Two people. Two OPPOSITE love languages. But, they in love. Can they make it work ?

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surprisingrose

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I guess I'd like to add a question.... "If you saw someone dehydrating from a lack of water, but it's a good distance and a big effort to get them a cup of water would you go out of your way to keep the person from dying?" When I was married my love cup was empty, the needs were never met, so I was a thristing, dehydrating person, begging for a even a drop of water, which left me continueously lonely. When a love language isn't being met the person feels starved for affection and attention, which leaves them vulruable to temptation. It's very important to meet a spouses love language. Love dies from a lack of pouring the water of their love language on them. They can be either be a blooming flower or a wilting, dying flower. What type of flower do you want? If you pour soft water which taste good, but isn't what the flower needs it will kill it, but hard water has just what the flower needs and it will thrive and live! On the most part, when it is a good man I've seen when they love a woman and when she is loving him and treating him with respect, he will do everything within his power that he can do for her and it is a beautiful thing to behold. I want that <3.
 
surprisingrose

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Thank you Firewire.... I do though see the need of meeting love languages. God made us all uniquely with personal ways of desiring love. Just as we all have different finger prints we also have different ways of desiring to be loved, but yes we are to both concentate on the others needs but also in loving ways give clues of our needs and of course first meet their needs and pray for each other on how God wants each person to become as one in their love for each other.
 
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OnThisRock

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Jullianna said:
EXACTLY, Cris. THIS was exactly my point. You CAN MAKE it work, but why would you want to settle for that when there can be so much MORE? When you could possibly be with a person who speaks your language, knows what you need, takes the time to learn what you like, who shares your dreams?
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I was recently in a friendship/almost boyfriend possible husband relationship. lol... When it got to the point of almost boyfriend, some things went haywire and we did not go further. But I can tell you that we had similar love languages and I saw that at the root we both had a similar history of wounds in our lives. We had both overcome some of the same issues in our lives. I think we were great friends, we really understood each other, and I saw what being with someone who wanted to give the same way was like. We were able to help each other along the way with dangers that come along with some of our faults. We had two different persepectives on life, he an engineer/pilot and me a psychologist, but, I see how knowing how to serve each other can work. It makes everything easier. Similar love language = Probably lasting relationship in the Lord (believers).
 
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OnThisRock

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surprisingrose said:
I guess I'd like to add a question.... "If you saw someone dehydrating from a lack of water, but it's a good distance and a big effort to get them a cup of water would you go out of your way to keep the person from dying?" When I was married my love cup was empty, the needs were never met, so I was a thristing, dehydrating person, begging for a even a drop of water, which left me continueously lonely. When a love language isn't being met the person feels starved for affection and attention, which leaves them vulruable to temptation. It's very important to meet a spouses love language. Love dies from a lack of pouring the water of their love language on them. They can be either be a blooming flower or a wilting, dying flower. What type of flower do you want? If you pour soft water which taste good, but isn't what the flower needs it will kill it, but hard water has just what the flower needs and it will thrive and live! On the most part, when it is a good man I've seen when they love a woman and when she is loving him and treating him with respect, he will do everything within his power that he can do for her and it is a beautiful thing to behold. I want that <3.
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Im sorry you had that experience and I also KNOW what you are saying. I had a similar problem with an ex. Now that I have been single I realize what my language is and now I know more about who I could love and respect.

This is a great example! Also, a man should not want his wife to wilt. That's not a relationship, it is an example of a bad gardner who had no business picking a beautiful rose like yourself !!!
 
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OnThisRock

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Fenner said:
My Husband's love language is Acts and mine is Physical. We took this quiz in Sunday School last year. I think we compliment each other pretty well.

This test is supposed to help you understand each other better, don't make it about the entire relationship. I know my husband appreciates me washing his clothes and putting them away. I appreciate him giving me a big long hug when he comes home.

It's good to know what your partner likes and doesn't like. My Husband knows I can't stand little noises when people eat, like breathing to heavy or lip smacking. Yucky yuck, I know that he doesn't like when I leave stuff laying around. Anything can work if you love and are committed to each other.
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I agree. I cannot stand the lip smacking and gross eating noises. How about crinkling of snack wrappers. I say NO! lol...
 
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Er, this was a dead thread.

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Fenner

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On this rock, I hate wrapper noises. At the Pre School where I work we have this song where the kids have this one part where they have to pretend they're eating, they make this little smacking noise and say mmm mmm. It makes my skin crawl. Also when people say mmm that's yummy for some reason it gives me the hebie jebies. I'm weird I know.
 
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Fenner said:
On this rock, I hate wrapper noises. At the Pre School where I work we have this song where the kids have this one part where they have to pretend they're eating, they make this little smacking noise and say mmm mmm. It makes my skin crawl. Also when people say mmm that's yummy for some reason it gives me the hebie jebies. I'm weird I know.
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Another dead thread that apparently I resurrected. What's going on here?
 
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Fenner said:
On this rock, I hate wrapper noises. At the Pre School where I work we have this song where the kids have this one part where they have to pretend they're eating, they make this little smacking noise and say mmm mmm. It makes my skin crawl. Also when people say mmm that's yummy for some reason it gives me the hebie jebies. I'm weird I know.
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EEEWWWWWWW. Me too. Have you ever sat next to someone at Starbucks and it takes them like 5 minutes to unwrap their snack and they continually crinkle the wrapper in their hand. That's the worst!!!!
 
Lynx

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Halloween is over, but we still have zombies...
 
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