Well as your sister in Christ, I will say that if I come across a guy who I get along with well but he isn't doing anything with his life and seems to have the attitude of life starts at marriage; I'm not going to be very interested in him for long. Besides,
God rarely drops someone on your doorstep; you need to go out and make friends and meet people. Yes that's hard for us introverted types, but we all need some connection to people.
Ultimately, a spouse should not be the only thing you are praying about. God has a life for you to live right now and you need to be obedient to what he is calling you too. That doesn't mean you need to date a lot or learn a bunch of cheesy pickup lines, but it does mean you should be doing something more than sitting around sighing and saying. God are you going to put her on my doorstep today?
By the way, I don't know how useful my advice is as I've never prayed for a wife and I don't have any intentions of ever having a wife