Are You a "Lonely Loser"? (Name 5 Things You Love About Your Life.)
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I've only ever asked one female out and I was all of 17 or so at the time. She wasn't very nice about it and was rather off-putting. I remember like it was just the other day.
The reason I say 100% is based on what I would term rejection based on body language. After years of that I just basically gave up. Whenever I did show interest that was when the trouble started.
I'll give you brief run down of events:
At 19 a young lady started talking to me out of the blue in church. I wondered what hit me. She was very pretty and still remember her name. She did this twice I and didn't really show any interest. I didn't even know how to.
Until I was 24 or so I had acne so I was never going to attract a women anyway and therefore I didn't. I likely still had it at 19 so I couldn't understand why that young lady was seemingly interested.
From 24 till about 27 I was being given a hard time by a couple of women simply because I never had a gf nor was dating. I nearly lost my job because it was affecting my performance. I caught up with my then manager a couple of weeks ago on the train and again last week and walked home with him. He now lives just up the road.
From 27 to 30 I was busy with boys bride and competing in pipe bands so I had no time anyway.
At 30 I was made redundant from said job and decided to go back into study. I was going to be a teacher but when I went to uni to get some info about I walk into the office and the woman gave me the evil eye. I was rung a week later to ask if I was still interested. The answer was a firm no.
From 30 till 35 started a new job and was losing interest in women as time went by. I was intending on becoming a network engineer but have got out of technology altogether.
At 35 I had been talking to a woman online and she asked me out three times before I met her. We started a relationship (thought I doubt whether it really was) and got screwed over.
At 35 till now I have lost interest once again till now where I am quite happy to be single and quite glad I never got involved with another woman. I'd say if I did and got married I'd be divorced and perhaps liable for child support.
So between young and stupid, being unattractive for a period, being given a hard time that I don't believe was justified, a change in direction, a failed relationship and a corrupted relationship file; it hasn't been the best of times but it hasn't been the worst of times either. I could've done a lot worse. I'm quite sure if I had bothered to ask a women out at any of those points I'd still be rejected.
I'm even less attractive today. I'm even more bald, losing teeth faster than in the past and now have a pot belly. You might say I'm a bit hard on myself but let's face reality, I was told frequently that I wasn't attractive.
On the plus side, though I've had few job changes a couple of managers have said you know what, people look up to you. I don't think this equates to being attractive to women though.
Today I'm quite happy to be single and I'm likely just set in my ways. The bible really is telling the truth when it says those who marry will face many troubles. It doesn't how much a couple loves each other or is in love or whatever else love. There's going to trouble and heartbreak.
I believe it is Gods will for me to be single so I am a BTTR - Batchelor Till The Rapture.
Tourist - I can't give you any advice because I've had nil success. I couldn't even give theoretical advice.
This is the longest post I've ever done!
The reason I say 100% is based on what I would term rejection based on body language. After years of that I just basically gave up. Whenever I did show interest that was when the trouble started.
I'll give you brief run down of events:
At 19 a young lady started talking to me out of the blue in church. I wondered what hit me. She was very pretty and still remember her name. She did this twice I and didn't really show any interest. I didn't even know how to.
Until I was 24 or so I had acne so I was never going to attract a women anyway and therefore I didn't. I likely still had it at 19 so I couldn't understand why that young lady was seemingly interested.
From 24 till about 27 I was being given a hard time by a couple of women simply because I never had a gf nor was dating. I nearly lost my job because it was affecting my performance. I caught up with my then manager a couple of weeks ago on the train and again last week and walked home with him. He now lives just up the road.
From 27 to 30 I was busy with boys bride and competing in pipe bands so I had no time anyway.
At 30 I was made redundant from said job and decided to go back into study. I was going to be a teacher but when I went to uni to get some info about I walk into the office and the woman gave me the evil eye. I was rung a week later to ask if I was still interested. The answer was a firm no.
From 30 till 35 started a new job and was losing interest in women as time went by. I was intending on becoming a network engineer but have got out of technology altogether.
At 35 I had been talking to a woman online and she asked me out three times before I met her. We started a relationship (thought I doubt whether it really was) and got screwed over.
At 35 till now I have lost interest once again till now where I am quite happy to be single and quite glad I never got involved with another woman. I'd say if I did and got married I'd be divorced and perhaps liable for child support.
So between young and stupid, being unattractive for a period, being given a hard time that I don't believe was justified, a change in direction, a failed relationship and a corrupted relationship file; it hasn't been the best of times but it hasn't been the worst of times either. I could've done a lot worse. I'm quite sure if I had bothered to ask a women out at any of those points I'd still be rejected.
I'm even less attractive today. I'm even more bald, losing teeth faster than in the past and now have a pot belly. You might say I'm a bit hard on myself but let's face reality, I was told frequently that I wasn't attractive.
On the plus side, though I've had few job changes a couple of managers have said you know what, people look up to you. I don't think this equates to being attractive to women though.
Today I'm quite happy to be single and I'm likely just set in my ways. The bible really is telling the truth when it says those who marry will face many troubles. It doesn't how much a couple loves each other or is in love or whatever else love. There's going to trouble and heartbreak.
I believe it is Gods will for me to be single so I am a BTTR - Batchelor Till The Rapture.
Tourist - I can't give you any advice because I've had nil success. I couldn't even give theoretical advice.
This is the longest post I've ever done!
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hahahah 
Hope (both of you, Tourist + Firewire) get increased those "popularity" points (I disbelieved both of you!) hahahah!
Hope (both of you, Tourist + Firewire) get increased those "popularity" points (I disbelieved both of you!) hahahah!
However I've done some rejections myself occasionally.
What a crazy world this is.
S
Only people who are single look down on people who are single. Most married people I know envy those single ones because they can do what married people can't really do. Single people can do just about anything they want, married people cannot. Bible says it's easier to be single. I doubt a married person would talk to you as half a person, more than not, married people lose a part of who they are because it is now shared with someone else and then sometimes children. I would love to get married one day but I am going to enjoy my singleness because so many people have told me it's a blessing to be single.
1. I love that I find I can lean on God wholeheartedly 100% for strength, I don't look to a man to fulfil my emotional needs, and so I am never disappointed.
2. I love that I am still my parents baby, even though I am the oldest. Never been married or in a serious relationship, they like that and cherish it, and I still get spoiled lots by them because they know it won't last forever.
3. I love that I can give attention to my studies without the distraction of a relationship.
4. I love that I can really get to know people without any fear and a whole host of opportunities in getting to know people, if someone said, come to a conference with me next week there is a guest speaker and I think it would benefit you, I can say yes without a second thought because there is no husband and children to think about.
5. I am able to buy a ticket, with my money that I don't have to share, hop on a plane and fly around whenever I want, and I do that a lot.
Singleness is a wonderful time in life.
1. I love that I find I can lean on God wholeheartedly 100% for strength, I don't look to a man to fulfil my emotional needs, and so I am never disappointed.
2. I love that I am still my parents baby, even though I am the oldest. Never been married or in a serious relationship, they like that and cherish it, and I still get spoiled lots by them because they know it won't last forever.
3. I love that I can give attention to my studies without the distraction of a relationship.
4. I love that I can really get to know people without any fear and a whole host of opportunities in getting to know people, if someone said, come to a conference with me next week there is a guest speaker and I think it would benefit you, I can say yes without a second thought because there is no husband and children to think about.
5. I am able to buy a ticket, with my money that I don't have to share, hop on a plane and fly around whenever I want, and I do that a lot.
Singleness is a wonderful time in life.
