It's OK to pray

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Fenner

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I've seen a few threads lately people wondering if it's OK to pray for a future spouse. I want to tell you, that it's fine. It's really between you and God, your relationship with God is personal. I mean I'm sure you're not putting 100 percent of your life on praying for the man/woman you haven't met yet, but praying for that someday person seems nice to me.

I'm not the authority on praying and neither is anyone else. So don't worry, don't stress, just pray.
 
lil_christian

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Fenner said:
I've seen a few threads lately people wondering if it's OK to pray for a future spouse. I want to tell you, that it's fine. It's really between you and God, your relationship with God is personal. I mean I'm sure you're not putting 100 percent of your life on praying for the man/woman you haven't met yet, but praying for that someday person seems nice to me.

I'm not the authority on praying and neither is anyone else. So don't worry, don't stress, just pray.
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Exactly. In fact, I believe the Bible supports praying even if you don't know what to pray. So when you DO know what to pray, pray it. I mean, nagging God about something is one thing (like wanting some super expensive car and asking for it all day, every stinking day...), or saying, "You WILL give me this new Ferrari." but saying, "Hey, God. Here's the desires of my heart." That's different.
 
Fenner

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Totally different, if you want to pray for someone, even if it's someone that God hasn't put in your life yet, a spouse for example, why not? :)
 
lil_christian

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Fenner said:
Totally different, if you want to pray for someone, even if it's someone that God hasn't put in your life yet, a spouse for example, why not? :)
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Yeah! Kind of reminds me of when people pray for those they might walk into that might need ministering to. They pray God readies their heart to minister to this person/people and to share with them. They'll sometimes pray that others' hearts will be prepared to hear and receive the Gospel. Why not pray God readies them for marriage and pray that their spouse will be ready in His timing? :)
 
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when i realized God was preparing me for someone, and someone for me, i started praying for my wife, before i knew her. not just praying 'that i will find a good woman' -- but that the woman He had created for me, and i for her, would be strengthened and kept in Him :)

i find no shame or sin in that!

and i've been happily married to a wonderful woman for many years now, praise God!
 
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I agree with Fenner we have a God that wants us to talk to Him its like I heard somebody say its like a parent and a child God wants to hear from you just like your parents do. You can come to Him for anything at anytime. He's always welcoming.
 
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Fenner said:
I've seen a few threads lately people wondering if it's OK to pray for a future spouse. I want to tell you, that it's fine. It's really between you and God, your relationship with God is personal. I mean I'm sure you're not putting 100 percent of your life on praying for the man/woman you haven't met yet, but praying for that someday person seems nice to me.

I'm not the authority on praying and neither is anyone else. So don't worry, don't stress, just pray.
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Since this is the Singles Forum, I completely agree.

If this was the Bible Discussion Forum I'd have to disagree just as a matter of course.
That's just what we do over there.

: )
 
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yes, i've been praying for my theoretical husband for years, not everyday, but maybe once or twice a week when it occurs to me to do so.

also, i think the bigger issues is that we're called to pray what's on our mind and heart. i don't think you should pray as a means of completing some meaningless list, but rather, to share what's on our heart.

if you feel led to pray about your future spouse, then you really ought to.

scripture calls us again and again to give these things to God, and to allow him to be our safe and sacred ground to leave our hopes, dreams, thoughts, and fears. our concerns.

it's a bigger issue when you feel unable or unwilling to come to him with authenticity, and putting him in a box, trying to decipher what is worth and suitable about praying for and what is not.
 
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secularhermit

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As old and worn out I am, I realized a big mistake: Trying to help God to achieve my own personal plans. :)

Second, I was so selfishly concerned on doing my own will, that I forgot I needed to develope a real personal friendship with Him, re-commiting those personal areas I wasn´t handing over into HIS perfect hands.

Third, that I undergone vasectomy and many ladies still want to have a baby, so I knew how conveniently I "fixed" my life to be isolated, and

Forth, I never prayed (or fasted) so He would spiritually shape me the way the woman He might have thought would be happy to have me, as undeserved or secular I might think I am.

I´m glad that emotional push is over. I´m settling these things down in my mind, so I´m on my way to see what He wants me to do.

Those prayers have to be viewed both sides: Considering her and considering all those lacks any man might have to be deserving enough that special woman He might have thought for each to be married. If I ever prayed for her, I´m almost sure I never prayed for making me suitable for another.
 
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secularhermit said:
As old and worn out I am, I realized a big mistake: Trying to help God to achieve my own personal plans. :)

Second, I was so selfishly concerned on doing my own will, that I forgot I needed to develope a real personal friendship with Him, re-commiting those personal areas I wasn´t handing over into HIS perfect hands.

Third, that I undergone vasectomy and many ladies still want to have a baby, so I knew how conveniently I "fixed" my life to be isolated, and

Forth, I never prayed (or fasted) so He would spiritually shape me the way the woman He might have thought would be happy to have me, as undeserved or secular I might think I am.

I´m glad that emotional push is over. I´m settling these things down in my mind, so I´m on my way to see what He wants me to do.

Those prayers have to be viewed both sides: Considering her and considering all those lacks any man might have to be deserving enough that special woman He might have thought for each to be married. If I ever prayed for her, I´m almost sure I never prayed for making me suitable for another.
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Before I was married and after a number of failed relationships, I prayed more sincerely then I've ever prayed for just peace. a path to follow and peace. I remember crying and praying, praying praying. I had distanced myself from God and I wanted to come back.

The next day my head was clear, I knew what I had to do and that was tell the man I was dating that I couldn't date him any more and stay away from people and places that I knew I'd fall back. I did those things, I got the peace I wanted. I thank God for that every day.
 
seoulsearch

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Fenner, this is why I love having you post in the Singles forum--you're always kind, understanding, and encouraging. I learn so much from your posts.

You are a beacon of hope to all of us here. :)
 
zeroturbulence

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Didn't that one guy in the bible pray to God to reveal his future wife to him by the sign that she would give water to his horses? Yea, I'm pretty sure that's in there.. :rolleyes:
 
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lil_christian said:
Exactly. In fact, I believe the Bible supports praying even if you don't know what to pray. So when you DO know what to pray, pray it. I mean, nagging God about something is one thing (like wanting some super expensive car and asking for it all day, every stinking day...), or saying, "You WILL give me this new Ferrari." but saying, "Hey, God. Here's the desires of my heart." That's different.
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You've always kinda blown me away Lil - you write and it's like a vintage wisdom trapped in a teenager. Only now I'm noticing, you're even trending toward womanhood.

When my dad died a friend of the family put his big hand on the back of my neck and told me a boy becomes a man when his daddy dies. I'm thinking the same might be true for lil girls.
 
seoulsearch

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Lil has always been wise beyond her years.

I hope I'm as smart as her when I grow up.
 
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Fenner said:
I've seen a few threads lately people wondering if it's OK to pray for a future spouse. I want to tell you, that it's fine. It's really between you and God, your relationship with God is personal. I mean I'm sure you're not putting 100 percent of your life on praying for the man/woman you haven't met yet, but praying for that someday person seems nice to me.

I'm not the authority on praying and neither is anyone else. So don't worry, don't stress, just pray.
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Its only a Rule for those who are Desperate...
Not mandatory.....

Like i saw in a comment in another thread,allowing God's will be done in someone's life is the Best Way...
And here am telling all this because if i mislead people into believing God is a marriage broker,no..that's not what i meant..

Jesus said "Ask and ye shall Receive"..
And its always Better to Choose What God gives than Society gives.God knows what's Best for us.
So in total,there is no prob in Praying for a 'woman' or 'man' as life partner and Waiting upon God to give when all other options failed...
 
zeroturbulence

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I'm praying for my future winning lottery ticket :p
 
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cinder

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zeroturbulence said:
Didn't that one guy in the bible pray to God to reveal his future wife to him by the sign that she would give water to his horses? Yea, I'm pretty sure that's in there.. :rolleyes:
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I think you are thinking of when Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for Isaac. Gen 24.

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I'm praying for my future winning lottery ticket :p
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Is that because you think the odds are better?
 
lil_christian

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You've always kinda blown me away Lil - you write and it's like a vintage wisdom trapped in a teenager. Only now I'm noticing, you're even trending toward womanhood.

When my dad died a friend of the family put his big hand on the back of my neck and told me a boy becomes a man when his daddy dies. I'm thinking the same might be true for lil girls.
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Aw, thanks, Kent. :)
 
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