I used to tell people straight away. A potential boyfriend to me was like a mission or a battle, I always had ammunition and counter attacks at the ready. I was one of those 'If I want it, I'm going for it... do I look like I have time to play games?' kind of people.
But now I'm learning what it means to be pursued, to be the one fought for rather than the one fighting for all the wrong reasons, to basically stand around and look pretty, and where appropriate, open up and reveal my 'character' or 'inward personality... stuff... what ever'. MY GOODNESS. This is really hard work. This is a totally different realm that I don't understand and I feel potentially clueless about.
Why do some men have to linger with their 'um' and 'aahhh-ing' contemplating what to do? Being rejected for a relationship never killed anyone. If people were a bit more honest about how they felt and girded themselves, plucked up some courage and applied actions to their feelings then things would actually get done.
(I'm totally not word vomiting because I was stood up for a date tonight. Totally....)