Traditional Family: Husband works and Wife is a stay at home mom.

[Blain]

Yes, I admit it. That is comPLETEly the reason.

I KNEW it, I am so Good at this

 

[Elizabeth619]

Try living in that culture back then when most of the time, women weren't able to speak their minds without their husband's knowledge. Bigotry from men contributed to the movement for feminism. We have just as much a right to work as anyone else. Also, what about households where the wife is the only one working because the husband is injured? Should the man have more say-so than the woman based on what she alone brings into the house? I don't think so..

We could also include fathers who are deadbeats and refuse to support their children and the mother has to work to be the main provider.
Not everything is about feminism and "evil women". Many times it is about men not stepping up.... i wonder if the OP ever considered that one.
Or widows who have to work..and injured like you said...

 

[JesusChica1991]

Just out of curiosity, why do you say that you'll be in that kind of family eventually? Your husband might make plenty of money. Or you might both be super frugal, or you could find a perfect way to work from home while your babies are little.

I say that because trends are showing that if families want to make basic ends meet now, both spouses will end up having to work to bring in more money. With my future job in occupational therapy arenas, I won't be working from home. I love working with people. Also, some of that other info is a bit personal so let's just say personal reasons have influenced my decision

 

[Calmador]

That is actually a relatively new concept. In agrarian societies, every family member shared the workload. Every culture has had servants, wet nurses, maids, and slaves of some sort, many of whom had own families in addition to serving their masters. You can also find many examples of women in the Bible being industrious of some pursuit or another. After the industrial revolution children and women as well as the men worked in factories or providing services for the wealthier. Depending on the number of really small children, some women stayed at home for a period of time. Only the upper strata of society could afford for the women not to work, although some of them still did. Don't forget that throughout history many women who may have been present at home were running the household while nannies tended the children.

The 1950's construct of the men going to the office while the women stayed at home and dusted and raised children is an idealized time in history—one that I am rather partial to. It's just not the only picture of what a Biblical family looks like. I will say that I think the first 4 or 5 years of a child's life should be spent with a parent or close relative, if at all possible.

I'm pretty sure its the other way around... women since forever, have been primerly stay at home moms. The key word is "primerly."

I recall families living in factories... according what I remember being taught in History 101. Sure, but I think its still amazing for women to be primerly focused on thier childrens well-being. The keyword is "primerly." I also think scripture shows a picture of a good wife in proverbs 31... which mainly supports the idea of a stay at home mom. Also...
[h=1]1 Timothy 5:14[/h]14 So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

 

[Blain]

We could also include fathers who are deadbeats and refuse to support their children and the mother has to work to be the main provider.
Not everything is about feminism and "evil women". Many times it is about men not stepping up.... i wonder if the OP ever considered that one.
Or widows who have to work..and injured like you said...

Like I said, It's up to us if this thing goes down hill or not. I can sense the vibe here

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Hey guys... the question was simply whether or not we would LIKE to be in a traditional family. It's simply a matter of dreams and ideals. There was not any accusation anywhere, nor any tone to suggest that working mothers were bad people. Let us not be offended where no offense is intended. That isn't a road any of us would want to go down. Keep it positive!

 

[JesusChica1991]

I KNEW it, I am so Good at this

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[Loveneverfails]

All mothers work.

Someday, I would love to be a work-at-home mom.

 

[JesusChica1991]

I'm pretty sure its the other way around... women since forever, have been primerly stay at home moms. The key word is "primerly."

I recall families living in factories... according what I remember being taught in History 101. Sure, but I think its still amazing for women to be primerly focused on thier childrens well-being. The keyword is "primerly." I also think scripture shows a picture of a good wife in proverbs 31... which mainly supports the idea of a stay at home mom. Also...
1 Timothy 5:14

14 So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

They did that because that was the culture. They also had to raise the children because the children were their future for when THEY were to get old and need taken care of. The accounts of mothers staying at home is in narrative form. It doesn't imply a command that women MUST stay at home. I find it honorable, yes. But, I don't find it preferable for ME. As I said earlier, my mother stayed at home because she had FIVE kids. When I have kids, I'm only taking a leave of pregnancy, having the child, healing, and I'm going back to work.

 

[Elizabeth619]

I'm pretty sure its the other way around... women since forever, have been primerly stay at home moms. The key word is "primerly."

I recall families living in factories... according what I remember being taught in History 101. Sure, but I think its still amazing for women to be primerly focused on thier childrens well-being. The keyword is "primerly." I also think scripture shows a picture of a good wife in proverbs 31... which mainly supports the idea of a stay at home mom. Also...
1 Timothy 5:14

14 So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

Proverbs 31 is a prime example of a wife working.

Planting a vineyard v. 16

Trading v. 18

Makes linen garments and sells them v. 24


Not only does she tend to her household she is ALSO a business woman.

 

[Blain]

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OMG I love NEMO you just made my day

 

[Isdaniel]

to every situation it shall be treated differently .

Dad works mom stays home then bammmm recession

mom works and dads works

then bammmm dad works nomore injured, so mom work

vise versa

 

[Calmador]

I have not voted, as no option really fit me. I'm a man who believes that roles should be interpretated based on the relationship. For Example:

If I am weak organizationally (scheduling or budgeting, let's say) and my wife is strong there, she should handle said management of important scheduling and finances (or visa versa).

Now, would I like my children to be raised by my wife and I primarily, yes. Am I cool with day care and whatnot, well...not really if other options are available. Do I care if she works? Not really, no.

Though I understand the 'Man as Head' viewpoint from conservative fundamentalism, I also see the value in veiwing a relationship as a 'team effort' or 'partnership'. Sometimes, let someone who's good at something do that thing, and use your strengths were you can. I have a problem with people saying it should be one way when obviously things become worse (given a particular situation) because of it.

Anyway...long story short, I'm quite flexible.

I can see the wisdom in letting say a wife.. who is comparible to an accountant to handle the budgeting. However, the head of the household thing is simply a Christain principle. It doesn't matter what you think of conservative fundamentalism... God has chosen us husbands to lead our families. Be flexible where you can be but where God draws the line... that's where nobody should be flexible. Reconsider... If you get married, your responsible for your family God will hold you accountable. For your future family's sake, think about the scriptures that I'm sure you already know which tells us to be family leaders.

 

[JesusChica1991]

Proverbs 31 is a prime example of a wife working.

Planting a vineyard v. 16

Trading v. 18

Makes linen garments and sells them v. 24


Not only does she tend to her household she is ALSO a business woman.

Not to forget Priscilla who was an artisan; lydia was a trader, and Phoebe was a Patron...I can go on

 

[JesusChica1991]

to every situation it shall be treated differently .

Dad works mom stays home then bammmm recession

mom works and dads works

then bammmm dad works nomore injured, so mom work

vise versa

There are extremely rare times when I agree with you; this is one of those times.

 

[Blain]

There are extremely rare times when I agree with you; this is one of those times.

( Gasp!) How dare you agree with the enemy;b Jk isdaniel you know I love you bro

 

[Elizabeth619]

Not to forget Priscilla who was an artisan; lydia was a trader, and Phoebe was a Patron...I can go on

Deborah was a judge

 

[Calmador]

Try living in that culture back then when most of the time, women weren't able to speak their minds without their husband's knowledge. Bigotry from men contributed to the movement for feminism. We have just as much a right to work as anyone else. Also, what about households where the wife is the only one working because the husband is injured? Should the man have more say-so than the woman based on what she alone brings into the house? I don't think so..

I'm not sure what time your reffering to... It doesn't matter because the behavior of people in the past, present, or future won't change scripture. Focuse on God's word not the world around you... If I focused on the past like you do and forgot about scripture... I'd be hunting down white people, men, women and murdering them because of the ugly racist "past" of white people. If I went on a rampage and murdered many white people. Would my rampage of murder be justified because of the racism in the past?

You see, that kind of reasoning doesn't work.

About men having more of a say so... Husbands have been chosen by God to lead families. I'm not sure what you're trying to say about a wife working and say so...?

 

[Ugly]

I would prefer it, as traditional. Had i ever had kids i would have actually not only preferred a stay at home mom, but also for my kids to have been home schooled. That being said, i find the likelihood of my ever having children at this point very low. So for myself it is a fairly irrelevant question. But i'm here. So i'm answering

 

[JesusChica1991]

( Gasp!) How dare you agree with the enemy;b Jk isdaniel you know I love you bro

Jus' doin' mah job.