Is it wrong to pray for a wife or soulmate ?

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christianguitarist

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Hi everyone,
was wondering if its wrong to pray for a wife or soulmate and not doing anything but waiting ? or is it encouraged to get involved in ministry and serve .


Thanks for all your comments.
 
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ji

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christianguitarist said:
Hi everyone,
was wondering if its wrong to pray for a wife or soulmate and not doing anything but waiting ? or is it encouraged to get involved in ministry and serve .


Thanks for all your comments.
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Its wrong if you don't Pray for a wife from God.
God gives the Best...
And He doesn't give soul mate,but the Right Help Mate.

i did,...and no matter what future is going to be,God gave me the Right one because i looked at Him for solutions..
Its Better to Trust in God than trust in people..
 
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FireWire

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I've never prayed for a wife and I don't see anything in the bible commanding me to. Correct me if I'm wrong. It tells me to pray that Gods will is done.
 
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Raine

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I think sometimes God does place a desire in your heart for a partner and if he does... Then go for it and pray about it :). Ask him what this desire means and who he/she should look like in terms of the heart.
 
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christianguitarist said:
Hi everyone,
was wondering if its wrong to pray for a wife or soulmate and not doing anything but waiting ? or is it encouraged to get involved in ministry and serve .


Thanks for all your comments.
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Well as your sister in Christ, I will say that if I come across a guy who I get along with well but he isn't doing anything with his life and seems to have the attitude of life starts at marriage; I'm not going to be very interested in him for long. Besides, God rarely drops someone on your doorstep; you need to go out and make friends and meet people. Yes that's hard for us introverted types, but we all need some connection to people.

Ultimately, a spouse should not be the only thing you are praying about. God has a life for you to live right now and you need to be obedient to what he is calling you too. That doesn't mean you need to date a lot or learn a bunch of cheesy pickup lines, but it does mean you should be doing something more than sitting around sighing and saying. God are you going to put her on my doorstep today?

By the way, I don't know how useful my advice is as I've never prayed for a wife and I don't have any intentions of ever having a wife :p
 
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ji

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FireWire said:
I've never prayed for a wife and I don't see anything in the bible commanding me to. Correct me if I'm wrong. It tells me to pray that Gods will is done.
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Amen...:)
God Bless.
 
secularhermit

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Wrong it would be when we try to please our visceral longings, with selfish motives.

I chose to leave it out, just to die to my self, to be alive to please HIM, instead.
 
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Raine said:
I think sometimes God does place a desire in your heart for a partner and if he does... Then go for it and pray about it :). Ask him what this desire means and who he/she should look like in terms of the heart.
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I like the way you see it Mss rain drops. There have been times I prayed without knowing the reasons and knowing the end results. There are times we are moved to pray and GOD shows (or hid) the end result, though HIS reasons are ALWAYS right.

I have heard loving and interesting stories and witnessing. Reacently I had a bad dream and I informed the person I saw, just to warn her from what I saw (because I seldom have a dream or nightmare anout her) so I gave her a burden on her issue, and also shared that info with her childen (my children also).

Surrendering to GOD is really releasing and pleasing. That is another way to communicate with the Creator and His Chosen ONE, though I have to learn how to listen and to wait for any of their answers.
 
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christianguitarist

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cinder said:
Well as your sister in Christ, I will say that if I come across a guy who I get along with well but he isn't doing anything with his life and seems to have the attitude of life starts at marriage; I'm not going to be very interested in him for long. Besides, God rarely drops someone on your doorstep; you need to go out and make friends and meet people. Yes that's hard for us introverted types, but we all need some connection to people.

Ultimately, a spouse should not be the only thing you are praying about. God has a life for you to live right now and you need to be obedient to what he is calling you too. That doesn't mean you need to date a lot or learn a bunch of cheesy pickup lines, but it does mean you should be doing something more than sitting around sighing and saying. God are you going to put her on my doorstep today?

By the way, I don't know how useful my advice is as I've never prayed for a wife and I don't have any intentions of ever having a wife :p
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Those were sound words of wisdom thanks sister .
 
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ji said:
Its wrong if you don't Pray for a wife from God.
God gives the Best...
And He doesn't give soul mate,but the Right Help Mate.

i did,...and no matter what future is going to be,God gave me the Right one because i looked at Him for solutions..
Its Better to Trust in God than trust in people..
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Agreed on!

Just sent me a card when that answers comes. Godly marriege is the BEST gift a man can receive from the Almighty ONE.
 
secularhermit

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cinder said:
Well as your sister in Christ, I will say that if I come across a guy who I get along with well but he isn't doing anything with his life and seems to have the attitude of life starts at marriage; I'm not going to be very interested in him for long. Besides, God rarely drops someone on your doorstep; you need to go out and make friends and meet people. Yes that's hard for us introverted types, but we all need some connection to people.

Ultimately, a spouse should not be the only thing you are praying about. God has a life for you to live right now and you need to be obedient to what he is calling you too. That doesn't mean you need to date a lot or learn a bunch of cheesy pickup lines, but it does mean you should be doing something more than sitting around sighing and saying. God are you going to put her on my doorstep today?

By the way, I don't know how useful my advice is as I've never prayed for a wife and I don't have any intentions of ever having a wife :p
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Ha! Ha!

I´m afraid someone told me wrongly... paris.jpg
 
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Keep in mind, 'soul mates' are not biblical. The soul mate idea stems from Greek paganism, not the bible. Adam and Eve are not proof of this. God had no choice but to create a new being. Nothing there suggests anyone else is ever made for another person. We are made for God.
 
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secularhermit said:
I like the way you see it Mss rain drops. There have been times I prayed without knowing the reasons and knowing the end results. There are times we are moved to pray and GOD shows (or hid) the end result, though HIS reasons are ALWAYS right.

I have heard loving and interesting stories and witnessing. Reacently I had a bad dream and I informed the person I saw, just to warn her from what I saw (because I seldom have a dream or nightmare anout her) so I gave her a burden on her issue, and also shared that info with her childen (my children also).

Surrendering to GOD is really releasing and pleasing. That is another way to communicate with the Creator and His Chosen ONE, though I have to learn how to listen and to wait for any of their answers.
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Exactly! Sometimes I have strong desires to pray about something or someone and I don't know why, but God does and when we obey him he can then prepare us for what is to come. :). Prayer isn't about asking for things, it is a way of preparing for what's to come.
 
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Raine said:
Exactly! Sometimes I have strong desires to pray about something or someone and I don't know why, but God does and when we obey him he can then prepare us for what is to come. :). Prayer isn't about asking for things, it is a way of preparing for what's to come.
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Hmmm! I´m happy to "meet" someone who is like a guitar... (You just reminded me that lesson).

A guitar vibrates same frequency another plays a note. If you are close enough to one of these played, you feel (and hear) its wood vibrates at any tune played (most of the string instruments seem to be that way). So, your words reminded me we´d better to stay tuned with the ONE who plays the key note...

I´ve been playing all notes and tunes bad.
 
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Raine said:
Exactly! Sometimes I have strong desires to pray about something or someone and I don't know why, but God does and when we obey him he can then prepare us for what is to come. :). Prayer isn't about asking for things, it is a way of preparing for what's to come.
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That was a very interesting observation you have made about the preparation for an answered prayer and is worth of additional pondering. I take comfort in the fact that even when we do not fully understand the burden that is pressing down upon us the Holy Spirit certainly does and prayer is said to the Father on our behalf. He will then send His son Jesus do the necessary work in an expeditious and timely manner. This is quite a prayer circle!
 
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FireWire said:
I've never prayed for a wife and I don't see anything in the bible commanding me to. Correct me if I'm wrong. It tells me to pray that Gods will is done.
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It may be God's will and desire.

We have free will as God will never force us to do anything. No, I am sure that God is not commanding you to pray for a wife. However, if you have felt an urgency in your heart for a wife it would be wise to pray to God to find a wife of His own choosing for you. My first marriage was a disaster because I did not pray and my second marriage was wonderful because I did pray. This has been my experience and may you choose wisely as well.
 
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Keep in mind, 'soul mates' are not biblical. The soul mate idea stems from Greek paganism, not the bible. Adam and Eve are not proof of this. God had no choice but to create a new being. Nothing there suggests anyone else is ever made for another person. We are made for God.
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I've always wondered where the term soul mates came from.
 
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Ugly said:
Keep in mind, 'soul mates' are not biblical. The soul mate idea stems from Greek paganism, not the bible. Adam and Eve are not proof of this. God had no choice but to create a new being. Nothing there suggests anyone else is ever made for another person. We are made for God.
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Yep that sums it up nicely. People talk about being made for each other. No. You make yourself suitable for another person. I'm sure there are some "soul mates" that have split. Based on that ideology they could never find anybody else because there cannot be anybody else. I laugh at how secular/humanist thinking leads to a dead end.
 
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tourist said:
It may be God's will and desire.

We have free will as God will never force us to do anything. No, I am sure that God is not commanding you to pray for a wife. However, if you have felt an urgency in your heart for a wife it would be wise to pray to God to find a wife of His own choosing for you. My first marriage was a disaster because I did not pray and my second marriage was wonderful because I did pray. This has been my experience and may you choose wisely as well.
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No I don't see a biblical pattern anywhere that says we should be praying for this. People just did what they had to and got married. After all it does say be fruitful and multiply. What one should be praying for is guidance to marry the right person as you said not for a spouse in the first place.
I have no urgency and actually no desire for a wife so I'm not going to pray for that because it would superfluous. I don't need to pray to stay single either. Should I pray for the desire then pray for a wife? Nah. I should be praying for Gods will.
 
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