To Men Who Ignore Valentine's Day
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he brought joy to her heart and mine. My brother and I also pitch in on valentine's day to make sure my mama feels loved. I got her a card and my brother got her chocolates. We must all be suck ups
he brought joy to her heart and mine. My brother and I also pitch in on valentine's day to make sure my mama feels loved. I got her a card and my brother got her chocolates. We must all be suck ups
I'm sure your Mother is really happy that you do that. I would be. A little kindness goes a long way. It's especially touching when it comes from your kids. Kids know how to make their Mamma's cry out of happiness too.
maybe there's something wrong with me, but i am not one of those girls who expect any guy to make a huge deal on valentines day.
i'm one of those girls who is FAR more touched by some romantic or grand gesture on a day where he isn't being prompted by society and the Hallmark company to spend some money on a certain day. it strikes me as contrived and insincere.
i can't even tell you how many awkward valentine's days i've gone through where a guy got me something simply because he thought it was what was expected of him.
it's like the only day of the year where it is acceptable to give a woman who neither likes candy or stuffed animals 6lbs of chocolate and a fuzzy bear that says "i heart you". or some other trinket of love that is made en masse for all the poor guys who need a giant sign that says "valentines gifts here".
the most romantic things i've ever had a guy do for me were things that were unexpected but reflected that he was thinking of me and wanted to do something to make my life better or surprise me with something i wanted or wanted to do. for awhile now i've been pretty vocal about giving out passes on valentines day.
but i still feel so sorry for the guys running around the store/street/city, sweating bullets while trying to locate something or make plans to avoid being in the doghouse or seen as insensitive louts.
in fact, sometimes i think women are more worried about what OTHER women will think about them if they don't have enough of a fuss made over them or whatever. as if anyone can really understand what is going on in another person's relationship...
just my two cents.
i'm one of those girls who is FAR more touched by some romantic or grand gesture on a day where he isn't being prompted by society and the Hallmark company to spend some money on a certain day. it strikes me as contrived and insincere.
i can't even tell you how many awkward valentine's days i've gone through where a guy got me something simply because he thought it was what was expected of him.
it's like the only day of the year where it is acceptable to give a woman who neither likes candy or stuffed animals 6lbs of chocolate and a fuzzy bear that says "i heart you".
or some other trinket of love that is made en masse for all the poor guys who need a giant sign that says "valentines gifts here".the most romantic things i've ever had a guy do for me were things that were unexpected but reflected that he was thinking of me and wanted to do something to make my life better or surprise me with something i wanted or wanted to do. for awhile now i've been pretty vocal about giving out passes on valentines day.
but i still feel so sorry for the guys running around the store/street/city, sweating bullets while trying to locate something or make plans to avoid being in the doghouse or seen as insensitive louts.
in fact, sometimes i think women are more worried about what OTHER women will think about them if they don't have enough of a fuss made over them or whatever. as if anyone can really understand what is going on in another person's relationship...
just my two cents.
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maybe there's something wrong with me, but i am not one of those girls who expect any guy to make a huge deal on valentines day.
i'm one of those girls who is FAR more touched by some romantic or grand gesture on a day where he isn't being prompted by society and the Hallmark company to spend some money on a certain day. it strikes me as contrived and insincere.
i can't even tell you how many awkward valentine's days i've gone through where a guy got me something simply because he thought it was what was expected of him.
it's like the only day of the year where it is acceptable to give a woman who neither likes candy or stuffed animals 6lbs of chocolate and a fuzzy bear that says "i heart you". or some other trinket of love that is made en masse for all the poor guys who need a giant sign that says "valentines gifts here".
the most romantic things i've ever had a guy do for me were things that were unexpected but reflected that he was thinking of me and wanted to do something to make my life better or surprise me with something i wanted or wanted to do. for awhile now i've been pretty vocal about giving out passes on valentines day.
but i still feel so sorry for the guys running around the store/street/city, sweating bullets while trying to locate something or make plans to avoid being in the doghouse or seen as insensitive louts.
in fact, sometimes i think women are more worried about what OTHER women will think about them if they don't have enough of a fuss made over them or whatever. as if anyone can really understand what is going on in another person's relationship...
just my two cents.
i'm one of those girls who is FAR more touched by some romantic or grand gesture on a day where he isn't being prompted by society and the Hallmark company to spend some money on a certain day. it strikes me as contrived and insincere.
i can't even tell you how many awkward valentine's days i've gone through where a guy got me something simply because he thought it was what was expected of him.
it's like the only day of the year where it is acceptable to give a woman who neither likes candy or stuffed animals 6lbs of chocolate and a fuzzy bear that says "i heart you".
or some other trinket of love that is made en masse for all the poor guys who need a giant sign that says "valentines gifts here".the most romantic things i've ever had a guy do for me were things that were unexpected but reflected that he was thinking of me and wanted to do something to make my life better or surprise me with something i wanted or wanted to do. for awhile now i've been pretty vocal about giving out passes on valentines day.
but i still feel so sorry for the guys running around the store/street/city, sweating bullets while trying to locate something or make plans to avoid being in the doghouse or seen as insensitive louts.
in fact, sometimes i think women are more worried about what OTHER women will think about them if they don't have enough of a fuss made over them or whatever. as if anyone can really understand what is going on in another person's relationship...
just my two cents.
I'm sure your Mother is really happy that you do that. I would be. A little kindness goes a long way. It's especially touching when it comes from your kids. Kids know how to make their Mamma's cry out of happiness too.
i'm not always that organized, but i always call him.
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i hear you.
all i am saying is that i think some women need to alter their expectations, and some men need to step up their game.
what's the point of an extravagant display if it's just because the calendar says so? i'd rather have an extravagant display on a day where the inspiration is a bit more organic.
but that's just me.
p.s. why no extravagant display on international ice cream day?
all i am saying is that i think some women need to alter their expectations, and some men need to step up their game.
what's the point of an extravagant display if it's just because the calendar says so? i'd rather have an extravagant display on a day where the inspiration is a bit more organic.
but that's just me.
p.s. why no extravagant display on international ice cream day?
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An unexpected gift sure can warm a heart.
My father was not a romantic, and my mother was always very practical, so Valentine's Day was just another day at our house. As a married woman, I can't remember getting anything on most Valentine's Days. (Or birthdays either.) But my ex-husband did do sweet things every once in a blue moon that blew me away. I love thoughtful gestures. I'm not one to get hung up on gifts or obligations on holidays though.
My father was not a romantic, and my mother was always very practical, so Valentine's Day was just another day at our house. As a married woman, I can't remember getting anything on most Valentine's Days. (Or birthdays either.) But my ex-husband did do sweet things every once in a blue moon that blew me away. I love thoughtful gestures. I'm not one to get hung up on gifts or obligations on holidays though.
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i hear you.
all i am saying is that i think some women need to alter their expectations, and some men need to step up their game.
what's the point of an extravagant display if it's just because the calendar says so? i'd rather have an extravagant display on a day where the inspiration is a bit more organic.
but that's just me.
p.s. why no extravagant display on international ice cream day?
all i am saying is that i think some women need to alter their expectations, and some men need to step up their game.
what's the point of an extravagant display if it's just because the calendar says so? i'd rather have an extravagant display on a day where the inspiration is a bit more organic.
but that's just me.
p.s. why no extravagant display on international ice cream day?
Carvel = pure concentrated evil.
Joking aside, I think it's ironic when men start pounding Ephesians 5:22 home and forget the verses that come right after it.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Christ died for the church. We can go out of our way a little bit to let the woman in our life know she's special. For that matter, we should probably do the Christian thing and let everyone in our lives know they are special.
But I'm a hopeless romantic
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Respecfully I say: X-mas is a season for "many", Valentines -a season- for a "special" one. But I agree that should be an everyday issue.
For me is an special day, since this will be the 7th year of Alex, a girl who adopted me as her dad, and I´m happy she invited me to go to her birthday party (a thing I don´t do) but I´ll visit her before that thing starts.
For me is an special day, since this will be the 7th year of Alex, a girl who adopted me as her dad, and I´m happy she invited me to go to her birthday party (a thing I don´t do) but I´ll visit her before that thing starts.
