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Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity 
And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.
And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.
Hi there Kthespis, you can just reject what all those people told you then. Because they simply don't know what they are talking about.
Get your counsel from the word of God. The Bible has the solution to your dilemma:
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 KJV
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. [2] Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. [19] What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? [20] For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
Ephesians 5:5-7 KJV
For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. [6] Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. [7] Be not ye therefore partakers with them.
2 Timothy 2:22 KJV
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
B
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.
Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it. Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
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After reading the four pages here I feel a little confused. I don't know how I would feel with discussing sex with my boyfriend, or fiancè. It's a touchy topic. I would feel kinda weird asking him ''So....are you okay with so and so, and how often do you want to do that, and how, etc?'' It feels strange just to think about it. Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
B
After reading the four pages here I feel a little confused. I don't know how I would feel with discussing sex with my boyfriend, or fiancè. It's a touchy topic. I would feel kinda weird asking him ''So....are you okay with so and so, and how often do you want to do that, and how, etc?'' It feels strange just to think about it. Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
Well, Misty, how exactly is the kind brother going to "splain" his holy participation upon the body of the godly sister he adores?
Have you considered that among the saints, these biological matters are expressed within the holy mind of Christ?
I'd freak-out faster than jet propulsion if a brother courting me would ask if I've ever been an assassin, or "how do you feel about cannibalism, sister?" Yikes!
Among the saints, it's already understood that you know, directly from the Bible, about the holy exchange in marriage. There is nothing new under the sun.
Have you considered that among the saints, these biological matters are expressed within the holy mind of Christ?
I'd freak-out faster than jet propulsion if a brother courting me would ask if I've ever been an assassin, or "how do you feel about cannibalism, sister?" Yikes!
Among the saints, it's already understood that you know, directly from the Bible, about the holy exchange in marriage. There is nothing new under the sun.
K
Well the culture shouldn't matter here. Here and everywhere people should judge someone's true identity by what we call ''red flags'' in personality. I don't know my friends' sexual preferences, and I can tell how they would act during certain situations. So again...I don't see the relevance of discussing sex (the way I explained) in order to know if someone is a hypocrite or not. That's something you notice with personality and behavior. Also, I've been living in the US for three years, I don't think our cultures are that different on that matter.
J
After reading the four pages here I feel a little confused. I don't know how I would feel with discussing sex with my boyfriend, or fiancè. It's a touchy topic. I would feel kinda weird asking him ''So....are you okay with so and so, and how often do you want to do that, and how, etc?'' It feels strange just to think about it. Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
Isn't knowing the basics enough? like no adultery, reciprocity, liberty on the non-issues. And I would also think knowing if there is any sexual past a must before marriage. But besides from that, do we really need to know more about the subject before marriage?
Keep in mind that one person's "basic" might be something out of a biology textbook, while another's "basic" might be the entire Kama Sutra.
When you marry someone your body is no longer your own (1 Cor 7:3-5). You are going to learn things about a man you never imagined once you marry. They will learn more about a woman than they ever imagined as well. Some of which you both may wish you hadn't.
You learn together. You grow together. You care for one another. You please one another. You discuss things, even things that are difficult or make you uncomfortable. That's how intimacy grows. It's intimacy that truly connects you, not necessarily the sexuality. Good communication is key to intimacy. It's important to gauge that before you marry. Respectfully.
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