If A Woman Isn't Married By Age 50, Will She Be Alone Forever?
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You need to worry about your own prejudging and not worry about another poster. You cannot hide from the fact that you prejudged me. Don't try to hide behind another poster because of your fault. It is unChristian like. Why don't you just apologize and move along. You stuck your own foot in your mouth and looking for a hiding spot. I will give you last word because I won't play this 'hide & seek" game with you.
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You need to worry about your own prejudging and not worry about another poster. You cannot hide from the fact that you prejudged me. Don't try to hide behind another poster because of your fault. It is unChristian like. Why don't you just apologize and move along. You stuck your own foot in your mouth and looking for a hiding spot. I will give you last word because I won't play this 'hide & seek" game with after
I was not hiding from anything. I'm not into hiding. After reading some of your child like remarks from other posts I am convinced that you are one of those who love to quarrel, in which I am not. I grew up a long time ago. Enjoy your day.
I was not hiding from anything. I'm not into hiding. After reading some of your child like remarks from other posts I am convinced that you are one of those who love to quarrel, in which I am not. I grew up a long time ago. Enjoy your day.
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You made me laugh in (a good) way trying to change the topic n' cool things down here eh!! Nice try!!
Nice try!!
Wow, there sure is a lot of stuff here.
I'm just going to answer the original post question thingy.
I'm 34, and I want to find someone my age-range-ish. I'd actually prefer a little older.
However, I have a weirdly opposite problem.
I keep getting solicited by women much younger than myself. And it makes me feel a little weird. I honestly wouldn't care their "age" so long as they had, you know, a fully developed personality / tastes / well-thought-out opinions. And gals a decade my junior are all running around with "lol i lik 2 laf n hav fun." Oh yes, please tell me more. Your uniqueness shines through the swathe of humanity like the sun on a fall morning.
I don't really know why so many guys want a gal who is so very young, but...I know that's not me. I'd like someone who has firm opinions (firm because she has very good reasons to hold them), but who isn't just bull-headed about it (she could change her views if given sufficient evidence). I'd like someone who has interesting thoughts. Someone who can cause *ME* to laugh. I just don't really get the sense that that's what I'd be getting with most 24 year old gals.
So to sum up: there is hope, you have a chance. Be aware that the guy is likely to be just as particular as you about the stuff he finds desirable in a person. And that can be GREAT if you find someone who matches you on those things.
I'm just going to answer the original post question thingy.
I'm 34, and I want to find someone my age-range-ish. I'd actually prefer a little older.
However, I have a weirdly opposite problem.
I keep getting solicited by women much younger than myself. And it makes me feel a little weird. I honestly wouldn't care their "age" so long as they had, you know, a fully developed personality / tastes / well-thought-out opinions. And gals a decade my junior are all running around with "lol i lik 2 laf n hav fun." Oh yes, please tell me more. Your uniqueness shines through the swathe of humanity like the sun on a fall morning.
I don't really know why so many guys want a gal who is so very young, but...I know that's not me. I'd like someone who has firm opinions (firm because she has very good reasons to hold them), but who isn't just bull-headed about it (she could change her views if given sufficient evidence). I'd like someone who has interesting thoughts. Someone who can cause *ME* to laugh. I just don't really get the sense that that's what I'd be getting with most 24 year old gals.
So to sum up: there is hope, you have a chance. Be aware that the guy is likely to be just as particular as you about the stuff he finds desirable in a person. And that can be GREAT if you find someone who matches you on those things.
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Ok, the Lord leads I'm not posting much, at all, on c.c. threads right now, but someone PM'd me and said I should say something.
Biskit, you got it all wrong, brother, Scripture is clear that wife is to submit to husband but it's also clear that husband is to submit to God. It's also clear, and, this is where some mystery might lie, as in be hidden, the husband and wife are to submit to EACH OTHER. That's all in Ephesians, look it up, but, also, as you did, to label people 'loser' is not what should be say of others, ever.
And, on c.c., girls here are preciously trying to help you understand what I just said, that man NEEDED woman, and, so, God gave man a 'helpmate.' A helper is NOT a slave, it's not some ideology that man is in charge of woman, bro. NO ! It is an act of love that a woman will submit to a man who is her husband and lording over her that you're boss is not how Scripture outlined how husband and wife are to operate in marriage, your thinking here is opposite Scripture and not even one microscopic bit right. Equality. Man and woman are equal but different in God's eyes.
kayem and some others said some very merciful, wise words for you to hear, as, they could just have not even spoken to you about your false understanding of how God made women to be for man. They are for EACH OTHER. Do I need to repeat that, say it louder or are you understanding all this by now, biskit, and, yes, I'm quite forceful on certain topics and don't think that questioning someone's Christianity is Christian either just because you don't agree with what they say.
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on topic, I don't see much thinking on this for me, I just want to be led by God to relationship with whoever God leads my way as I just do my work and go my way and worship Him. The right relationship, harmony will be there, from Him, for He knows exactly who's right for me , we will be equally yoked and both be understanding all His notes for us to continue faith fully toward His perfect union
Biskit, you got it all wrong, brother, Scripture is clear that wife is to submit to husband but it's also clear that husband is to submit to God. It's also clear, and, this is where some mystery might lie, as in be hidden, the husband and wife are to submit to EACH OTHER. That's all in Ephesians, look it up, but, also, as you did, to label people 'loser' is not what should be say of others, ever.
And, on c.c., girls here are preciously trying to help you understand what I just said, that man NEEDED woman, and, so, God gave man a 'helpmate.' A helper is NOT a slave, it's not some ideology that man is in charge of woman, bro. NO ! It is an act of love that a woman will submit to a man who is her husband and lording over her that you're boss is not how Scripture outlined how husband and wife are to operate in marriage, your thinking here is opposite Scripture and not even one microscopic bit right. Equality. Man and woman are equal but different in God's eyes.
kayem and some others said some very merciful, wise words for you to hear, as, they could just have not even spoken to you about your false understanding of how God made women to be for man. They are for EACH OTHER. Do I need to repeat that, say it louder or are you understanding all this by now, biskit, and, yes, I'm quite forceful on certain topics and don't think that questioning someone's Christianity is Christian either just because you don't agree with what they say.
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on topic, I don't see much thinking on this for me, I just want to be led by God to relationship with whoever God leads my way as I just do my work and go my way and worship Him. The right relationship, harmony will be there, from Him, for He knows exactly who's right for me , we will be equally yoked and both be understanding all His notes for us to continue faith fully toward His perfect union
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Ok, the Lord leads I'm not posting much, at all, on c.c. threads right now, but someone PM'd me and said I should say something.
Biskit, you got it all wrong, brother, Scripture is clear that wife is to submit to husband but it's also clear that husband is to submit to God. It's also clear, and, this is where some mystery might lie, as in be hidden, the husband and wife are to submit to EACH OTHER. That's all in Ephesians, look it up, but, also, as you did, to label people 'loser' is not what should be say of others, ever.
And, on c.c., girls here are preciously trying to help you understand what I just said, that man NEEDED woman, and, so, God gave man a 'helpmate.' A helper is NOT a slave, it's not some ideology that man is in charge of woman, bro. NO ! It is an act of love that a woman will submit to a man who is her husband and lording over her that you're boss is not how Scripture outlined how husband and wife are to operate in marriage, your thinking here is opposite Scripture and not even one microscopic bit right. Equality. Man and woman are equal but different in God's eyes.
kayem and some others said some very merciful, wise words for you to hear, as, they could just have not even spoken to you about your false understanding of how God made women to be for man. They are for EACH OTHER. Do I need to repeat that, say it louder or are you understanding all this by now, biskit, and, yes, I'm quite forceful on certain topics and don't think that questioning someone's Christianity is Christian either just because you don't agree with what they say.
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on topic, I don't see much thinking on this for me, I just want to be led by God to relationship with whoever God leads my way as I just do my work and go my way and worship Him. The right relationship, harmony will be there, from Him, for He knows exactly who's right for me , we will be equally yoked and both be understanding all His notes for us to continue faith fully toward His perfect union
Biskit, you got it all wrong, brother, Scripture is clear that wife is to submit to husband but it's also clear that husband is to submit to God. It's also clear, and, this is where some mystery might lie, as in be hidden, the husband and wife are to submit to EACH OTHER. That's all in Ephesians, look it up, but, also, as you did, to label people 'loser' is not what should be say of others, ever.
And, on c.c., girls here are preciously trying to help you understand what I just said, that man NEEDED woman, and, so, God gave man a 'helpmate.' A helper is NOT a slave, it's not some ideology that man is in charge of woman, bro. NO ! It is an act of love that a woman will submit to a man who is her husband and lording over her that you're boss is not how Scripture outlined how husband and wife are to operate in marriage, your thinking here is opposite Scripture and not even one microscopic bit right. Equality. Man and woman are equal but different in God's eyes.
kayem and some others said some very merciful, wise words for you to hear, as, they could just have not even spoken to you about your false understanding of how God made women to be for man. They are for EACH OTHER. Do I need to repeat that, say it louder or are you understanding all this by now, biskit, and, yes, I'm quite forceful on certain topics and don't think that questioning someone's Christianity is Christian either just because you don't agree with what they say.
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on topic, I don't see much thinking on this for me, I just want to be led by God to relationship with whoever God leads my way as I just do my work and go my way and worship Him. The right relationship, harmony will be there, from Him, for He knows exactly who's right for me , we will be equally yoked and both be understanding all His notes for us to continue faith fully toward His perfect union
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What happened to being Christ like? It says in the bible that we need to be imitators of Christ. If we argue and insult each other what is that proving? It proves that we are not putting our heavenly father first. Our words become an idol. Anything put in front of God it is an idol which one of the ten commandments states "You shall have no other Gods before me". Here is a future point for everyone reading this reply. "When you reply to anything here or in any aspects of your life think about it. Ask yourself does what you say lines up with the 'Ten Commandments' or the bible if not don't respond. Oh, and Mr. Buscuit I am also from old school of thought. Didn't your momma ever teach you if you didn't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?And for that matter didn't your daddy teach you to treat women in general with upmost respect better than you treat yourself? Be a gentlemen for goodness sake.
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Are you going to address those same women who were not kind to me? Of course not!! you are playing host to the so-called female victims who got attacked by that wicked, evil poster biscuit. That tactic is as old as the Garden of Eden. Whenever female posters get offended, they will spin off posts to serve their purpose to be the victim. As you can see they failed miserably ... and are really dependent on other posters to put me in my place. Sorry, I was on the secular boards for 11 years and it is a common practice when a group of women have personal vendetta against a male poster who is telling the truth. The truth hurts so bad that they have to resort to these tactics. They could have stayed on the topic in general but things were not going their way. Again, are you going to posted to those women who insulted me with the same rhetoric you are giving me now? Of course not, because you are playing into the hands of the so-called victim. If you are going to lecture, I suggest you do it for all posters, male or female. Have a blessed day.
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Q: "If A Woman Isn't Married By Age 50, Will She Be Alone Forever?"
This is yet another reason why it's important to have a good family and friend network. Most women understand this intuitively as they are hard wired to be more socially conscious than males.
Here's the 'Number, Timing, and Duration of Marriages and Divorces' U.S. census data: https://www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p70-125.pdf
Also: SIPP Data on Marriage and Divorce - U.S. Census Bureau
I'm not going to summarize it for you but the statistical answer to your question is in there.
I will say this though. The grass is often greener on the other side. I've seen a good share of loveless marriages end in divorce and conflict... often life long conflict when children are present.
Better to remain single, imo, than go through that chaos.
Statistically, the marriages that last the longest and work the best are upper class marriages. The money seems to make a difference. For the rest of us, the area which causes the most conflict in marriage is money (or should I say the lack of it).
Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Though upper class marriages have a much higher marriage rate, lower divorce rate, and higher satisfaction rate: there are divorces. And I've met enough poor Christian families that love God and each other who make it work satisfactorily for them despite a constant financial pressure upon their families.
Will you be alone? You don't have to. Will you be married? Statistically no. Do statistics control your decision-making? No. You can choose an alternate path and if you find someone who thinks like you then they will have to revise their statistics to include you both.
This is yet another reason why it's important to have a good family and friend network. Most women understand this intuitively as they are hard wired to be more socially conscious than males.
Here's the 'Number, Timing, and Duration of Marriages and Divorces' U.S. census data: https://www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p70-125.pdf
Also: SIPP Data on Marriage and Divorce - U.S. Census Bureau
I'm not going to summarize it for you but the statistical answer to your question is in there.
I will say this though. The grass is often greener on the other side. I've seen a good share of loveless marriages end in divorce and conflict... often life long conflict when children are present.
Better to remain single, imo, than go through that chaos.
Statistically, the marriages that last the longest and work the best are upper class marriages. The money seems to make a difference. For the rest of us, the area which causes the most conflict in marriage is money (or should I say the lack of it).
Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Though upper class marriages have a much higher marriage rate, lower divorce rate, and higher satisfaction rate: there are divorces. And I've met enough poor Christian families that love God and each other who make it work satisfactorily for them despite a constant financial pressure upon their families.
Will you be alone? You don't have to. Will you be married? Statistically no. Do statistics control your decision-making? No. You can choose an alternate path and if you find someone who thinks like you then they will have to revise their statistics to include you both
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Did I or did I not say to everyone to think about what they will say whether it will line up with the bible and if not then don't say anything. Reread what I posted and it was in a general sense. Just the facts that you assumed it was all about you and that every woman on here is out to get you just shows how guilty you really are. You have made multiple comments about other people being judgmental without knowing the full facts, well I have read every comment here in this blog and some were necessary and some were not. Plus it says in the bible not to judge others lest we will be judged. Yet it also states in the bible to judge them based on their fruits. You do not know all these people posting like I do not know you. What I do know is how people are treating each other and it is not called for on any level. It is considered verbal abuse and it doesn't matter what others say. You cannot control their comments no matter how hard you try but you can control your comments and not buy into that game. Yet instead you keep getting into it with people who may or may not deserve it. By the way you are sounding in your comments to be very bitter. I am praying that you find God's Agape Love that God intended for us to have and to show to others
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