Worried about my type of mate

[Raine]

Yeah pipp! I love Jackie Chan lol.

Troubled girl, I'm sure you know Catherder was joking.

I use to have a "type" too but... After going thru a hellish relationship, for me, at least, their heart plays the biggest importance. Looks, hairdos, taste in music, style, all come and go. And they fade as people age. However, the heart will always effect a marriage. I know that whoever God has for you will capture your heart, but I can't promise they'll have the above requirements.

Why limit yourself anyways? God is limitless. He can do whatever he wants, so don't worry and just trust in Him.

 

[troubledgirl]

Yeah pipp! I love Jackie Chan lol.

Troubled girl, I'm sure you know Catherder was joking.

I use to have a "type" too but... After going thru a hellish relationship, for me, at least, their heart plays the biggest importance. Looks, hairdos, taste in music, style, all come and go. And they fade as people age. However, the heart will always effect a marriage. I know that whoever God has for you will capture your heart, but I can't promise they'll have the above requirements.

Why limit yourself anyways? God is limitless. He can do whatever he wants, so don't worry and just trust in Him.

Well, I am sure my preference in men will never change... And I know God is not going to choose any man by Himself to me...

 

[BananaPie]

CatHerder, are you serious?

CatHerder is serious after 48 turns around the Sun.

 

[rachelsedge]

Well, I am sure my preference in men will never change... And I know God is not going to choose any man by Himself to me...

You are 18. I can almost guarantee you that your preference will change, or at least be broadened, at some point in time.

And if you still think it can't, then it might be a good idea to ask God to help you not focus so much on the physical aspect of who you will come to love.

 

[tourist]

Well, I am sure my preference in men will never change... And I know God is not going to choose any man by Himself to me...

If you do not trust God to find your future husband you will most likely regret this. I am talking from my own experience in marriage. Take a few years to get to know yourself and what it is that you really want.

 

[BananaPie]

This is not a search advertisement.

My type of guy is a very peaceful Christian guy who is older than me (but not over 35 years older than me)

18 years + 35 years = 53 years
...uh... ...very peaceful 53-year-old Christian men do not marry 18-year-olds.

 

[tourist]

Yeah pipp! I love Jackie Chan lol.

Troubled girl, I'm sure you know Catherder was joking.

I use to have a "type" too but... After going thru a hellish relationship, for me, at least, their heart plays the biggest importance. Looks, hairdos, taste in music, style, all come and go. And they fade as people age. However, the heart will always effect a marriage. I know that whoever God has for you will capture your heart, but I can't promise they'll have the above requirements.

Why limit yourself anyways? God is limitless. He can do whatever he wants, so don't worry and just trust in Him.

This is excellent advice.

 

[lil_christian]

Now now, Pippers. She's young. *smirk*

That may be so...but even I think this is a little...umm...demanding? I mean, I guess you shouldn't settle...buuuut I dunno, isn't that more for like character and all that stuff and not looks?

 

[secularhermit]

Yeah pipp! I love Jackie Chan lol.

Troubled girl, I'm sure you know Catherder was joking.

I use to have a "type" too but... After going thru a hellish relationship, for me, at least, their heart plays the biggest importance. Looks, hairdos, taste in music, style, all come and go. And they fade as people age. However, the heart will always effect a marriage. I know that whoever God has for you will capture your heart, but I can't promise they'll have the above requirements.

Why limit yourself anyways? God is limitless. He can do whatever he wants, so don't worry and just trust in Him.

Hmm!

A public question for Asians?

1) Do all Asian women like Jackie Chan?

I have read, several places, that Asian women seldom have limited to their age braket (group of age).

2) My 2nd question is this: Is it true?

Meanwhile some gave me an idea, whether true or not, I´m going to surf the net for that unanswered question.

Thanks Rain! You are as fresh as your avatar is.

P.S.

Oh! I want to PM you, by the way.

 

[secularhermit]

This is excellent advice.

Martials arts! No?

Sneakers!

 

[secularhermit]

18 years + 35 years = 53 years
...uh... ...very peaceful 53-year-old Christian men do not marry 18-year-olds.

If something like would ever happen, it would be proven that someone too young needed to be adopted for a graddaddy.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Hmm!

A public question for Asians?

1) Do all Asian women like Jackie Chan?

I have read, several places, that Asian women seldom have limited to their age braket (group of age).

2) My 2nd question is this: Is it true?

Meanwhile some gave me an idea, whether true or not, I´m going to surf the net for that unanswered question.

Thanks Rain! You are as fresh as your avatar is.

P.S.

Oh! I want to PM you, by the way.

SecularHermit, if I may ask... are you involved in a relationship right now? I am curious because your avatars lately have shown you with someone, and you mentioned having someone in one of your posts if I remember correctly. Just wondering, thanks! (Sorry for the derail!)

 

[secularhermit]

Well, I am sure my preference in men will never change... And I know God is not going to choose any man by Himself to me...

Just a vague idea!

You might be lying to yourself. Write a note and keep it with you 2 decades more and check if you were right (or lied).

 

[tourist]

SecularHermit, if I may ask... are you involved in a relationship right now? I am curious because your avatars lately have shown you with someone, and you mentioned having someone in one of your posts if I remember correctly. Just wondering, thanks! (Sorry for the derail!)

Derailments are part of the adventure.

 

[Ugly]

This is not a search advertisement...

My type of guy is a very peaceful Christian guy who is older than me (but not over 35 years older than me) and AT LEAST 6'1/185cm tall and has black long hair (AT LEAST necklength) and pale or light skin...

I am worried if all the guys of this type what I describe are taken or married... Especially the Christian ones...

Are all the Christian guys of this type what I describe taken or married, or do the single ones of this type what I describe exist too? I really want one of my type what I describe... I am a bit worried because I cannot fall in love with any other type of guy... And please don't tell me anything that I have to fall in love only with the personality or with the thing that how much a guy loves me because I really want the type of guy what I am describing... Will I ever get one who is my type what I am describing?

And again, this is not a search advertisement. I am just asking that if all the Christian guys of the type what I am describing are taken or married, or is there one of my type what I am describing who is single too in this world?

How rare is black long hair that's at least necklength? And how many Christian goths or Christian metalheads exist in the world? And no, goths and metalheads are not always Satan worshippers or Pagans, I know Christian goths and Christian metalheads for sure...

And I am serious and honest by the way, so I hope you don't call me a troll or think that I am a troll, but I am very weird and I have a lot of emotional problems.

And please, read this whole post carefully before you say anything. I don't want you think something about this post that is not true.

There are a number of Christian metalheads on this site, actually. haha. Though i think they're all too told for you. =P

But, seriously, you have some strict, strict guidelines. That's going to be the issue. I used to have a more strict concept of what i've wanted. But over the years i've met a lot of amazing women that didn't fit into my guidelines and realized i was missing out on possibly being with some great women, all because of the limitations i put up. Both physically and personality wise. I still have some thing i hold to, i still want to be physically attracted and whatnot. But i've learned there are is a broader range of what's attractive if i open myself up.
This isn't to say you should not have expectations, but there is a balance. Sometimes the guidelines we set up do more damage than good. Something to consider.

 

[secularhermit]

SecularHermit, if I may ask... are you involved in a relationship right now? I am curious because your avatars lately have shown you with someone, and you mentioned having someone in one of your posts if I remember correctly. Just wondering, thanks! (Sorry for the derail!)

Hi, grace!

I whole heartedly would give you and answer. Just tell me if you want and simple "Yes" or "Not". The larger one I will not give.

I would said you are not derailed and, honestly (for me) that curiosity is sane, even sound, and also evoques the op as "type of mate".

To spare you time, the short answer is NO.

Thanks for the approaching!

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Hi, grace!

I whole heartedly would give you and answer. Just tell me if you want and simple "Yes" or "Not". The larger one I will not give.

I would said you are not derailed and, honestly (for me) that curiosity is sane, even sound, and also evoques the op as "type of mate".

To spare you time, the short answer is NO.

Thanks for the approaching!

So the short answer is "no" but there is a longer answer that is not "no"? Interesting! I do not ask for the larger answer. The short answer is sufficient, if confusing.

 

[secularhermit]

Derailments are part of the adventure.

True!

As long as these never lure no one away.

 

[secularhermit]

So the short answer is "no" but there is a longer answer that is not "no"? Interesting! I do not ask for the larger answer. The short answer is sufficient, if confusing.

Hmmm!

I also got consused when I saw Black Ninjas with swords... But that is part of the derailments I have also lived.

(I´m talking as if I was Jackie Chan, of course).


Glad it was enough.

 

[secularhermit]

Hmmm!

I also got consused when I saw Black Ninjas with swords... But that is part of the derailments I have also lived.

(I´m talking as if I was Jackie Chan, of course).


Glad it was enough.

Excuse me, Grace!

Disclaim:

I felt so "contused" that i couldn´t write well "confused". :P