Online dating questions...

[1still_waters]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

 

[seoulsearch]

All I can say is... I think all these questions just kind of killed most of my interest in online dating... although I HAVE done some online dating... WHEW.

Never knew there were so many hurdles and hoops to jump through.

I know this is a generic answer, but, I'm really into communication so, I guess it would depend on what the other person and I decide--carefully drenched in a LOT of prayerful consideration.

 

[Leilaii425]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

1. hardly at all cause you never know who your really meeting
2. how can you love someone you have never met
3. meeting is the best way to tell if you get along
4. no
5. yes but its silly to fall in love with someone you have never met
6.sure why not
7.yes

 

[ChristopherMichael]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?
2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?
3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?
4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?
5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?
6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?
7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

1. Not very attached. You might not know what they look like, how they treat others, or lots of other stuff. You also just might not have any chemistry.

2. That's just weird man, in light of a lot of the stuff from #1.

3. Yes! Usually it's pretty readily apparent whether or not you'll click (philosophical differences aside).

4. Nope. Need to inhale the pheromones man, and see how they carry themselves, among other things.

5. Yep, but I don't think it's a good thing.

6. That's just strange man. Why NOT see other people if you've got an online-only relationship? If you've never met them before, it wouldn't hurt to keep your other options open.

7. In line with #6, heck yeah! Once you get physical (kissing, whatever) / married, that's the time to be monogamous. Otherwise, you're just friends.

- Topher

 

[dovey]

I dont see how people do it, honestly...but then again Ive never done it....what I like about this site is that it is an opportunity to encourage, bless, and learn things....also to pray and impact peoples lives whom you have never even met...I think thats pretty cool! How could you date someone you had never even met?...I think God can do a bit better than that, personally...has anyone had something amazing happen in that department online?

 

[ChristopherMichael]

I dont see how people do it, honestly...but then again Ive never done it....what I like about this site is that it is an opportunity to encourage, bless, and learn things....also to pray and impact peoples lives whom you have never even met...I think thats pretty cool! How could you date someone you had never even met?...I think God can do a bit better than that, personally...has anyone had something amazing happen in that department online?

Met an awesome girl through Match.com once. She became my fiance for a while. Don't know if that counts.

 

[dovey]

that definatly counts...if you got to choose...would you rather God let you meet someone online, orarrange it some other way?...pros/and cons?...jsut curious dont know anything about the online stuff...

 

[ChristopherMichael]

I think meeting someone online is just another way of meeting someone. I'm up for however God wants to work.

- Topher

 

[Ellie1984]

I thought I'd found My prince Charming in my Ex but he didn't really know how to treat a girl because he'd had so many failed relationships, his computer was his number one priority that and of course his cell phone. He spent more time on the computer then he did with me, had more female friends then he did guy friends. So sometimes meeting the person you were dating online doesn't exactly work out especially when they live with you, your parents for four months then fly back to Texas to spend Christmas with family. Anyways to be honest I find it easier to just not dwell on relationships weather online or offline because you never truly know if things will work out.

 

[iraasuup]

I met my husband online, but we never actually DATED until we met in person.

Meeting online was really just our original connectiong point. We even lost contact for a period of time there, and I was actually dating (in real life) someone else. Later on we got back in contact, and after emails/chatting/ phonecalls etc decided to meet up. We did, and started dating, and were married less than 10 months later. That was five years ago!

 

[J0Y]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

Hmm ok...
1) Friendship level only

2) Thats just...weird

3) Sure!

4) No

5) Ahh, well, I think some do fall in love with their perception of that person - not the person

6) ahhh again, your 'going out' BEFORE meeting? hmm...that would not be ok with me..but different strokes I guess!

7) Sure!! Gotta know who fits you best - if any of them do that is! hehe.

I have never internet dated and never will. I have plenty of online friends and brothers.
If a male were to visit and we hit it off maybe that would change things, but online is ONLINE, not REAL LIFE.

yeah, just my 2c worth

 

[Christianrkchk89]

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?
Well, I think they should be talking to quite awhile beforehand...so pretty attached...

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?
That's pretty much a ridiculous thing to do....you cant base love on what you know about someone online...

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?
It'll give an idea..you'll get that "first impression" ...but it won't be a very accurate for the long run...you'll definitely need to hang out more than once to know if you are compatible...

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?
A big chuck of it can...especially when talking on the phone...but you REALLY need to meet...because there may not be an attraction afterall...

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?
You can get a sense of whether or not they'll be compatible with you...but you cannot truly love them before you meet them!!

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?
I think it's not a good idea... of course it's do-able...just not smart in my opinion.

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?
I don't have a good answer for that... in one aspect I see it as kinda being a player and in another...it's not like your dating any of them?

 

[Blueberry]

I have done online dating before. My only advice to you is to meet up with the person very quickly. Try not to draw it out for long over the net or phone. Images can be built up in your head of who that person is before you even meet them and you can't read body language, etc. My advice set up a meeting very quickly and get your gut reaction of them and your response to them in the flesh. Anything can be said over the net or phone, but to look in someone's eyes and read their body language is really the best way.

For some online dating can work out well, communicating online over time. I did that once and then finally met the person and my whole heart was crushed . I wasted 6months of my life thinking this person was everything I wanted them to be and thought they were and it only took 10mins of meeting them to feel it all go crashing downhill. They were not the person I thought they were. First impressions say a lot. People can lie easily too.

Anyway, thats my advice. Take it or leave it.

 

[erika83]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

I'm speaking from personal experience:
1. shouldn't get too attached emotionally, but it happens
2. it's better not to say "I love u" and other big words or promises until u really know someone in person
3. yeah u can get an idea even after meeting just once
4. NO chemistry can't be measured just by chat and phone
5. I think people fall in love with an image, because u don't see the whole picture of the person
6. yeah I can
7. it's not ok for me

 

[grace]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

Your questions seem to pose the question; is there such a thing as online dating..? OR, is there only such a thing as dating a person that you initially met online...therefore it is a long distance relationship onre you have met etc...?

 

[MahogonySnail]

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

It doesn't really matter IMO. Emotions tend to sort themselves in the end.

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

They've probably been communicating on a fairly deep level and become emotionally attached. But it takes about a year or so of spending time with a person before the "honeymoon" stage kicks in. Usually people meet before then, although I do know of some women who have communicated and waited for 10 years or so without meeting, and it seems to be a form of infatuation and could result in mental disorders I guess.

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

Depends on the person. Some people you can tell straight away, others take time. Sometimes there is a delayed reaction eg the person realises they are attracted to another person maybe weeks or months after first meeting.


4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

To a certain extent yes. They are only forms of communication , the frequency and depth of conversation is not dependent upon the medium. In the olden days, people would communicate via regular mail aka snail mail, fall in love, decide to meet and get married. It's nothing new, we are just more aware of it today, and technology makes it faster and easier.


5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

If the idea is accurate and matches the person then it's the person. If not, then it's just the idea.

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

Not a true exclusive relationship if you haven't met, you can only get so far before meeting.

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

There's no rules against it. The only time you can't talk to more than one person is after you are married.

 

[Leilaii425]

I wanna go back to the whole snail mail thing. Where you only correspond through letters

 

[paulou]

these are only my views and opinions. i think that getting to know somebody on line is a good way to learn about eachother, eachothers personalities,characteristics,and to see how compatable the couple is.being friends first is always a good way to have fun and go out with no pressure to see how it goes.i think that you can fall in love on line if you meet your soul mate, the right person for you that brings out the best in you ,makes you happy,and to be open to talk about your feelings ,and thoughts with, and to share life in general with.it takes time to get to know somebody enough ,to see if the two of you are compatable enough to be together.dating is all about finding the right person for you, so on line getting to know more then one person at a time can good,but can be hurtful when you have to say goodbye ,and tell the other person down the track that you have found your perfect match.

 

[kiwi_OT]

Here's some questions I've been wanting to ask, based on some stuff I've seen from folks who date online.

1. How emotionally attached should you get before actually meeting?

2. What does it say if both people say they love eachother before meeting?

3. Can meeting once give a couple a good idea if they'll get along?

4. Can chemistry be measured by email, chat and telephone correspondence only?

5. Do people fall in love with a person or an idea of that person before they actually meet?

6. Can you be in an exclusive relationship before you meet?

7. Is it ok to talk to more than one person that you're interested in at the same time?

1. thats a doosy of a question there, depends on how long youve been talking and how honest youve been with each other. Ive been restraining from saying Im not single because technically I still am until i meet the guy and we decide together.

2. I think that would be a very foolish thing to do..

3. I think this is why online dating is so popular cos you talk about your commonalities so if you share the same values and general interests and your sense of humor match then, youd have a general idea of whether youd get along.

4. No but its a good start lol only when your used to seeing them and hearing them not from silent texting or whatever.

5. Its so easy for people to confuse that I think. Its not love unless you compare it 1 Corinthians 13 and online dating full time does not equate to that. Only when youve made that next step to join the other person and their community can you start to ask yourself that. In all honesty I think its the hope and excitement (and general lust and mystery I think) that makes people think that their in love. But yeah loving the idea of that person definitely occurs I think - I know Ive not been immune.

6. No. But I reword that and say that with all honest purposes if your serious in your hope and expectation of what you both want from each other when you meet then you should be exclusively avoiding other possible relationships from occuring until youve met the person and decided whats going to happen from there.

7. I'll answer that question with another question to that would be - are you prepared to be honest with all parties by telling them that you're keeping an eye out for others as well? If you said no - then obviously its a not ok thing to do. In fact its a very selfish thing to do in my opinion.

 

[cookie39]

I dont see how people do it, honestly...but then again Ive never done it....what I like about this site is that it is an opportunity to encourage, bless, and learn things....also to pray and impact peoples lives whom you have never even met...I think thats pretty cool! How could you date someone you had never even met?...I think God can do a bit better than that, personally...has anyone had something amazing happen in that department online?

Honestly I do... and I have.... and I said " I DO" I met my husband on a christian web site... it was not for dating,,, well we were not their for dating you have the choice to post in your profile why was you there... we both was there for to meet and make christian friends and for fellowship.

I had turned down many men who tried to get on a level a dating for that was not why I was there... but in welcoming him to the site, I really felt moved by his testamony and wanted to pray for him and with him, we started sending each other mail on the site only as friends, then we started instant messaging, which was a lot of fun then we went to texting and then the phone,

the answer to how can you love someone you neve met:Love is not an emotion only it as an action...yea, we shared pictuers, but its not the same as meeting in person, but the friendship we built was so strong that we didn't dwell on looks... we told eachother we "I love you " ever nite. we woke up to each other and spent most of our free time together; on the phone.
read I Corinthians 13.. does not say how love FEEl, it say what love Do. and that is what happen in us the Godly love not the way the world love.... We meet in Feb. and we got married in July... we must step out of our box and get in the Lord and stop looking to the worl for to dictate how or why we should or shoul not do something. for God said be careful for nothing but in alllll things make our prayers and supplications known unto him. although everything that happened and the way it happen was so out of ( what the world would call it ) Character for the both of us, but as i got to kknow him. I claimed him to be my husband in the Name of Jesus, and here we are now, married in the Lord,, we are rapped up, tangled up, and rooted in Jesus for a three fold cord is not easily broken, WHEN GOD SAY THERE IS NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE FOR HIM OR TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE; IT TO IS AN ACTION. Faith without works is dead. it is all possible, yes to all questions.