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AMEN! I do not believe in "the one" theory. If that were the case I'd still be married, I wouldn't be very much interested in the great man I'm growing to know more through God. Do I believe there is someone for everyone, yes. That there is THE ONE specific person, no. Otherwise, once they found that person and married, they wouldn't get divorced they would be with that one person. God has a plan for our lives and we have to sit back and not try to understand these things. God will place people in your life for a reason, it's not always to think that the person is "the one".. I think that theory is ridiculous.
I have heard many different theories about this question. My previous Pastor does not believe God has a particular person for you to marry and then I hear other people's testimonies where they knew she or he was the one God wanted him or her to marry. I have also had a prophecy about my future husband. I personally believe if God has a will for my life wouldn't he have someone for me, my Adam so to speak? Would love to hear what other people think or have experienced regarding this question. 
YES- I do believe. My husband is everything i'm not and i'm everything he isn't.
We have become one and are making the 'better person'. We became christians together within our first year of marriage and then were baptised together in the same church we were married in. I do believe he brought us together because through our experiences we both became saved.
It would be interesting to see a poll on this thread
And all you lovely people will find someone, if it is God's plan
I'll agree with John Piper on this one..
Choosing a life partner can be the biggest blessing ... or the biggest mistake you will make in life.
To be honest I was not a Christian when I married, so sometimes I feel not very qualified to talk on the subject of 2 Christians getting married. However, I certainly have learned a lot..through my own hard lessons which Jesus has brought me through.
Choosing a life partner can be the biggest blessing ... or the biggest mistake you will make in life.
To be honest I was not a Christian when I married, so sometimes I feel not very qualified to talk on the subject of 2 Christians getting married. However, I certainly have learned a lot..through my own hard lessons which Jesus has brought me through.
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Well, inasmuch as I agree with John Piper, I'll disagree that a godly person would be a mistake to their spouse.
We saints did not make a mistake in honoring the holy vows of marriage; the spouse going astray and destroying the marriage is the one making the mistake by rejecting God's blessings upon the holy marriage. ...just saying...
We saints did not make a mistake in honoring the holy vows of marriage; the spouse going astray and destroying the marriage is the one making the mistake by rejecting God's blessings upon the holy marriage. ...just saying...
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Well, inasmuch as I agree with John Piper, I'll disagree that a godly person would be a mistake to their spouse.
We saints did not make a mistake in honoring the holy vows of marriage; the spouse going astray and destroying the marriage is the one making the mistake by rejecting God's blessings upon the holy marriage. ...just saying...
We saints did not make a mistake in honoring the holy vows of marriage; the spouse going astray and destroying the marriage is the one making the mistake by rejecting God's blessings upon the holy marriage. ...just saying...
Hi Banana pie,
I may not be able to answer this properly as I wasn't a Christian when I got married and my EX wasn't a Christian when the marriage ended.
But I can assume that not all marriages (with 2 Christians) fail because of one going astray, I am sure it is for a good amount. You may not have made a mistake with your vow.. but did you make a mistake in choosing your ex? I don't know.
Anyhow, As I say I'm maybe not the best qualified here to speak on it.
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Well, all godly marriages are never "planned" for either spouse to go astray, are they? It's not like, "Say, my beloved Sister, would you grace my life in honoring my hand in holy marriage... until I no longer love you, which will be in about 12 yrs, or most likely 7...?
And even when a spouse goes astray, the remaining godly spouse is to forgive, find mercy and prayfully bring the apostate spouse back into the straight and narrow. It's when there is no coming back from rebellion that it's clearly understood that apostate spouse has made a mistake by no longer wanting (loving) the faithful spouse.
Sin is rebellion, but God is love and faithful. The Lord is good.
And even when a spouse goes astray, the remaining godly spouse is to forgive, find mercy and prayfully bring the apostate spouse back into the straight and narrow. It's when there is no coming back from rebellion that it's clearly understood that apostate spouse has made a mistake by no longer wanting (loving) the faithful spouse.
Sin is rebellion, but God is love and faithful. The Lord is good.
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Well, I can say this....
First off, make sure your potential mate honors God, or they wont honor you.
Secondly, if/when you do marry that God honoring person, you better make sure that you now fully believe that they ARE the one God specifically chose for you, and live your life with God accordingly as He called us to in marriage.
God bless in your seeking
I hope this helps.
First off, make sure your potential mate honors God, or they wont honor you.
Secondly, if/when you do marry that God honoring person, you better make sure that you now fully believe that they ARE the one God specifically chose for you, and live your life with God accordingly as He called us to in marriage.
God bless in your seeking
I hope this helps.
Yes! Yes! Yes! believe God has someone very specific for me. He told me early on that he had a husband for me that my heart has always desired, and one week the Lord was speaking very clearly to me about him. The Lord showed me three times a man walking down the road to me, and he spoke the verse to me three different times that nothing is impossible with God! Then that weekend my Pastor preached on, "Noting is impossible with God!" He preached on how Mary didn't have to have a man to have a baby. God can do anything. The Lord also spoke to my heart that week about the widow woman in the bible who was about ready to lose her son as a slave because of her debt, about how God had her borrow bowls and had her fill them with oil, and through that he multplied the oil and paid all of her debt. The Lord reminded me of that event in the bible and showed me that he would provide for me till my husband came (of course, even aftewards). Well, that weekend when my Pastor preached on the widow woman and during his message he would stop and look at me and ask me if I see my husband coming down the road to me (3 times) and quoted the verse "nothing is impossible with God (3 times) and preached on the widow woman. So, I know God has someone very specfic for me and he is coming to me, I'm not going to him. God is faithful to his promises!
The only thing I see on this subject in the bible is about how Abraham (type and shadow of God) sent his servant (type and shadow of the Holy Spirit) to get Isaac (type and shadow of Jesus, the Son of God) his son a bride and his servant was lead to Rebecca, the one God had intended for him. Of couse the bride here is a type and shadow of the church, but in the natural we can relate it to the fact that God has a specific spouse for each person he created, unless of course the were meant to be unicks (sorry, can't remember how to spell it) for Christ. Holy Spirit, go get my spouse :0)!