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I hope you think about that comment in the future.
You are getting older by the second.
I find aging, actually, a very beautiful process. You are experiencing life every second as you age, gaining more wisdom. Those aren't just wrinkled hands, those are hands that have worked very hard their whole life. Those aren't just simple words, they have experienced love, hatred, pain, joy, hope through the midst of their life and this reflects in their words.
Seriously... (Sorry if it sounded a bit harsh)
You are getting older by the second.
I find aging, actually, a very beautiful process. You are experiencing life every second as you age, gaining more wisdom. Those aren't just wrinkled hands, those are hands that have worked very hard their whole life. Those aren't just simple words, they have experienced love, hatred, pain, joy, hope through the midst of their life and this reflects in their words.
Seriously... (Sorry if it sounded a bit harsh)
Raine, this wasn't harsh or negative. I don't know if you were just messing around SpaceCowboy and you seem like a nice guy, but it was kind of a hurtful comment you made. If I was your Mother, I'm old enough to be, I'd ask you to apologize to Tourist, but I'm not so I can't. As I said, you may have just been messing around, but that kind of stung.
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There really isn't an easy, straightforward answer. However, let me offer my thoughts, such as they are.
First of all, loneliness is a normal, human emotion. I'm sure there were many times when Jesus felt alone. However, please remember that you are never alone, and never will be. God is always with you, even if you don't feel Him.
Secondly, you are clearly intent on putting God first. This is an exceptional quality. So many people just say this, but their lives bear testimony to something else. You need to keep doing this, every day of your life. This quality alone will attract others, and quite possibly attract the man of your dreams. A man who doesn't recognize this quality in you is not the man for you.
Thirdly, God has not turned a "deaf ear" on you, nor will He ever. Perhaps He is waiting for the right time to reveal someone to you. Remember, our time scales are not His. He is not limited by our view of time, and operates according to His own plan, not our own wants and desires. Sure, some people seem to get what they want. However, in my experience, the ones who are kept waiting are the ones whom God intends to use to be part of something truly incredible.
My last peace of advice comes, I believe, from A.W. Tozer. He made the point that we are to pursue holiness, not happiness. In that lies true peace and contentment. Sure, marriage and kids may make you happy, but so often we are so focused on those things that we miss happiness entirely. So many marriages break up due to one or both parties being unhappy. You stay focused on what God intends you to stay focused on (Him), and you will have a life that will be so much more amazing that you could ever imagine, no matter where it takes you.
Oh, and one last thing ... don't ask Him to take away your desire for marriage. It's a good, normal desire to have. Just trust Him to make it happen at the right time. His timing is never bad.
First of all, loneliness is a normal, human emotion. I'm sure there were many times when Jesus felt alone. However, please remember that you are never alone, and never will be. God is always with you, even if you don't feel Him.
Secondly, you are clearly intent on putting God first. This is an exceptional quality. So many people just say this, but their lives bear testimony to something else. You need to keep doing this, every day of your life. This quality alone will attract others, and quite possibly attract the man of your dreams. A man who doesn't recognize this quality in you is not the man for you.
Thirdly, God has not turned a "deaf ear" on you, nor will He ever. Perhaps He is waiting for the right time to reveal someone to you. Remember, our time scales are not His. He is not limited by our view of time, and operates according to His own plan, not our own wants and desires. Sure, some people seem to get what they want. However, in my experience, the ones who are kept waiting are the ones whom God intends to use to be part of something truly incredible.
My last peace of advice comes, I believe, from A.W. Tozer. He made the point that we are to pursue holiness, not happiness. In that lies true peace and contentment. Sure, marriage and kids may make you happy, but so often we are so focused on those things that we miss happiness entirely. So many marriages break up due to one or both parties being unhappy. You stay focused on what God intends you to stay focused on (Him), and you will have a life that will be so much more amazing that you could ever imagine, no matter where it takes you.
Oh, and one last thing ... don't ask Him to take away your desire for marriage. It's a good, normal desire to have. Just trust Him to make it happen at the right time. His timing is never bad.
cold? absolutely not.
clique-y? hardly.
already established and comfortable? for sure.
ok, so yeah, it's not easy to be the new kid at school, or be the new person anywhere. for some, more than others. but in reality, the people here are kind and welcoming if you're willing to make the reasonable effort to join in, and share.
i can say this without impunity because i was the new kid on the block only a handful of months ago.
here's what annoys me, though. is you can't come to some place and expect to receive, receive, receive. it doesn't work that way anywhere, and it doesn't work here.
sure, there are plenty here who are more than willing to share and give freely.
but if you hope to make a connection and become part of a group, your best avenue is to join in, and give. interact. share. and yes, receive.
no, not every woman wants marriage and kids at "some point".
clique-y? hardly.
already established and comfortable? for sure.
ok, so yeah, it's not easy to be the new kid at school, or be the new person anywhere. for some, more than others. but in reality, the people here are kind and welcoming if you're willing to make the reasonable effort to join in, and share.
i can say this without impunity because i was the new kid on the block only a handful of months ago.
here's what annoys me, though. is you can't come to some place and expect to receive, receive, receive. it doesn't work that way anywhere, and it doesn't work here.
sure, there are plenty here who are more than willing to share and give freely.
but if you hope to make a connection and become part of a group, your best avenue is to join in, and give. interact. share. and yes, receive.
no, not every woman wants marriage and kids at "some point".
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we live in a society that wants instant gratification.
get rich schemes
lose 20 lbs overnight
instant consoling, instant help, with no requirement on one's self.
help me, see me, rescue me. solve my problems! do it yesterday, already!
i'm not saying she's that way, but um, this is a mindset here to stay.
anything worth seeking, anything worth having, anything worth pursuing takes time, AND effort. and we as a people seem to often forget that.
for what's worth, i hope the OP comes back too.
get rich schemes
lose 20 lbs overnight
instant consoling, instant help, with no requirement on one's self.
help me, see me, rescue me. solve my problems! do it yesterday, already!
i'm not saying she's that way, but um, this is a mindset here to stay.
anything worth seeking, anything worth having, anything worth pursuing takes time, AND effort. and we as a people seem to often forget that.
for what's worth, i hope the OP comes back too.
Dear ladies and gentlemen, I love all of you. If you feel that this is a cold place, then praise God. He has given you the ministry of warming it up. Consider it a window of opportunity. I must also say that Satan might just be causing you to perceive it as cold. Some days I perceive what I think to be coldness, but other days I perceive that this is the warmest place in the whole universe, particularly here, in the singles forum.
If you think it clique-y, then just cross-clique. Break down the walls of partition and division. If you're walking in the light, then you are wearing some pretty big stompers. I don't really like to talk about myself, but maybe this will be helpful. I'm 47 years old, and it took me a while to come to the place I am now, but here it is...
I find it a privilege and blessing to be a Paul. I have the opportunity to be right here, right now, with you. I am able to draw near to the whole lot of you in a way that I never could have had I been a married person. I am one of you. I am one with you. Even if I had much money, much confidence, great health, good looks, restored youth, and the opportunity to marry right now, I'm not sure I would. I don't want to leave any of you, be you male or female. I know this sounds weird to many of you, but I'm starting to like being a Paul. I want to be a best friend and a boyfriend to every last one of you. If you want love, then reach out and take love. First from Jesus, but then also from me. Love really does exist outside of marriage, as well.
If you think it clique-y, then just cross-clique. Break down the walls of partition and division. If you're walking in the light, then you are wearing some pretty big stompers. I don't really like to talk about myself, but maybe this will be helpful. I'm 47 years old, and it took me a while to come to the place I am now, but here it is...
I find it a privilege and blessing to be a Paul. I have the opportunity to be right here, right now, with you. I am able to draw near to the whole lot of you in a way that I never could have had I been a married person. I am one of you. I am one with you. Even if I had much money, much confidence, great health, good looks, restored youth, and the opportunity to marry right now, I'm not sure I would. I don't want to leave any of you, be you male or female. I know this sounds weird to many of you, but I'm starting to like being a Paul. I want to be a best friend and a boyfriend to every last one of you. If you want love, then reach out and take love. First from Jesus, but then also from me. Love really does exist outside of marriage, as well.
Cliques are a strange mystery... or not.
Usually, on CC or elsewhere in life, anyone who actively participates is engaged with. If someone rarely posts, they won't be engaged with very much. You have to put something in to get something out. This is just how it works. Easily fixed by posting more and interacting with others on the site.
Usually, on CC or elsewhere in life, anyone who actively participates is engaged with. If someone rarely posts, they won't be engaged with very much. You have to put something in to get something out. This is just how it works. Easily fixed by posting more and interacting with others on the site.
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This whole clique business has been brought up before. By others who don't interact much or offer much or were just lashing out.
I can see better Now what people meant, but I still don't agree.
A looong time ago when I was new here, I just busted up in here like I owned the place. And others have done the same since. It might take a while for people to really warm up to a new person...but unless you're actively causing problems, these crazy folk are pretty darn welcoming.
You know, if you give us the chance to be.
I can see better Now what people meant, but I still don't agree.
A looong time ago when I was new here, I just busted up in here like I owned the place. And others have done the same since. It might take a while for people to really warm up to a new person...but unless you're actively causing problems, these crazy folk are pretty darn welcoming.
You know, if you give us the chance to be.