Some good answers...... some not so good. 'Course, with God, all things are possible, I go by.
And, I am not talking having gone out on one or two dates, I am talking about having known this person for some time, like 2-3 months, or , GASP!, if you've never had arguments all your courting relationship, and, now, married, then, you DISCOVER that your completely different in how you 'operate.'
Your ability to FUNCTION depends on this ONE love language. YOU are, remember the words in the title, 'in love,' you ARE in love with this person and it's a deeeep love. Whether you are married, or, not, you really, really, reeeeeeeeally LIKE this person in this relationship. But, now they've served you notice, they NEED you to be a little kinder to them, to be a little more forthright in how you speak to them, hence, the 'love language' of 'words of affirmation.'
And, YOU, the one they are in love WITH, are, you're finding out, starting to suffer in the relatiionship because they do not do anything for you and you function/operate by ACTS OF SERVICE.
Now, I am just throwing those two out there for this example, which, seemingly, hit home for HisLoveneverfails and her beau. So.........
That is a great answer by the way, milady, YOU are making it work. Praise God !
Now, of course, as julieannie says, why make it work when you can just GIVE UP? Sure, you can. Many do. But, should you without, at least, trying to make things work with this person who is completely love-language different from you