Just a bit off the topic here has anyone dealt with their husband not believing in god. I have recently been saved and I want to share it with him but he thinks I'm loopy. It makes me mad when he denied our Lord. What should I do 
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Allow your husband to see the goodness of the Lord in you so that he may desire that for himself. You are not loopy. Be patient.
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Scripture permits remarriage after divorce under certain circumstances. If, after being divorced, one of the original marriage partners dies, the remaining partner is free to remarry. Romans 7:2 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 make clear that death dissolves the marriage relationship.
When an adulterous relationship has brought about a divorce, the party who is innocent of adultery/fornication has a right to remarry (Matthew 5:32). The right to marry anyone guilty of adultery is denied and as well as to marry anyone who obtained divorce for the express purpose of remarriage (Mark 10:11-12).
If a person is divorced on other than the above scriptural grounds and his or her former partner remarries, that partner by remarrying has, according to scriptural standards (Matt. 5:32 and 19:9), committed adultery and has dissolved the original relationship.
When an adulterous relationship has brought about a divorce, the party who is innocent of adultery/fornication has a right to remarry (Matthew 5:32). The right to marry anyone guilty of adultery is denied and as well as to marry anyone who obtained divorce for the express purpose of remarriage (Mark 10:11-12).
If a person is divorced on other than the above scriptural grounds and his or her former partner remarries, that partner by remarrying has, according to scriptural standards (Matt. 5:32 and 19:9), committed adultery and has dissolved the original relationship.
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If the Bible does not allow it, but secular law does, why should Christians recognize it as valid as far as we are concerned?
The state does not consider it murder for a pregnant woman to have a doctor kill her baby. Does that mean it is not murder? The state I live in recognizes a union between two men as a 'marriage.' Does the state recognizing it make it marriage?
The state does not consider it murder for a pregnant woman to have a doctor kill her baby. Does that mean it is not murder? The state I live in recognizes a union between two men as a 'marriage.' Does the state recognizing it make it marriage?
One thing i know: Permitted or not by the Bible, the facts are people divorce and remarry. If I had to look at the reasons we peole divorce or had divorced, we could count our failures, shortcomings, sins, etc. even wrong reason to get married. Sadly is to say that, married or not, certain sins have not real deterrants to be produce or to be avoided when we´ve in the flesh. Once these have been done, acknowledged, confesed and renounced, there´s always a second chance.
I myself I´m too blind to see things, Jesus said, with His reasons, I also have lived like this:
Mat 23:24 You blind guides, straining out a gnat and swallowing a camel!
Mat 23:24 Blind guides who filter out a gnat and swallow a camel!
I myself I´m too blind to see things, Jesus said, with His reasons, I also have lived like this:
Mat 23:24 You blind guides, straining out a gnat and swallowing a camel!
Mat 23:24 Blind guides who filter out a gnat and swallow a camel!
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Marriage in the church is subject to God's design not the jewish view on how women should be treated...
Do you realise that the jewish tradition law is mainly what you are following as Bible law and that the stone that the jew rejected became the cornerstone? There is wisdom that needs to be applied. women don't cover their heads , does that mean they are not following the Bible?
Why do some christian find the need to marry in the registry office? is it a Bible recommendation?
Did God give Adam and Eve a marriage certificate?
Should we live with the Law of the Land or deem it not good for us?
Under jewish biblical tradition, a woman CANNOT DIVORCE HER HUSBAND even if he cheats...but a man can...a woman who is divorced by her husband is not to be married with another man - it doesn't matter whether she has a say or not- a woman can only separate but will have to reunite with her husband regardless of whether he has been sleeping around or not...or even she has been sleeping around or not....
Presidente, the Bible gives principles to follow,providing everyone follow them....with wisdom. Even what we call " christian marriage" is no longer a covenant. Only a true,real christian are able to be saved from the deceit . Despite the sin. Then you have people pretending to be christian marrying women in the church because they believe a christian woman is devoted , committed, living by God's rule and they use the God hates Divorce to abuse what God has created. Marriage. a PURE FORM OF UNION.
Why are we not doing church like the disciples, in our houses, sharing our assets together, making sure there is no one needy on our community and instead, packing churches doing" services" designed to entertain the mass and lead praise and worship as if God is waiting a certain day to be worship...and go home?
why are we not following to the letter the disciples example, all travelling the world preaching the good news instead of rotting in church with nothing else o do than caring about ourselves.
Church these days, accept taxes from the government from all the giving and offering church goers give. Will the church not take it because it is secular money? why is this money not distributed back to the widows and the poor in the church as the Bible suggest?
If we were ALL doing what we are supposed to do, we would not be in the state we all are today.
God does allow divorce and remarriage. It may not be written black and white, but God as proven times and times again that He is the God of Justice and when a so called marriage does not reflect God's purpose, he intervenes, either to fix the marriage or to expose the work of the devil and to free an innocent party.
Enough injustice, and unfairness has gone long enough in the church under a so called "God hate divorce mentality" that is actually handled by hypocrites themselves.
Do you realise that the jewish tradition law is mainly what you are following as Bible law and that the stone that the jew rejected became the cornerstone? There is wisdom that needs to be applied. women don't cover their heads , does that mean they are not following the Bible?
Why do some christian find the need to marry in the registry office? is it a Bible recommendation?
Did God give Adam and Eve a marriage certificate?
Should we live with the Law of the Land or deem it not good for us?
Under jewish biblical tradition, a woman CANNOT DIVORCE HER HUSBAND even if he cheats...but a man can...a woman who is divorced by her husband is not to be married with another man - it doesn't matter whether she has a say or not- a woman can only separate but will have to reunite with her husband regardless of whether he has been sleeping around or not...or even she has been sleeping around or not....
Presidente, the Bible gives principles to follow,providing everyone follow them....with wisdom. Even what we call " christian marriage" is no longer a covenant. Only a true,real christian are able to be saved from the deceit . Despite the sin. Then you have people pretending to be christian marrying women in the church because they believe a christian woman is devoted , committed, living by God's rule and they use the God hates Divorce to abuse what God has created. Marriage. a PURE FORM OF UNION.
Why are we not doing church like the disciples, in our houses, sharing our assets together, making sure there is no one needy on our community and instead, packing churches doing" services" designed to entertain the mass and lead praise and worship as if God is waiting a certain day to be worship...and go home?
why are we not following to the letter the disciples example, all travelling the world preaching the good news instead of rotting in church with nothing else o do than caring about ourselves.
Church these days, accept taxes from the government from all the giving and offering church goers give. Will the church not take it because it is secular money? why is this money not distributed back to the widows and the poor in the church as the Bible suggest?
If we were ALL doing what we are supposed to do, we would not be in the state we all are today.
God does allow divorce and remarriage. It may not be written black and white, but God as proven times and times again that He is the God of Justice and when a so called marriage does not reflect God's purpose, he intervenes, either to fix the marriage or to expose the work of the devil and to free an innocent party.
Enough injustice, and unfairness has gone long enough in the church under a so called "God hate divorce mentality" that is actually handled by hypocrites themselves.
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Let me rephrase for clarity.
If a person is divorced on other than the above scriptural grounds and his or her former partner remarries, that partner by remarrying has, according to scriptural standards (Matt. 5:32 and 19:9), committed adultery and has dissolved the original relationship. Whenever the spouse does the remarrying, that turns uscriptural grounds into scriptural grounds because according to scripture, the original divorce wasn't biblically valid, but when he remarries, adultery is committed & the other spouse is then free after the sin is committed. Hope that helps.
If a person is divorced on other than the above scriptural grounds and his or her former partner remarries, that partner by remarrying has, according to scriptural standards (Matt. 5:32 and 19:9), committed adultery and has dissolved the original relationship. Whenever the spouse does the remarrying, that turns uscriptural grounds into scriptural grounds because according to scripture, the original divorce wasn't biblically valid, but when he remarries, adultery is committed & the other spouse is then free after the sin is committed. Hope that helps.
Is Any Divorce Acceptable?
In a general sense, God allows only three reasons for the dissolution of a marriage.
In each of these cases, it seems that God is trying to protect the innocent party that is left to live their life after the marriage ends. Please understand that this is a brief treatment of this subject.
Now let’s look at a situation that does not include one of these “acceptable” divorces. Many people do believe that remarriage after such a divorce constitutes continuous adultery that cannot be repented of (if you remain in the marriage). They would say that these people should divorce again and either be reunited to their original spouse or remain single. They would cite Romans 7:3 as a proof of this position. It is a possible position to take. (Still, remarriage to the same spouse after being married to someone else in between violates Deuteronomy 24:4.)
It is important to note that Romans 7:3 was not designed by Paul to be the “end all” statement of divorce and remarriage, it was actually using marriage in general to illustrate a point about the Law. Obviously God did provide for marriage to end in two other ways besides death. This is not to say that God is soft on divorce. Jesus said that it was only because of our “hardness of heart” that God allowed divorce (Matthew 19:8 and others). Ezra chapters 9 and 10 are sometimes used to support getting a divorce to obey God. However, the reason for divorce in these chapters was to keep the Jewish people pure for the Messiah to come through their lineage. (They had intermarried with those other than Jews, which was in direct violation of God’s commandment to them.) The situation was very different from our situation today. Malachi 2:16 says that God hates divorce, and we think everyone knows that divorce is wrong before God.
How About Remarriage?
The real issue that people wonder about is remarriage. Although God has not given specific information regarding the acceptability of remarriage, we can give you some things to think about in this area.Obviously, based on 2 Corinthians 5:17, if someone has had a failed marriage, and later got right with God, “all things are done away with”—you get a clean slate as though you had not been divorced. There are certain passages like Romans 8:28 that show that God can use bad stuff that happened in our life to do good stuff. The “prodigal son” of Luke chapter 15 certainly shows someone who walked away from all that was good, messed up his life, and then repented and came back. While there were repercussions for his failures, he was still reinstated as a son. In the book of Joel, a terrible swarm of locusts had devastated the land as a judgment brought on them for their sin. But God then promised that He would “give back the years that the locusts have eaten.”
Summing Things Up
So, how do we summarize? If both partners had a divorce for one of the three “acceptable” reasons, they are free to remarry. If not, things become less clear. We have always believed that God is the God of the future. While people certainly need to take responsibility for what they have done wrong and the consequences that a divorce brought against them, we have to believe that true repentance can right such a wrong before God. It is hard to believe that people are useless to God and unacceptable to Him because of this past failure. Further, it just does not seem consistent with what we read in the Bible about God. However, we must emphasize that this is our opinion. Each person must decide this for themselves based on what the Bible says.
In my opinion
In a general sense, God allows only three reasons for the dissolution of a marriage.
- The first reason is obvious—death of one of the individuals in the marriage. See Romans chapter 7, verse 2 (Romans 7:2).
- The second reason is adultery or immorality on the part of one of the individuals (Matthew 5:31,32 19:9, and so forth).
- The third reason appears in First Corinthians 7:12-16. (Note that when Paul wrote “I say, not the Lord” in that passage, he did not say that this was not from God, but rather that Jesus had never addressed this topic Himself.) Here Paul states that “if the unbeliever departs” the Christian is not “under bondage.” The same concept is used again in verse 39 where the clear context of being “under bondage” was that you could not remarry. As a rule of hermeneutics, you allow the author to define the terms by what is stated in other areas of the same document. This is the author’s intended meaning. Thus, a Christian is not bound to their marriage if the unbeliever leaves them.
In each of these cases, it seems that God is trying to protect the innocent party that is left to live their life after the marriage ends. Please understand that this is a brief treatment of this subject.
Now let’s look at a situation that does not include one of these “acceptable” divorces. Many people do believe that remarriage after such a divorce constitutes continuous adultery that cannot be repented of (if you remain in the marriage). They would say that these people should divorce again and either be reunited to their original spouse or remain single. They would cite Romans 7:3 as a proof of this position. It is a possible position to take. (Still, remarriage to the same spouse after being married to someone else in between violates Deuteronomy 24:4.)
It is important to note that Romans 7:3 was not designed by Paul to be the “end all” statement of divorce and remarriage, it was actually using marriage in general to illustrate a point about the Law. Obviously God did provide for marriage to end in two other ways besides death. This is not to say that God is soft on divorce. Jesus said that it was only because of our “hardness of heart” that God allowed divorce (Matthew 19:8 and others). Ezra chapters 9 and 10 are sometimes used to support getting a divorce to obey God. However, the reason for divorce in these chapters was to keep the Jewish people pure for the Messiah to come through their lineage. (They had intermarried with those other than Jews, which was in direct violation of God’s commandment to them.) The situation was very different from our situation today. Malachi 2:16 says that God hates divorce, and we think everyone knows that divorce is wrong before God.
How About Remarriage?
The real issue that people wonder about is remarriage. Although God has not given specific information regarding the acceptability of remarriage, we can give you some things to think about in this area.Obviously, based on 2 Corinthians 5:17, if someone has had a failed marriage, and later got right with God, “all things are done away with”—you get a clean slate as though you had not been divorced. There are certain passages like Romans 8:28 that show that God can use bad stuff that happened in our life to do good stuff. The “prodigal son” of Luke chapter 15 certainly shows someone who walked away from all that was good, messed up his life, and then repented and came back. While there were repercussions for his failures, he was still reinstated as a son. In the book of Joel, a terrible swarm of locusts had devastated the land as a judgment brought on them for their sin. But God then promised that He would “give back the years that the locusts have eaten.”
Summing Things Up
So, how do we summarize? If both partners had a divorce for one of the three “acceptable” reasons, they are free to remarry. If not, things become less clear. We have always believed that God is the God of the future. While people certainly need to take responsibility for what they have done wrong and the consequences that a divorce brought against them, we have to believe that true repentance can right such a wrong before God. It is hard to believe that people are useless to God and unacceptable to Him because of this past failure. Further, it just does not seem consistent with what we read in the Bible about God. However, we must emphasize that this is our opinion. Each person must decide this for themselves based on what the Bible says.
In my opinion
The fact is that people are divorced, our society is rampant with it. Should we be condemning people who may be the innocent partner in a marriage where adultery was committed?
I have to point out that abuse, although not mentioned in the Bible, should be another grounds for divorce. I am talking about where the woman or man was beaten so badly they almost died. Should they be condemned to live a life alone, because they had a violent spouse?
I knew one woman whose husband tried to shoot her, and almost killed her. He was convicted and put in prison for life. Should this Christian woman have to stay alone for the rest of her life because her ex-husband was convicted of attempted murder, yet pretended to be a Christian?
I think it is very sad that divorce is on the rise. But I have met so many people, including on this site who were battered and hurt by their spouse, and then expected to live alone. I guess there will always be those who will be legalistic about this matter, and not understand the hurt these people feel. One really good person left here, because of the condemnation she received for divorcing her Baptist pastor husband who was abusing her.
I just pray we don't lose more people who have been hurt, come here for support, and then get hurt by people who have judged them wrongly!
I have to point out that abuse, although not mentioned in the Bible, should be another grounds for divorce. I am talking about where the woman or man was beaten so badly they almost died. Should they be condemned to live a life alone, because they had a violent spouse?
I knew one woman whose husband tried to shoot her, and almost killed her. He was convicted and put in prison for life. Should this Christian woman have to stay alone for the rest of her life because her ex-husband was convicted of attempted murder, yet pretended to be a Christian?
I think it is very sad that divorce is on the rise. But I have met so many people, including on this site who were battered and hurt by their spouse, and then expected to live alone. I guess there will always be those who will be legalistic about this matter, and not understand the hurt these people feel. One really good person left here, because of the condemnation she received for divorcing her Baptist pastor husband who was abusing her.
I just pray we don't lose more people who have been hurt, come here for support, and then get hurt by people who have judged them wrongly!