Do you believe God has someone specific for you to marry?

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meiBaby

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i agree with the YES when you have a call from God and He has destiny over you. Again, there is this question about timing and the willingness of the other party to do their part.. which i thought causes delay but certainly still i believe through His Spirit they will be united in the long run. God knows our nature and He knows who are those who would willingly surrender to His will. He knows the beginning and the end of our actions and decisions ;) therefore, He can't be wrong when He has destined two people together :)
 
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WordGaurdian

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My future wife will have black hair, blue eyes. Be a lawyer of profession, have a minister as a dad. Haven't met her yet.

Specifics is good. It helps you to look for the right one God intended you to marry. Why don't we want to do it? Fear. Lack of Patience. We want it NOW! But God doesn't work that way. IF you wanna be happy. Ask God who He intended for you and He will show you as much as your faith can handle.

God isn't the one that is not willing to share information. After all He said we should ask HIM off the future. After you know what you must do for Him, what is more important than family?

I hope you find your Adam... so to speak.
 
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JoyofLord

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WordGaurdian said:
My future wife will have black hair, blue eyes. Be a lawyer of profession, have a minister as a dad. Haven't met her yet.

Specifics is good. It helps you to look for the right one God intended you to marry. Why don't we want to do it? Fear. Lack of Patience. We want it NOW! But God doesn't work that way. IF you wanna be happy. Ask God who He intended for you and He will show you as much as your faith can handle.

God isn't the one that is not willing to share information. After all He said we should ask HIM off the future. After you know what you must do for Him, what is more important than family?

I hope you find your Adam... so to speak.
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Thank you so much for your encouraging word, it's so nice to hear it builds my faith :) bless you
 
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Phia

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I think God does have someone specific for us to marry. Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic *shrugs* but I like the sound of it. Knowing God's got that area under control too makes it so much easier for me. I don't have to look or "test the waters"..in God's perfect timing the right guy will come along..and until then I'm good.
 
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jesus-walks

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I think god has a person out there for everyone...I kno he does,
 
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felicecan

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I believe so. If the Lord wills you to be married, He has the best choice in mind. :)
 
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Bryancampbell

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I always wondered this, help me out if you know. But what if the perfect person comes into your life, sent by God, and it shows to be good, but because of your lack of respect and such, you break up with what God blessed you. On the other hand to the other person, it might have not been the perfect match because it was out of their control, and God does this to help strengthen this person's faith. But later on finds the right person in the end.

Is this a possibility? That to one person, they gave up on a blessing that was what God wanted, but to the one who automatically had no control over it, it was actually God's will that they weren't to be compatible? It sounds confusing but if you understand what I mean, it's like a two way plan of God, that somehow seems like fate or not at all...how would you explain this?

I was trying to connect the topic with this questionnaire, sorry..
 
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KJV15John11

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Bryancampbell said:
I always wondered this, help me out if you know. But what if the perfect person comes into your life, sent by God, and it shows to be good, but because of your lack of respect and such, you break up with what God blessed you. On the other hand to the other person, it might have not been the perfect match because it was out of their control, and God does this to help strengthen this person's faith. But later on finds the right person in the end.

Is this a possibility? That to one person, they gave up on a blessing that was what God wanted, but to the one who automatically had no control over it, it was actually God's will that they weren't to be compatible? It sounds confusing but if you understand what I mean, it's like a two way plan of God, that somehow seems like fate or not at all...how would you explain this?

I was trying to connect the topic with this questionnaire, sorry..
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I think where things get complicated is when we ourselves are not clear what we want. If we say that we will follow God's will and not our own, God will call us on it. He will send you exactly where He wants you to be. If you reject that, you will end up astray. If you pray for your heart's desire, He will provide that, but you have to be willing to accept that as well.

Too many times, we reject exactly what we ask for, and then we go on our own and we wonder why it failed. It's a good lesson to be clear about what it is that you are asking, and then be ready for the answer. God takes every opportunity for us to learn, but are we obedient students, or stubborn children?
 
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Bryancampbell

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KJV15John11 said:
I think where things get complicated is when we ourselves are not clear what we want. If we say that we will follow God's will and not our own, God will call us on it. He will send you exactly where He wants you to be. If you reject that, you will end up astray. If you pray for your heart's desire, He will provide that, but you have to be willing to accept that as well.

Too many times, we reject exactly what we ask for, and then we go on our own and we wonder why it failed. It's a good lesson to be clear about what it is that you are asking, and then be ready for the answer. God takes every opportunity for us to learn, but are we obedient students, or stubborn children?
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So let's say that person who rejects what they asked, begged, and waited for. And it was what God gave. But their abuse of keeping it led this person to give up and lose it.

But to the other partner, it was actually God's will for the two to part because God had a bigger plan for this person's misfortune. Later on finds a better person who was the actual mate.

I'm like pondering still how God's will for person 1 is to be with person 2. But at the same time it was God's will for person 2 to move on to something better.

I guess this relates to Israel and the Church. Like...because of Israel disobedience, we all now have the chance of salvation. Like Israel it was not good to disobey, but to us it was good because it makes the world open to God's mercy....??? Like a two way plan..
 
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presidente

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JoyofLord said:
I have heard many different theories about this question. My previous Pastor does not believe God has a particular person for you to marry and then I hear other people's testimonies where they knew she or he was the one God wanted him or her to marry. I have also had a prophecy about my future husband. I personally believe if God has a will for my life wouldn't he have someone for me, my Adam so to speak? Would love to hear what other people think or have experienced regarding this question. :)
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I believe God can have one individual chosen for another individual to marry. I don't believe each man out there is an 'Adam' who has exactly one 'Eve' created for him. If that were the case, then widows and widowers should not be allowed to remarry, but they may.

The Bible says, "If you marry you have not sinned". I take that to mean assuming marriage is not contrary to what God has commanded.

But you can also pray for the Lord to send you to a particular person. Abraham prayed for God to send an angel before his servant to find a bride for Isaac, and the choice seems to have been divinely arranged.

I prayed about who I was to marry and saw a really brief vision of her that tipped me off after I met her.
 
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libertygirl

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I don't know, the bible doesn't tell us. If God did have only one person for us, wouldn't He have instructed us in His word to wait for our soul mate? I would think so because that sounds like really important information that we should know.
 
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Interesting that so many heroes of the faith had more than one wife, even more if you include concubines. Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, David, Solomon, and Caleb, for example. "The one" is not a biblical principle. It can be based on passages from the Bible, but it is not Biblical truth.
 
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