignore list btw. julianna too. after the way you guys treated me on my 'fall in love' thread i just shut you guys out bc the way you talked to me wasn't cool. i mean it wasn't anywhere near as bad as the others on that thread but the fact you took their sides, i'm a little confused as to why you're still talking to me.

obviously you think the worst of me.
 
Zero, with all of the love of Christ within me I ask you to please not take the bait. Please. :) Blessing comes from the higher road.
 
Jullianna said:
Zero, with all of the love of Christ within me I ask you to please not take the bait. Please. :) Blessing comes from the higher road.
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take the bait? he's the one who said 'forget about me. from now on i will never talk to you again and you can just forget i existed' who do you think you are? i'm not baiting him. i'm asking why he's on my thread when he made his opinion clear. and SO did you.

either answer it or don't but don't act like i'm fishing for a fight. i'm not. i'm stating what happened and asking what you guys are even doing on my posts anymore with how you obviously feel about me.
 
DuchessAimee said:
This reply may be inappropriate, but since I've already posted on Facebook that I took a pregnancy test today, why not answer this question?
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DuchessAimee said:
Yeah, I took a pregnancy test in my lab class today. Not because I thought I needed one, but because my instructor needed a volunteer. People in class were excited because they thought I might be pregnant. Even after I said that there was no possibility of it.


One girl was all, "You never know." Um... yeah, I do.


And I had to stop myself from asking why she thought I wouldn't know if I was pregnant or not. Then I wanted to recommend that she not go into the medical profession.
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Oh Wow, Aimee, I'm so glad I actually read BOTH your posts!!!! :) Like most others here, my initial reaction was, "HUH????"

I was going to write you a post saying, "We're here for you!! Please let us know how we can help!" but then I saw your second post and just smiled!!! Actually, before I read your second post, I thought, "Wow, Aimee is really honest, and I respect that."

Actually... at my old job, there was a time when people used to start a rumor about every six months that I was pregnant. When I finally cornered someone as to why, they said, "Well, someone saw you eating Saltine crackers... and everyone knows Saltines are 'pregnancy food'..." GOOD GRIEF!!!! I told them, "Well, only pregnancy is an illness you can catch by sitting next to someone on a bus."

Now, to make this post legit :) ...

I would say that although I definitely miss kissing... I would not be able to kiss either person because I invest a lot of emotion into a kiss... and kissing someone means I become attached to them.

In the first case, if I never saw the person again, I'd feel sad and as if something (or, more accurately, someone) was missing... and in the second, I wouldn't want to make things awkward. Though I have kissed friends, both male and female, depending, on the side of the face. (I was personally referring to kisses on the mouth, which I would reserve for a relationship, but that's just me.)
 
Neither and both. Easy to kiss anyone, but difficult to do so as a married woman.
 
Okay, really really REALLY honest post here. Are you ready?

For me, because of my past, physical intimacy isn't intimate at all. There is very little, if any, emotion or meaning behind it. At this point kissing it's more like a gateway drug. It leads to other things that I'm not so cool with. It's something that God and I are working on and that I hope is healed in me some day. Believe me, it's not the way that I want to live my life and I don't think that it would be very fair to my husband, were I to ever marry.
So, with that said, it wouldn't be difficult at all for me to kiss a complete stranger because that's all that it would be and I would never see them again. If I kiss someone that I know and who's around regularly, it would either create a weird separation between us, or it could open a door to more things happening that I don't want to open. :/
 
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Well Crud, Cat. I tried to give you rep for this post but the system won't let me.

Thank you for such a beautifully raw and honest post.

I feel exactly the same way about kissing being a "gateway drug" that can lead to things that might be regretted (although I am the opposite in that it bursts open the channels to feel emotionally connected to someone that is superficial and not deeply rooted in the right foundations.)
 
Catlynn said:
Okay, really really REALLY honest post here. Are you ready?

For me, because of my past, physical intimacy isn't intimate at all. There is very little, if any, emotion or meaning behind it. At this point kissing it's more like a gateway drug. It leads to other things that I'm not so cool with. It's something that God and I are working on and that I hope is healed in me some day. Believe me, it's not the way that I want to live my life and I don't think that it would be very fair to my husband, were I to ever marry.
So, with that said, it wouldn't be difficult at all for me to kiss a complete stranger because that's all that it would be and I would never see them again. If I kiss someone that I know and who's around regularly, it would either create a weird separation between us, or it could open a door to more things happening that I don't want to open. :/
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thanks for your honesty!
i hear that.
and yeah. the friendship thing. it would make it super weird, right?
a friend of mine tried to kiss me last night (hence the reason for this post) and i told him it would ruin the friendship and be super awkward for me. but i think he only tried bc i mentioned something about finding a stranger to kiss :D
i have yet to actually do that or anything but. ya know. sometimes i think it would be fun.

anyways. i tried to tell him that i thought kissing a stranger is way easier than kissing someone you actually know. i dont think he understood though. but i feel like i stuck myself in a little box there lol....
 
Catlynn said:
Okay, really really REALLY honest post here. Are you ready?

For me, because of my past, physical intimacy isn't intimate at all. There is very little, if any, emotion or meaning behind it. At this point kissing it's more like a gateway drug. It leads to other things that I'm not so cool with. It's something that God and I are working on and that I hope is healed in me some day. Believe me, it's not the way that I want to live my life and I don't think that it would be very fair to my husband, were I to ever marry.
So, with that said, it wouldn't be difficult at all for me to kiss a complete stranger because that's all that it would be and I would never see them again. If I kiss someone that I know and who's around regularly, it would either create a weird separation between us, or it could open a door to more things happening that I don't want to open. :/
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Very touching post, Cat. I will be praying with you about this.
 
Kissing a friend would be harder for me.....because I wouldn't someone who is just a friend and never has any possibility of becoming more with me starting to think of me in a romantic way.....all it takes is one kiss to change the way a person feels about you.
 
ijustwanttheTruth said:
would it be harder for you to kiss someone you don't know at all and will probably never see again? or to kiss someone you know who is a friend who you will likely see all the time for a very long time?
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...hmm... Neither would be "harder" because both scenarios would be impossible, frankly, for me to participate in. Where I come from, friends don't kiss, but an engaged couple or lovers married to each other do. :D

Therefore, all my kisses are very hard to come by, and only that one fellow protecting my thoughts and kisses would know he has become God's treasure in my mind and would own my heart as well as all my kissing.
 
ijustwanttheTruth said:
would it be harder for you to kiss someone you don't know at all and will probably never see again? or to kiss someone you know who is a friend who you will likely see all the time for a very long time.
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It'd be so much easier to kiss someone I don't know at all. I can't imagine kissing one of my guy friends. It'd never be the same. :$
 
My first kiss was with a stranger. I was 21, it was very random and I was not expecting it at all. I hung out with her after work for a couple of hours, she told me that she saw me a lot around and that she was hoping that I saw her too. She said that a few weeks before, I had been nice to her on the Bus and she didn't forget that. I had no idea who she was. And after a couple of tacos, it was late and I wanted to go home. And on the bridge leading to where the gate to my base opens, she took my hand and gave me a look that I simply couldn't misunderstand, so I kissed her.

I had no idea, something could be so magical. But I regretted that it was not with someone I knew or someone I cared about or loved. I knew I would never see her again but, I had no idea. I never knew it was like that. I never imagined something so simple could make me feel so alive.


I realized then that some things are for love alone.


In a way it was as though I had eaten from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. My view of the world would never be the same again.
 
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