I really enjoyed your post. I think it's wonderful that you just put it honestly out there. Isn't this what everyone who is divorced thinks about? Here's what I think for whatever it's worth. I am divorced, not by my choice. If I was ever again in a serious relationship, I would leave no stone unturned in making sure we were on the same page. First up would be our commitment to God, and then to each other. Then I would have to feel stable on other subjects from sex to family, spending money, retirement, everything I could think of. I would pray pray pray. I would put trust in God. I would also openly discuss sex, which I think is a blessing from God, and a very important of a healthy marriage. In my church, I have taken 2 years of divorce care classes, and have had many many talks about what went wrong. All I have ever heard is lack of commitment to God and sex issues which lead to affairs. God has a plan for all of us, and maybe being alone isn't part of His plan. I would take my time in building the relationship, I would seek God's approval, and I would talk about everything. I think this would be a great new forum. God's blessings on you.