I don't mean to be argumentative here, but I was wondering about that...how can any human being "mess up" God's- GOD'S- plan?
I mean...we can mess up within God's plan for us, sure. We can mess up our own lives pretty darn good, and most of us do, to some extent. But in the end...God's will is done. Nothing we do can "ruin" or "mess up" His plan.
I just feel like it's really sort of...I dunno, conceited, maybe?...to think we can throw a wrench into God's perfect plan, and mess it up so badly that the result He had intended is null and void. We might fight Him, we might take a more difficult route, we might make a bazillion poor decisions on the way, but if we are truly saved, don't we eventually get where God was leading us?
I think a lot of the time, people's mistakes ARE part of God's plan, anyway- because mistakes humble us and teach us and often take us closer to the Lord than we were before we stumbled and shot off like a rocket in the wrong direction. Sometimes, without going the wrong way, it's hard for us to see what the right way even is.
I married the wrong person the first time around. I am positive that my first marriage was not God's ultimate plan for my life. But I didn't mess up that plan by marrying the wrong person- I hurt myself, and my ex-husband, and a handful of other people, and God was probably up in Heaven shaking His head and facepalming at me...
Anyway, all that is a big reason why I don't believe that there is just one specific person out there for each and every one of us. If that was true, that everyone had a single someone out there, then YES, by all means, we'd all be screwing up God's plan left and right. As it is, I think that some people DO have a specific person they are "meant" for, while some of us could be happy with a wide variety of other people in a marriage- once we are married to a person, however, I feel it is largely our responsibility to not only make said person our "one", but also to become that person's "one"- and still other people aren't meant for marriage at all.
I honestly have no idea if any of that makes any sense.
But I tried...I tried.