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Catherdingsheepplayingmusicmandirectorfrenchhornerinstrumentplayingfather, I think that it's pretty easy to get into a relationship and become 'in love' from liking to do the same things. This kind of relationship can deepen and deepen and deepen and then, WHAM! You hit a wall because you realize that SOMETHING is missing and it is that person who is not appeasing your need of a certain type of love expressed, also known as, that person's 'love language.'
So, you are DEEEPLY in love, brother, and, so the question is, once you are at this state, unmarried. Or, yeah, married, not so much a good example, as you are in DEEP then, NO turning back, no turning back, for any other reason than, I think, adultery, or, death of spouse. So, for marrieds, as julieannie says, a 'love language' problem is, therefore, something you really have to give a 'go with God.' No alternative. YOU are married, make it work
Am I saying that part right, julieannie, and, sorry, again, I misunderstood your way of saying 'not settling for' as my words of 'giving up.' My green brains misterped there All deficiency of thought and understanding defaults to them
But, yeah, bro, that's what's being said, this is not some shallow relationship, it's a relationship that's grown to a great stage of saying that you would do anything for this person. So, NOW , you are suddenly SHoCkeD to a new reality of their needing something MORE from you or the deepness of love that you feel so true for them will drown.
I don't want this to sound like a dependent relationship either, that's an abusive relationship, if you need someone no matter what. So, cross that off your mind. I'm saying you've seriously grown fond of this person because they like to do the same things you like to do and treat you fairly, like a queen, or, even, like a king, but, there's something missing that keeps you from being able to wear a 'crown,' being able to feel like genuine royalty around them.
So, do you two, through heart to heart talks, realize that something is missing in your relationship, and, it's the actual expression of love to each other: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, etc. listed on OP.
Or, being IN LOVE, and, unmarried, and, free to leave each other, do you STILL give it a go ?
So, you are DEEEPLY in love, brother, and, so the question is, once you are at this state, unmarried. Or, yeah, married, not so much a good example, as you are in DEEP then, NO turning back, no turning back, for any other reason than, I think, adultery, or, death of spouse. So, for marrieds, as julieannie says, a 'love language' problem is, therefore, something you really have to give a 'go with God.' No alternative. YOU are married, make it work
Am I saying that part right, julieannie, and, sorry, again, I misunderstood your way of saying 'not settling for' as my words of 'giving up.' My green brains misterped there All deficiency of thought and understanding defaults to them
But, yeah, bro, that's what's being said, this is not some shallow relationship, it's a relationship that's grown to a great stage of saying that you would do anything for this person. So, NOW , you are suddenly SHoCkeD to a new reality of their needing something MORE from you or the deepness of love that you feel so true for them will drown.
I don't want this to sound like a dependent relationship either, that's an abusive relationship, if you need someone no matter what. So, cross that off your mind. I'm saying you've seriously grown fond of this person because they like to do the same things you like to do and treat you fairly, like a queen, or, even, like a king, but, there's something missing that keeps you from being able to wear a 'crown,' being able to feel like genuine royalty around them.
So, do you two, through heart to heart talks, realize that something is missing in your relationship, and, it's the actual expression of love to each other: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, etc. listed on OP.
Or, being IN LOVE, and, unmarried, and, free to leave each other, do you STILL give it a go ?