I think some of you single people are livin in la la land. God is just going to drop my husband or wife in my lap if he wants me to get married... ... What if he desires for you to get married, but your to busy thinking God is a magical genie and put no work or effort into it.
Yes, this!!
Here is a quote from a book. I don't actually have the book...my friend just took a picture of a page and sent it to me. I thought it was really insightful:
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"When it comes to choosing a mate, God will bring the right person to me at the right time. I'll just sit back and wait."
That sounds so spiritual, so trusting, so...holy.
But consider this attitude to virtually any other aspect of life. For instance, how "holy" and wise does this sound: "I don't plan to apply to any college. I figure if I'm supposed to go to college, God will make sure the University of Texas sends me a letter, complete with a dorm key. That'll be my sign."
Or this: "Why should I fill out any job applications? If God wants me to work at Microsoft, he can have the CEO give me a call."
If someone spoke like that, you'd think that person was a verifiable religious fanatic. But we put the language of dating and finding a mate into similar "Christianese", and it sounds so noble: "Don't worry about finding someone to marry. If you just focus on God, He'll bring someone along at the right time."
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NOW. This isn't to say that we aren't to wait on God's timing. Sometimes He tells us no, sometimes wait, sometimes yes. It doesn't mean rush into anything. Yes, sometimes people come into your life that you'd never expect, and God "brought them along at the right time". I have friends like that. But God isn't going to just drop off my perfect man at my doorstep. Sometimes it takes action and effort. It takes saying hi. Maybe to someone you've looked over and passed before.
There's tons of examples in the Bible where people had to work for what God told them would happen. God told Moses He'd show him His wonders if he took the staff, but Moses had to confront Pharaoh. God told Noah it would rain, something Noah had never even seen before, but he had to build a boat, first.
Does it mean going after every single person? No. But don't expect God to do all the work for you, either.