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Hey Laura, It would be my pleasure to take you out on a date
I have also struggled like you with desiring a relationship and struggling with being single. After some bad relationships I have found that I am more happy staying single. It could be that your discontent could just stem from the unknown, you may need to try out a relationship and see what happens (easier said than done i know).
I have also struggled like you with desiring a relationship and struggling with being single. After some bad relationships I have found that I am more happy staying single. It could be that your discontent could just stem from the unknown, you may need to try out a relationship and see what happens (easier said than done i know).
L
I guess I should reword that. It's not that I totally resent God. But again, it goes back to being hurt by Him. And no, He doesn't owe me anything. But again, I'm human. I don't understand what His purpose in all of this and I certainly don't like the pain my heart is in from being lonely. And it hurts to see people who have truly wronged you get everything you pray for and you're still stuck with nothing.
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Because people have the misguided notion that prayer is intended as time to ask for what we want. Prayer is a conversation (as in both ways) with God, not a time for us to sit on Gods lap as if He were Santa and we give Him our list and hope He thinks we've been good.
So what's the point of prayer? To engage in a one on one relationship with the Creator of the universe, to keep an open line of communication. If you view prayer as the genie bottle that grants your wishes, no wonder you're so unhappy. Because how would you feel if someone you cared about viewed talking to you as a one sided conversation where all they cared about was telling you all they wanted from you?
So what's the point of prayer? To engage in a one on one relationship with the Creator of the universe, to keep an open line of communication. If you view prayer as the genie bottle that grants your wishes, no wonder you're so unhappy. Because how would you feel if someone you cared about viewed talking to you as a one sided conversation where all they cared about was telling you all they wanted from you?
L
Ugly, Once again, what's the point in prayer? If God is going to do whatever He wants whether or not you "ask" for it, then I see nothing to pray for. To say prayer is a conversation... that's a totally laughable thing! In my case. How many times have I asked God to speak to me in any way and I would do my best to listen? Too many to count. How many times has He spoke to me? Zero.
Your tone was pretty harsh. You could have found a better way to reply/explain or whatever you wanted to do.
Your tone was pretty harsh. You could have found a better way to reply/explain or whatever you wanted to do.
God speaks to us firstly through His Word. Romans 8 speaks of the Spirit of God having raised the Lord Jesus from the dead and leading Christians and dwelling in them, and causing them to cry Abba, Father. The chapter also speaks of the Holy Spirit interceding for believers and of the Lord Jesus interceding for them: having saved them from their sins, the Lord Jesus blesses His purchased people according to His purposes.
S
God says you can ask anything of Him, He does what he does for our own protection, we think we know what we want and sometimes He gives those things we ask to us only for us to deal with the consequnces. Eg - you prayed for a hardworking man, God gives you a hardworking man, but he never has time to take you out or spend with you because he is always working, you got what you wanted, didn't you? That's why we have to pray for His will to be done because only God knows what's best for us. The enemy has full reign to our lives if we not praying, that's also why we pray. We pray so that we can build our relationship with the Lord, much like building a relationship with a boyfriend or spouse. We need that communication so that we learn how they communicate. In praying we learn how God personally communicates with us, over time we are able to discern His voice over another voice. Prayer is the way to stay in God's will for your life, because His plans for you are good. Pray Pray Pray!!
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I hope things are looking up for you. I can relate to the frustration of not getting your prayers answered. I too have asked whats the point of praying if God is going to do what he wants anyway. I wish i had an answer for that other than Jesus has told us to do just that. We must trust him. All prayers are answered. some with a "yes" and some with a "no" and sometimes the answer is "not now". Anything but an immediate yes is frustrating. But I needed to remember God isnt my personal vending machine and we need to be patient and live by his timeline. GRRRRR not easy!
God does talk to us but we are usually inside our head so much we miss it. He usually has to hit me over the head to get me to listen. or at least he use to. I was in a bad place(in my head lol) recently. All the wrong kinds of thoughts were taking over. the enemy loves to sneak in there and kick you when your down. He will fill you with doubt when ever he can. It is his main objective to get you to doubt God, resent him and give up hope. Anyway while reading Philippians I came across chapter 4 verse 6-8( i hope thats right) about thinking the right thoughts. I honestly didnt think much about it after reading it. The next day I read it in another book that i have been reading on and off by a Christian author called "the sexual man". ok that was weird, twice in two days. but to be honest it wasnt until i saw it on a huge home made plague while waiting in a waiting room a week later that the light bulb went off. My thoughts were all wrong and I needed to change that. Like i said, sometimes he has to hit me in the head. Do not let the enemy get in you head. you are loved more than you can possibly know. we must be patient
lastly I have read alot in this thread about weight. yes guys are visual...to a degree. yes we need to treat our bodies as his temple. but if a guy sizes you up and keeps walking then i have to say you are better off. being shallow is not a virtue.
keep your chin up and keep your eyes on God. He has a plan for all of us...that includes you!
God does talk to us but we are usually inside our head so much we miss it. He usually has to hit me over the head to get me to listen. or at least he use to. I was in a bad place(in my head lol) recently. All the wrong kinds of thoughts were taking over. the enemy loves to sneak in there and kick you when your down. He will fill you with doubt when ever he can. It is his main objective to get you to doubt God, resent him and give up hope. Anyway while reading Philippians I came across chapter 4 verse 6-8( i hope thats right) about thinking the right thoughts. I honestly didnt think much about it after reading it. The next day I read it in another book that i have been reading on and off by a Christian author called "the sexual man". ok that was weird, twice in two days. but to be honest it wasnt until i saw it on a huge home made plague while waiting in a waiting room a week later that the light bulb went off. My thoughts were all wrong and I needed to change that. Like i said, sometimes he has to hit me in the head. Do not let the enemy get in you head. you are loved more than you can possibly know. we must be patient
lastly I have read alot in this thread about weight. yes guys are visual...to a degree. yes we need to treat our bodies as his temple. but if a guy sizes you up and keeps walking then i have to say you are better off. being shallow is not a virtue.
keep your chin up and keep your eyes on God. He has a plan for all of us...that includes you!