My mother called me a little while ago. She informed me that she would be more than willing to have my kids come live with her since I can't handle being a mom right now.
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I never asked her to do that. I never told her I couldn't handle it. I can't even figure out why she thinks taking my kids away from me would even make any sense.
I said, "Thanks, but no thanks. We're fine."
She said I obviously need help.
Yes...but that isn't helpful. And I don't understand how, if she doesn't have the time now just to lend me a hand every so often, she would suddenly have the time to raise two small children.
She doesn't want to help me at all...everything she's done since March has been to cut me and pour salt in the wound.
I think I'm more angry about this latest slap in the face than the others combined. Take away something that makes me happy...I'll survive. Abandon me when I'm struggling...I'll survive. Tell me I'm not doing what a wife should do...whatever. But then, having done all this and contributed to the chaos and pain I'm experiencing now, to tell me that I am a bad mother BECAUSE I'm experiencing this pain and try to get me to give up my babies....
I'm done. If this is how things are going to go, if that's really what she thinks of me and how she's going to treat me...I've got to get out of here. These people are poison.
Sister, maybe take a different look, view at this.
Bottom line does Mom truly care, even though right now she does not see how to care, and does not see these actions of her are driving you away from her?
So maybe tell her that, which i am sure you did. But how did you tell her that, in the tone of ___________________ who are you to tell me this, and the ________________________ to talk to me, this way, was that in your tone, and what do these emotions do?
John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to
steal, and to
kill, and to
destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have
it more abundantly.
So now that you might see this waht emotions are doing to you, the same is happening with Mom, you think?
So put one emotion on top of the other and what happens, fight, fight, fight, and no end, the relationship that was there is gone viral if any was there to begin with
When your Son is in School later on, and gets a good report card, excited over it, runs home to you to show you, has tracked mud on the carpet and floor you just waxed, not being aware of this, too excited to show you this good report, looking for approval, and so here he comes, tracking in this mud
How you going to react, Mad, angered, yell at him, before he shows you the report card?
Sound familiar Sister. This has happened to us all, and we get what depressed
Here is how I see it now, I can always re-wax the floor, re clean the carpet, but I might not always be able to rebuild the relationship, after harming the other
So in sincerity, maybe talk to Mom, asking god to give you the right words and be surprised at what gets said through you