Will a Guy Who Isn't Attracted to Overweight Women Leave His Pregnant Wife?
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Sorry to bump this to the top yet again, but I just wanted to add a few thoughts. 
FireWire, I'm terribly sorry you found this poll to be so egregiously horrific. I assure you though, the women I had in mind when I wrote this thread and poll at the time did not find it to be so irrelevant. And, I always issue this challenge for the constructive criticism of polls-- please grant us the privilege of constructing your very own poll. I don't believe I've seen one that you've written yet? (If not, please let me know, and it will be the first thread I read when I'm able to spend more time on CC.) I look forward to it because I'm sure you'll give the rest of us some great ideas that aren't nearly so ridiculous.
I know this goes against popular thought, but I have never put a time limit on anything I wrote unless it was part of the topic. My thought is, what's written today might not be relevant to some at the moment, but it might pertain to others in the future. Every poll I've ever written has taken a good hour or more to write so I'd like to think they might reach out to someone, of not now, then maybe later.
I don't resurrect old threads or polls, but I often re-read them if they do come to the surface. Reading old threads that I haven't thought about in a while makes me think about how much God has gotten me through a particular situation, and reminds me of people I need to keep praying for or check up on. Maybe I just have a bad memory?
I also find that many times I'm going through something today that I wasn't going through a few years ago, and reading an old thread can be helpful to me because I can read about similar situation that someone else went through and how they made it through from start to finish, or at least, through a duration of time.
God bless and have a great holiday season!
FireWire, I'm terribly sorry you found this poll to be so egregiously horrific.
I assure you though, the women I had in mind when I wrote this thread and poll at the time did not find it to be so irrelevant. And, I always issue this challenge for the constructive criticism of polls-- please grant us the privilege of constructing your very own poll. I don't believe I've seen one that you've written yet? (If not, please let me know, and it will be the first thread I read when I'm able to spend more time on CC.) I look forward to it because I'm sure you'll give the rest of us some great ideas that aren't nearly so ridiculous. I know this goes against popular thought, but I have never put a time limit on anything I wrote unless it was part of the topic. My thought is, what's written today might not be relevant to some at the moment, but it might pertain to others in the future. Every poll I've ever written has taken a good hour or more to write so I'd like to think they might reach out to someone, of not now, then maybe later.
I don't resurrect old threads or polls, but I often re-read them if they do come to the surface. Reading old threads that I haven't thought about in a while makes me think about how much God has gotten me through a particular situation, and reminds me of people I need to keep praying for or check up on. Maybe I just have a bad memory?
I also find that many times I'm going through something today that I wasn't going through a few years ago, and reading an old thread can be helpful to me because I can read about similar situation that someone else went through and how they made it through from start to finish, or at least, through a duration of time.
God bless and have a great holiday season!
Seriously dude?
What's going on in your life that you would say something like this to someone?
I am personally glad it was bumped, I find it intriguing and hadn't been around the site long enough to see it until now.
So... even if you dislike it, why bump it up to the top just to say that? Isn't that like calling someone on the phone to tell them you don't want to talk to them?
I hope your heart becomes filled with love for others,
~~Chain
What's going on in your life that you would say something like this to someone?
I am personally glad it was bumped, I find it intriguing and hadn't been around the site long enough to see it until now.
So... even if you dislike it, why bump it up to the top just to say that? Isn't that like calling someone on the phone to tell them you don't want to talk to them?
I hope your heart becomes filled with love for others,
~~Chain
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Well SeoulSearch,
The title is rather ambigious.
Does it mean the women is overweight because of the fact of being pregnant or gaining weight as a result of pregnancy? Somebody will likely tell me I'm arrogant and when I say this but the woman should've had this figured out even before marrying the guy. If he does leave her then it has all sorts of implications. If they being Christian this is outside Gods will. It just seemed a bit shallow to me. I would think a pregnant couple would have more to worry about than what the scales are registering.
Chainhand: there is nothing going on in my life. I've never had kids and never married. I react like this at things that are superficial. It's a flaw.
I can only apologize if anybody was offended.
The title is rather ambigious.
Does it mean the women is overweight because of the fact of being pregnant or gaining weight as a result of pregnancy? Somebody will likely tell me I'm arrogant and when I say this but the woman should've had this figured out even before marrying the guy. If he does leave her then it has all sorts of implications. If they being Christian this is outside Gods will. It just seemed a bit shallow to me. I would think a pregnant couple would have more to worry about than what the scales are registering.
Chainhand: there is nothing going on in my life. I've never had kids and never married. I react like this at things that are superficial. It's a flaw.
I can only apologize if anybody was offended.
In response to the title being "ambiguous", this is why I take the time to include a thread and a poll to go along with the title. There is only so much that can be said in a title... So I trust that reading through my entire original post made it a little more clear as to what I was talking about, seeing as I cited several real life (as in, people I knew) examples. Reading this first post will address your questions as to what I had in mind, but other ideas are welcome.
As far as knowing ahead of time in certain situations, I think this is, unfortunately, something that many of us, even Christians, assume. We think we know... or how we'll react... and then, real life hits. The young man with every intention of loving his wife through anything sees that she's gained 50 pounds during their pregnancy... and suddenly, that willowy co-worker who says "hello" to him every morning starts to look like more than just a co-worker. It may not happen with every couple, but I think it happens more often than many are willing to admit, and yes, even to Christian couples.
I do appreciate that you did not want to offend... However, if I may? I've read several of your posts here in singles and know that you feel very rejected by women (I write this publicly only because you have stated your experiences publicly, otherwise, I wouldn't say anything.) I am very sorry that at times you have been mistreated or written off.
However, saying that you "react like this at things that are superficial"...
At times, we all wonder why we're single.
Maybe sometimes... the answer is right there in front of us... And God is gently nudging as at what He can help us change.
To everyone who hates seeing old threads resurrected, as I stated before, I'm not the one who resurrects them but I do often re-read them because they remind me of people I need to check up on, pray for, or thank God that He saw the situation through. I never put a time limit on my threads because something that might not apply to the current crowd on CC today might very well apply to someone new who joins the site later. I've had this happen a few times myself--I'm going through a new situation and reading old threads because these people have already walked through them and it's comforting to know someone else might know what to do when I don't.
However, if the mods ever decide to close out threads or polls due to a lapse in time, of course, it's best left to their discernment.
There is only so much that can be said in a title... So I trust that reading through my entire original post made it a little more clear as to what I was talking about, seeing as I cited several real life (as in, people I knew) examples. Reading this first post will address your questions as to what I had in mind, but other ideas are welcome.As far as knowing ahead of time in certain situations, I think this is, unfortunately, something that many of us, even Christians, assume. We think we know... or how we'll react... and then, real life hits. The young man with every intention of loving his wife through anything sees that she's gained 50 pounds during their pregnancy... and suddenly, that willowy co-worker who says "hello" to him every morning starts to look like more than just a co-worker. It may not happen with every couple, but I think it happens more often than many are willing to admit, and yes, even to Christian couples.
I do appreciate that you did not want to offend... However, if I may? I've read several of your posts here in singles and know that you feel very rejected by women (I write this publicly only because you have stated your experiences publicly, otherwise, I wouldn't say anything.) I am very sorry that at times you have been mistreated or written off.
However, saying that you "react like this at things that are superficial"...
At times, we all wonder why we're single.
Maybe sometimes... the answer is right there in front of us... And God is gently nudging as at what He can help us change.
To everyone who hates seeing old threads resurrected, as I stated before, I'm not the one who resurrects them but I do often re-read them because they remind me of people I need to check up on, pray for, or thank God that He saw the situation through. I never put a time limit on my threads because something that might not apply to the current crowd on CC today might very well apply to someone new who joins the site later. I've had this happen a few times myself--I'm going through a new situation and reading old threads because these people have already walked through them and it's comforting to know someone else might know what to do when I don't.
However, if the mods ever decide to close out threads or polls due to a lapse in time, of course, it's best left to their discernment.
Sorry for the double post--I just wanted to add that I am in NO WAY trying to discount or discredit the awesome Christian men here who have said they will, or have, found their wives to be beautiful in any condition and have accepted and loved them throughout the various changes life brings. All feedback is welcome, and yes, even criticisms, because they allow for growth and change, so thank you all for taking the time to reply.
Guys, please know that the Christian women out here appreciate and admire your heartfelt thoughts and commitment! It's always good to know we have some really wonderful people out there... men and women alike.
Guys, please know that the Christian women out here appreciate and admire your heartfelt thoughts and commitment! It's always good to know we have some really wonderful people out there... men and women alike.
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Well of course I've been rejected and written off by women and I've done some rejecting myself. That's par for the course. There's apparently nothing wrong with me. Well, the only thing "wrong" with me is I don't desire marriage anymore and never really did. So women can reject me all they like and say disparaging things coz it doesn't matter one iota in the grand scheme of things.
What makes me angry is that some wonder why I won't get married. See it's another one of those ridiculous things that don't make sense. I use my head over my heart.
I probably don't even need to comment on such things as why do men have to make the first move or who should pay on the first date coz it has no relevance to me.
A bit like:
Network router: destination protocol unreachable
Program compiler: object or method not supported
What makes me angry is that some wonder why I won't get married. See it's another one of those ridiculous things that don't make sense. I use my head over my heart.
I probably don't even need to comment on such things as why do men have to make the first move or who should pay on the first date coz it has no relevance to me.
A bit like:
Network router: destination protocol unreachable
Program compiler: object or method not supported