How many of you wear purity rings?

[Ritter]

If you mean my post, I should have been more clear. I knew that you were a dude, but I was posting that for any ladies who might be reading the thread.

Although, I was thinking later that there might be some girls who would see a purity ring on a guy as a challenge? I haven't run into any, but I'm sure they exist. So maybe you, (and the other people who are 100% dude), should be on the lookout for the same thing.

Are all purity rings the same? I always thought they were just rings people have on as a reminder to themselves.

 

[PopClick]

Are all purity rings the same? I always thought they were just rings people have on as a reminder to themselves.

The designated purity rings I've seen say "True Love Waits", and are quite recognizable. But any ring could have that significance to its wearer.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Oh this was the best of the day! I LOVE it!

I am not wearing mine currently as it is sitting in a jar at home waiting to be fixed when I have money. My father gave it to me for my 16th birthday and I had literally worn it every day. I wore it on my left ring finger as a symbol of saying "I belong to my heavenly Father first and then to my earthly father second. Any man who dares to hurt me is going to be held accountable not just to my father....but to my entire family." That's always the reason for the gun above the door

 

[ServantStrike]

Are all purity rings the same? I always thought they were just rings people have on as a reminder to themselves.

That's what I thought too. The more you know I guess.

The confusing thing about them for me is that from a distance, a ring on the left ring finger looks like a promise ring, or maybe a non traditional engagement ring. Personally, if I have to ask, I won't. Just like I won't ask out a woman who's clearly trying to get me to do so even though I know she has a boyfriend (I guess because she's tired of him and wants someone better, and it's remarkable how many times that's happened).

So, there is risk of collateral damage there. The very men who won't pressure you for sex may be the men who think your purity ring is a promise ring. I never wore a purity ring but I wore a ring with a cross on it on my right ring finger. I stopped wearing it as it actually confused several people.

But I think the concept is cool, it just needs to be obvious what it is.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I don't have a purity ring. I just wish I was the one who came up with the idea.

 

[Tintin]

Well, if you want to protect your virginity before marriage, there are more effective means.

Dress up like Steve Urkel. That would probably get the job done.

Dressing up like Steve Urkel would also ensure that you're not able to have children, ever. Those trousers were high, too high!

And no, I don't have a purity ring. I don't know anyone who does.

 

[vanillakay]

I don't own one right now BUT I plan to get one hopefully soon.

 

[OGM]

Is the Purity Ring worn on the same finger as the Wedding ring? Could someone confuse it for a Wedding Ring?

 

[Ilam05]

I have had my promise ring for about 5 years and I thank god I have not done something bad in those years. I wear mine like if it was an engagement ring lol if a guy likes me enough he will ask why I have a ring on and if not than I don't bother saying anything

 

[Usher4christ]

Hmm jesuschica1991, so a ring is your reminder of your relationship with your heavenly father?

 

[Shouryu]

I have had my promise ring for about 5 years and I thank god I have not done something bad in those years. I wear mine like if it was an engagement ring lol if a guy likes me enough he will ask why I have a ring on and if not than I don't bother saying anything

If I see a ring, I don't ask. Doesn't matter what the ring looks like - a ring means taken, which means I won't express interest. *shrug*

 

[MissCris]

If a purity ring makes people think you're already taken, and keeping them from asking you out, then I guess....it's working, right?

I honestly had never even heard of purity rings until just recently, on here. And I was like...wut?! I don't get it. People need a ring to remind them to keep their pants on? Weird.

I'm not bashing anyone who wears one. It's a...nice...idea. If it works for you and helps you, then...*shrugs* cool beans.

 

[Tintin]

If a purity ring makes people think you're already taken, and keeping them from asking you out, then I guess....it's working, right?

I honestly had never even heard of purity rings until just recently, on here. And I was like...wut?! I don't get it. People need a ring to remind them to keep their pants on? Weird.

I'm not bashing anyone who wears one. It's a...nice...idea. If it works for you and helps you, then...*shrugs* cool beans.

I know, right? A belt would make sense. But a ring? That's just crazy-talk!

 

[moonlightlaura]

I dont wear one, I was never given one, but I'm still a virgin. Staying close to God helps me stay pure, even when you have people laughing at you for being one.

 

[KJV15John11]

If a purity ring makes people think you're already taken, and keeping them from asking you out, then I guess....it's working, right?

I honestly had never even heard of purity rings until just recently, on here. And I was like...wut?! I don't get it. People need a ring to remind them to keep their pants on? Weird.

I'm not bashing anyone who wears one. It's a...nice...idea. If it works for you and helps you, then...*shrugs* cool beans.

Cool beans? I haven't heard that in a while since the last time I used it. Then I was told that it wasn't cool by my daughter. She made me stop. Is it cool again, can I start using it again? COOL BEANS!

Actually, even if the purity ring is worn on the wedding ring finger, which I believe is the point, true Christian Men will know the reason. Plus, shouldn't he take the time to know you as a person first and not just as a potential mate? Maybe it'll make him look at you as a sister in Christ before he looks at you as a spouse-to-be.

 

[Pipp]

I don't wear any rings really. Don't know why =/

 

[ServantStrike]

I have had my promise ring for about 5 years and I thank god I have not done something bad in those years. I wear mine like if it was an engagement ring lol if a guy likes me enough he will ask why I have a ring on and if not than I don't bother saying anything

Not jumping on you here, but are you saying the ring has offered you some level of protection from infidelity?

No need to thank God for not doing something bad. You have Christ, just follow Him .

If I see a ring, I don't ask. Doesn't matter what the ring looks like - a ring means taken, which means I won't express interest. *shrug*

That's what I said earlier.

I said if I have to ask, I won't. So confusing...

Promise rings take all shapes and forms, engagement rings are different these days. I can't tell what's what.

If a purity ring makes people think you're already taken, and keeping them from asking you out, then I guess....it's working, right?

I honestly had never even heard of purity rings until just recently, on here. And I was like...wut?! I don't get it. People need a ring to remind them to keep their pants on? Weird.

I'm not bashing anyone who wears one. It's a...nice...idea. If it works for you and helps you, then...*shrugs* cool beans.

Oh yeah, they are all the rage. But they shouldn't be rings.

Bracelets maybe? The ring is so confusing. And they need to be clearer.

Like the bracelet needs to say PURITY in big letters.

 

[Smudge]

If you mean my post, I should have been more clear. I knew that you were a dude, but I was posting that for any ladies who might be reading the thread.

Although, I was thinking later that there might be some girls who would see a purity ring on a guy as a challenge? I haven't run into any, but I'm sure they exist. So maybe you, (and the other people who are 100% dude), should be on the lookout for the same thing.

I'm afraid that you hit it right on the money. There are girls who look at virgin guys as a challenge, or maybe it's more along the lines of "I wanna be the one." Not sure, but I know of guys who were being "attacked" by girls after word got out that they were still virgins. Crazy world we're living in.


As for me- I decided to get a purity ring. It seemed kind of silly and ridiculous because unlike my peers- it was never a question to me if I should wait to have sex before marriage or not. I think I did it just because I wanted to do something for God and I wanted to make it a formal promise.

What ended up happening is that even though I know I could throw this piece of metal into the lake and continue my life as a virgin until marriage easy-peasy- it sends a message to other people. Like to some of my friends who are no longer virgins. That it's still possible to be truly content with one's life and still be a virgin at my age.

As for guys mistaking it for an engagement ring or a promise ring, I don't think I want some guy that doesn't know me to take me out anyway. I'd feel a thousand times more comfortable if it were someone who I did know, and knew me well enough to already know I was completely single. Besides, shouldn't the guy who courts you be someone who would be interested in knowing you even if he knows he may never get into your pants? Isn't that the whole point of staying "pure?"

Same goes the other way around FYI.


Then again.....

What do I know? I'm still waiting for that first date. LOL

 

[ServantStrike]

I'm afraid that you hit it right on the money. There are girls who look at virgin guys as a challenge, or maybe it's more along the lines of "I wanna be the one." Not sure, but I know of guys who were being "attacked" by girls after word got out that they were still virgins. Crazy world we're living in.


As for me- I decided to get a purity ring. It seemed kind of silly and ridiculous because unlike my peers- it was never a question to me if I should wait to have sex before marriage or not. I think I did it just because I wanted to do something for God and I wanted to make it a formal promise.

What ended up happening is that even though I know I could throw this piece of metal into the lake and continue my life as a virgin until marriage easy-peasy- it sends a message to other people. Like to some of my friends who are no longer virgins. That it's still possible to be truly content with one's life and still be a virgin at my age.

As for guys mistaking it for an engagement ring or a promise ring, I don't think I want some guy that doesn't know me to take me out anyway. I'd feel a thousand times more comfortable if it were someone who I did know, and knew me well enough to already know I was completely single. Besides, shouldn't the guy who courts you be someone who would be interested in knowing you even if he knows he may never get into your pants? Isn't that the whole point of staying "pure?"

Same goes the other way around FYI.


Then again.....

What do I know? I'm still waiting for that first date. LOL

Just make sure to drop hints that you're single then. People meet at gatherings with friends etc, and it's not always clear what everyone's relationship status is. And your friends may have friends who are Christians and you don't even know it.

That is for a more informal friend of a friend asking you out. If you want them to meet you a few times first, then yeah, they might figure out you're single, but again make sure that's known.

And yeah, a girl offered to have her really really slutty friend "lay me" when she found out I was still a virgin. I was horrified and declined. It happens on both sides of the fence, and guys do it too (man you should have heard the locker room talk, horrific).

 

[Smudge]

Ugh. Sometimes I feel so bad for you virgin guys. Guys have such a reputation for being "players" that to other people, there must be something wrong with you if you are choosing to be pure. It is changing, but at least there is still a little bit of that, "It has to be a virgin woman that I marry" to ease up on the pressure.

As for the dropping hints- I'm not entirely sure how to do that. Guys say be blunt or they won't catch anything... but at the same time- I don't want to be announcing my single situation to every new guy I meet(and am interested in.) And it would be hard to remember to do... 'cause a lot of the time it's not on my mind.

Most the guys I meet are married any-how, my pastor said this was the most marriages he has ever done in a year. xD