I want to thank everyone for their kind and insightful comments
. While I was hoping to see lots of posts from older men saying, "This is an outrage!! I'll have you know, I'm looking for someone my own age!" and older women who could tell me, "Seoul, you are totally off base!! I get asked out all the time, and I'm 62!"
, we can all see, that ain't going to happen. I guess a person can dream.
Hi ITore!! It IS very refreshing to read that some guys like older women... but as I had written before... it seems that as the ones who liked older women get older, the gears change and then they are looking towards the much-younger crowd (I cited Tom Cruise as an imperfect, but obvious, example.) Men might not explicitly post here that they want someone so much younger, but I guarantee if you're a woman on a dating site, even a Christian one, you discover this very quickly. I wish I could post my last 10 listings of "People Who Have Viewed Your Profile" from the particular site I'm on. The ages are something like this: 53, 57, 65, 68, 74, and yes, 89. Now, on the flip side, and this may seem hypocritical, I also get the other extreme--guys in their early 20's sometimes try to talk to me, but we're just at very different stages in life.
Thanks for all the sentiments as to, "How could you possibly still be single," but aren't we all in the same boat?
So, I'm probably still single for the same reasons every other single person here is single!
One of the main reasons I'm single is because I'm at a point in life in which I do not have the desire to be a parent. Yes, I know God can give a child at any age but I no longer have the will or passion. I did when I was younger and even tried a ready-made-family situation, but have found that I make a much better aunt than than parent. The younger (and sometimes even older) guys, understandably, want families, and that's something I could not accommodate. In my time of singleness, I've learned a lot about what does and doesn't work for me. I have nothing but the utmost respect for single parents, but I also respect them enough to know I don't have what it takes to be among their ranks. It's important to be honest about who you know you are.
I've tried all kinds of things to "change" this as well, like a cat that is trying to be a dog. I volunteered for several kinds of kid's ministries at my church, working with several different ages, and raised two young children as my own in another temporary assistance situation. I loved, loved, loved the kids.
But, each time, I was thinking... I was happier... and felt more like myself... in the prison visiting rooms than I am here.
Not everyone is meant to be a parent, and we are all called to different things. Finding anyone in my age range who has a similar place in life and complementary ministry interests that I could be a good helpmate for has been, to this point, impossible.