Do you believe God has someone specific for you to marry?

[JoyofLord]

I have heard many different theories about this question. My previous Pastor does not believe God has a particular person for you to marry and then I hear other people's testimonies where they knew she or he was the one God wanted him or her to marry. I have also had a prophecy about my future husband. I personally believe if God has a will for my life wouldn't he have someone for me, my Adam so to speak? Would love to hear what other people think or have experienced regarding this question.

 

[AsifinPassing]

Hmm...how to respond accurately and succinctly...

"No." on the soulmate's debate, but "yes" in that I do believe there are some (maybe not necessarily just one) which God may 'ordain' 'bless' 'approve' or otherwise (and adversely) that there are some who God may tell you to say away from. I've had that experience, and know others who share in it. They REALLY wanted that girl, and God said...no you don't. ...and they didn't believe Him, so He let them go through a little glimpse of hell, and then come back and find one from the 'approved group' later on.

It's complicated, though, and beliefs in this area greatly vary.

 

[sparkie2003]

Short answer - NO!

I do not believe that out of the 7+ billion people in the world that God appoints one for each person and then makes them look through all those people like looking for a needle in a haystack! My word....

People are adaptable, there are hundreds of possibilities out there for a mate.

 

[kenisyes]

There are some people with a specific call, even for marriage. But it is not too common, and those who do not have such a call have difficulty believing some do. If the person you are called to be with, or the thing you are called to do, refuses to do their part, the call is renewed to someone else. I know of people who specifically have been assigned to ministries after others have said no.

 

[kenthomas27]

Short answer - NO!

I do not believe that out of the 7+ billion people in the world that God appoints one for each person and then makes them look through all those people like looking for a needle in a haystack! My word....

People are adaptable, there are hundreds of possibilities out there for a mate.

Exactly right Sparkle 2003! Otherwise mine would be on mars.

 

[sparkie2003]

Exactly right Sparkle 2003! Otherwise mine would be on mars.

Your crashing my hopes Kenthomas. - I was waiting for the maned flight to Mars to find mine. After all I'm living and (waiting) on Venus!

 

[Liamson]

AsifinPassing's view is pretty much mine as well.

 

[Yahshua]

hmmm, interesting question...


God doesn't change right? So I can only lean on scripture that says:

(Gen 2:23-24) And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

....So that would suggest there is a woman/man for EVERY man/woman, but then Christ says (explaining another point):

(Matthew 19:12) "For there are eunuchs (i.e. 'celibate, or otherwise not inclined to marry and procreate') who were born that way from their mother's womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it."

...So this would suggest that not EVERY woman/man has a man/women. Then Paul says:

(1 Corinthians 7:8-9) Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

...So I think it's really down to choice; whether a woman wants an Husband, and whether a man wants a Wife. If this be your desire then ask God for that person, specifically; everything you want to see in them (not being vague or fatalistic)...because - ultimately - God's will is for us is to know & trust him; that he provides all our needs. Which is why Christ said:

(John 14:13-14) "And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it."

And...

(Mark 11:24) Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Then it will be truly a case of...

(Mark 10:9) Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

My take on things at least.

 

[KJV15John11]

I have heard many different theories about this question. My previous Pastor does not believe God has a particular person for you to marry and then I hear other people's testimonies where they knew she or he was the one God wanted him or her to marry. I have also had a prophecy about my future husband. I personally believe if God has a will for my life wouldn't he have someone for me, my Adam so to speak? Would love to hear what other people think or have experienced regarding this question.

I believe that God brings people into and out of our lives at times as we have need. They are there to help us learn and grow, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. Not one person can be all things to all people. Out of all of those people your life touches, you may come across someone that you are to marry.

For myself, I have dated women who swore that I was the one they prayed for. They said that I had the traits they wanted in a husband. Wether or not that was true, even though God has answered their prayers, THEY had not prepared themselves to be in the relationship they claimed they wanted. You can't pray for a man to take you around the world if you don't have a passport and your bags packed!

I have learned to cherish each person that comes into my life and the time we spend together. I can see how I became a better person for it and only hope that I was able to add to their lives too.

Okay, JoyofLord, you got my curiosity up. What was in your prophecy about your future husband? If, of course, you don't mind. Mostly I would like to see if I have had a similar one and missed my own.

 

[AsifinPassing]

...and if you want to start throwing scripture in there (a whole thread topic in and of itself...)...here are some things to consider:

[h=3]1 Samuel 16:7[/h]English Standard Version (ESV)

7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”



1 Corinthians 7 NIV - Concerning Married Life - Now for the - Bible Gateway

Matthew 5 ESV - The Sermon on the Mount - Seeing the - Bible Gateway

Bible Verses About Marriage

 

[BananaPie]

...THEY had not prepared themselves to be in the relationship they claimed they wanted. You can't pray for a man to take you around the world if you don't have a passport and your bags packed!

Precisely!

There are men who continually seek their one "dream girl," and when they find her realizing she's actually REAL, they're unable to commit to her because they rather keep dreaming... Their lives are pretty much a dating carrousel. LOL

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Q: Do you believe God has someone specific for you to marry?
A: No. It's up to each of us to choose who we shall marry or not marry. The Christian divorce rate reflects that.

 

[MissCris]

I think God lets US decide who the "one" for us is, and then leaves it mainly in our hands to make it work with our "one".

That's why some people have two, three...four..."ones".

Wait, no...I'm trying to say...

*sigh* I had it, and now I don't.

 

[rachelsedge]

Short answer - NO!

I do not believe that out of the 7+ billion people in the world that God appoints one for each person and then makes them look through all those people like looking for a needle in a haystack! My word....

People are adaptable, there are hundreds of possibilities out there for a mate.

This is what I think. Out of the millions of eligible men for me, surely there's more than one I'm compatible with. Plus, what if I marry "the one", then he dies, and I remarry...which one was really "the one"?

 

[JoyofLord]

...and if you want to start throwing scripture in there (a whole thread topic in and of itself...)...here are some things to consider:

1 Samuel 16:7

English Standard Version (ESV)

7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”



1 Corinthians 7 NIV - Concerning Married Life - Now for the - Bible Gateway

Matthew 5 ESV - The Sermon on the Mount - Seeing the - Bible Gateway

Bible Verses About Marriage

Thank you, that lines up with some of the prophecy I had

 

[JoyofLord]

thanks for everyone's response, it is really helpful. I love to hear other people's takes on it

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I believe that sometimes God does intend for two specific people to marry. We see his plans unfolding in this way in scripture, to form the lineage of Jesus according to prophesy. But I don't believe that everyone has one soul mate that they'd better find, or they'll not be in God's will.

 

[jb]

Do you believe God has someone specific for you to marry?

Emphatically YES! Phil 4v19...

 

[colalella2891]

Dr. Mark Chirona, Bishop of Church on the Living Edge (I don't go there, but my mom listens to his services on the computer a lot) went to bible school. He's a doctor in theology. In his studies he learned that God has one specific person for everyone who is supposed to be married.

Dr. Mark Chirona is a very spiritual man, and that makes sense to me. So I think I believe that.

 

[JoyofLord]

There are some people with a specific call, even for marriage. But it is not too common, and those who do not have such a call have difficulty believing some do. If the person you are called to be with, or the thing you are called to do, refuses to do their part, the call is renewed to someone else. I know of people who specifically have been assigned to ministries after others have said no.

I was often wondering about that, it's like a plan a and plan b so to speak. If God has a will and we have free will then I suppose he brings other's in to complete his work. My pastor says it's not your ability it's your availability.