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Jullianna
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ChristianGirlLivingLife
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My uncle, who was 40 at the time, married a girl who was a little older than me, 20. It didn't work out, but it was quite the topic in our family.
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BananaPie
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djness
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I hear women say all the time age is just a number..
but if you even talk to an 18 year old and you are over thirty...
Apparently it is not ''just a number''
but if you even talk to an 18 year old and you are over thirty...
Apparently it is not ''just a number''
Creepy old men...ewww...I had one say to me "you sure are a pretty little thing" and I gave him the most serious look I could and said "Heh...well, I am not as young as you think I am" and stormed off shaking my head...what was he thinking, that I would actually hook up with him?? That's disgusting!!
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Donkeyfish07
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Some girls actually do prefer man that are really old, there was a girl I was in high school with like that. She liked them old and bald, lol.
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Apart from the gender aspect,do not go for causal dating at all; which ends in smooch smooch and nighty night.
Next,there is no problem in having a younger person as life partner(you have to marry) as long as the person is mentally mature to understand you and man enough to reproduce or and lead family life.I meant nothing funny or harsh there.Just the reality.
Personally i hate people getting married to their opposite who has got a lot of age difference. Especially when a guy who is 28 years old marries 17 years old or 18 years old,i feel weird.But according to Holy Scripture you are good to go.But must marry!..
God Bless
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Apart from the gender aspect,do not go for causal dating at all; which ends in smooch smooch and nighty night.
Next,there is no problem in having a younger person as life partner(you have to marry) as long as the person is mentally mature to understand you and man enough to reproduce or and lead family life.I meant nothing funny or harsh there.Just the reality.
Personally i hate people getting married to their opposite who has got a lot of age difference. Especially when a guy who is 28 years old marries 17 years old or 18 years old,i feel weird.But according to Holy Scripture you are good to go.But must marry!..
God Bless
"Smooch smooch and nighty night"
Hi Monica,
I'm sorry I haven't answered your thread earlier--I wanted to read some of the other thoughts before sharing. This is a topic I could ramble on quite a bit but I'll try to share a few highlights
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I seem to attract guys who are either much older or much younger. The problem I find with older guys (in my case at least, I can't speak for anyone else) is that they talk "down" to me--they've gotten to a point in life where they're proud of their accomplishments (which is understandable of course) but also seem to look down on everyone else. They act like it's a blessing that they're choosing to talk to you, and I really hate that kind of attitude. I also find older men (again, this is just my situation) tell me they're "sick of American women" and assume I will fit neatly into their stereotype of a younger, starry-eyed foreign wife who will worship their very existence. NOT ALL older men are like this, of course, but this just my own general experience.
I had a friend who always dated guys at least 15 years older, and sometimes even 30 years older. She'd been through a lot and so maturity and responsibility (she didn't want just another person she'd have to take care of) were of utmost importance to her. But something I think people forget is that time passes. It may be great when you're 25 and the other person is 45, but will that matter when someday you're 45 and they're 65? Now that my friend is in her mid-40s', she admits that if she would have married someone so much older back then, it wouldn't be so appealing now.
I have a relative who is dating someone with a 26-year age difference... So I do realize that different things work for different people.
In the past few years, I've had guys in their 20's ask me out, which is extremely flattering but I tell them my age right away!!! One was 23 and in a better place than most of the guys I know my age (house, career, financial plan for his future that included retirement). But as others have stated, there are several "stages in life" issues.
When I was younger, I wanted a family. At 40, I can't see having my first baby within the next few years (and that's IF I met the right person to marry!) Yes, I know God can do anything but at this stage in my life, the desire is no longer there.
I admit to being more comfortable around the younger crowd (not always... it depends) because they generally seem to be more accepting. I like someone who admits he doesn't know it all and is always learning rather than someone who tries to play it cool and acts like everyone is below him (I know this can happen at any age, but again, this is just my personal experience.)
I always find myself "between" groups--social clases, ages, races--so I wonder if God has someone for me "on one side or the other"... or if He plans to introduce me to someone "in the middle" like me.
I'm sorry I haven't answered your thread earlier--I wanted to read some of the other thoughts before sharing. This is a topic I could ramble on quite a bit but I'll try to share a few highlights
.I seem to attract guys who are either much older or much younger. The problem I find with older guys (in my case at least, I can't speak for anyone else) is that they talk "down" to me--they've gotten to a point in life where they're proud of their accomplishments (which is understandable of course) but also seem to look down on everyone else. They act like it's a blessing that they're choosing to talk to you, and I really hate that kind of attitude. I also find older men (again, this is just my situation) tell me they're "sick of American women" and assume I will fit neatly into their stereotype of a younger, starry-eyed foreign wife who will worship their very existence. NOT ALL older men are like this, of course, but this just my own general experience.
I had a friend who always dated guys at least 15 years older, and sometimes even 30 years older. She'd been through a lot and so maturity and responsibility (she didn't want just another person she'd have to take care of) were of utmost importance to her. But something I think people forget is that time passes. It may be great when you're 25 and the other person is 45, but will that matter when someday you're 45 and they're 65? Now that my friend is in her mid-40s', she admits that if she would have married someone so much older back then, it wouldn't be so appealing now.
I have a relative who is dating someone with a 26-year age difference... So I do realize that different things work for different people.
In the past few years, I've had guys in their 20's ask me out, which is extremely flattering but I tell them my age right away!!! One was 23 and in a better place than most of the guys I know my age (house, career, financial plan for his future that included retirement). But as others have stated, there are several "stages in life" issues.
When I was younger, I wanted a family. At 40, I can't see having my first baby within the next few years (and that's IF I met the right person to marry!) Yes, I know God can do anything but at this stage in my life, the desire is no longer there.
I admit to being more comfortable around the younger crowd (not always... it depends) because they generally seem to be more accepting. I like someone who admits he doesn't know it all and is always learning rather than someone who tries to play it cool and acts like everyone is below him (I know this can happen at any age, but again, this is just my personal experience.)
I always find myself "between" groups--social clases, ages, races--so I wonder if God has someone for me "on one side or the other"... or if He plans to introduce me to someone "in the middle" like me.
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Ok
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I think that bottom pic is a mom and her son. They look a bit like each other.
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Jullianna
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Yeah, but to just assume that right off the bat is just egotistical and disgusting. Now, say I was in a friendly conversation with him to begin with and we knew eachother over time and he would have interpreted my actions as being that I was interested in him, then maybe he would have had grounds to test the waters, but even then, still...why assume?? Nonetheless, this was in a store. I was just buying something at the counter and not engaged in any sort of conversation with him..heck, I wasn't even looking at him, I just wanted to get my stuff and leave and then he decides he was gonna get all cutesy with me and I wasn't having it....it was so gross I wanted to puke!!
Hi Monica,
I'm sorry I haven't answered your thread earlier--I wanted to read some of the other thoughts before sharing. This is a topic I could ramble on quite a bit but I'll try to share a few highlights
I seem to attract guys who are either much older or much younger. The problem I find with older guys (in my case at least, I can't speak for anyone else) is that they talk "down" to me--they've gotten to a point in life where they're proud of their accomplishments (which is understandable of course) but also seem to look down on everyone else. They act like it's a blessing that they're choosing to talk to you, and I really hate that kind of attitude. I also find older men (again, this is just my situation) tell me they're "sick of American women" and assume I will fit neatly into their stereotype of a younger, starry-eyed foreign wife who will worship their very existence. NOT ALL older men are like this, of course, but this just my own general experience.
I had a friend who always dated guys at least 15 years older, and sometimes even 30 years older. She'd been through a lot and so maturity and responsibility (she didn't want just another person she'd have to take care of) were of utmost importance to her. But something I think people forget is that time passes. It may be great when you're 25 and the other person is 45, but will that matter when someday you're 45 and they're 65? Now that my friend is in her mid-40s', she admits that if she would have married someone so much older back then, it wouldn't be so appealing now.
I have a relative who is dating someone with a 26-year age difference... So I do realize that different things work for different people.
In the past few years, I've had guys in their 20's ask me out, which is extremely flattering but I tell them my age right away!!! One was 23 and in a better place than most of the guys I know my age (house, career, financial plan for his future that included retirement). But as others have stated, there are several "stages in life" issues.
When I was younger, I wanted a family. At 40, I can't see having my first baby within the next few years (and that's IF I met the right person to marry!) Yes, I know God can do anything but at this stage in my life, the desire is no longer there.
I admit to being more comfortable around the younger crowd (not always... it depends) because they generally seem to be more accepting. I like someone who admits he doesn't know it all and is always learning rather than someone who tries to play it cool and acts like everyone is below him (I know this can happen at any age, but again, this is just my personal experience.)
I always find myself "between" groups--social clases, ages, races--so I wonder if God has someone for me "on one side or the other"... or if He plans to introduce me to someone "in the middle" like me.
I can definitely relate to that "in between" thing...my thing is, its hard to find people my age these days who have a zest for life and willing to just "be". But really, whoever I get along with, I get along with....whether they are in their 20's or 40's...I am not talking about a dating thing here though, I am talking about friendship with the opposite sex. But sometimes what I have found is that two people of the opposite sex regardless of age can just have this "thing" between them yet its not talked about or dealt with as something that can lead into more, out of choice or for whatever reason, but it just is there...if that makes sense LOL
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Jullianna get a trash can... Now continue reading.
Alas, it is not a mom and her son. From what i read it is a man and his girlfriend.
Alas, it is not a mom and her son. From what i read it is a man and his girlfriend.
i can't say i'm surprised. i don't know that i've ever seen a son *embrace* his mother like that.
creepy. the other photo is just as...ewww. *shudder*
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Jonathan1977
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I will admit it I like to talk with women of many ages, but as to dating this is a little different. I prefer not to date someone who either I have to raise or is old enough to be my Mom's friend. I figure a good range for me is about plus or minus 10 years. Though saying this I have met young women who are very mature and older women who are as mature as a 3 yr old. Either way if you and the one you want are both Christians you are gonna live forever anyway, so what is a few years difference?