Four dates with 4 different guys in two weeks? I thought the 4 dates were with the same guy. Please disregard my lame initial response to you as I obviously did not understand the full situation. I am all for the pursuit of love but I gave you very poor advice and for that I am sorry. I am starting to believe myself that I am indeed out of my ever loving mind as someone posted to me. I will be OK after I drink more coffee.
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Your conclusion is not self evident. What is your point? That you behavior was perfectly acceptable when the majority opinion here is that it was not? That any guy who asks can get a date with you but that doesn't make you desperate because the guys are still the ones doing the pursuing? By the way if you send the first message, you are the initiator plain and simple. That because you live in rural America you can ignore basic wisdom of how to keep yourself from being taken advantage of by a smarmy (or worse) guy? I get the whole out in the rural areas there aren't a whole lot of places to go besides each other's homes, but that doesn't make it any smarter to bring a first date that you have only interacted with online to your home. You asked for our advice and I think the consensus is in and the consensus is that you behaved very foolishly and will be fortunate if he disappears out of your life, much worse has happened to people who were not wise about meeting online acquaintances.
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Well when I asked him his intentions he told me he would like to get to know me and go from there 
I have also told him that I wanted to take things slowly.
I have also told him that I wanted to take things slowly.
i don't think desperation is only "taking anything you can get". i think desperation is:
+ allowing your desire for companionship to compromise your ability to recognize a "good catch" from a "so-so or bad catch"
+ allowing the dating thing become an extraordinary focus of your emotional energies
+ failing to have good expectations for the manner in which you both should treat each other
+ understanding the difference between being "very attractive and a good conversationalist" and understanding your worth and identity as a beloved daughter of the Almighty.
i'm not calling you desperate, really. i am just wanting to point out that it appears that your pursuit of a relationship has more significance/filling a need for you that i don't believe you're aware of. just a thought.
out of curiosity, have you ever had any positive or successful dating or relationship experiences? are you new to dating in general?
Oh my!
a) (1) Where you online expecting nothing? The more a person exposes the more he / she could be preyed.
b) (2) What do cooks are used to when steaming things? If I don´t want to cook, I never would use that stuff (stove).
c) (3) Each knows what is wanted or expected... That was good! Too RISKY though. There are too many type of wirdoes (and freaks)
d) (4) It doesn´t matter the distance. For a preyer, the farthest, the better. For a lover, one who wants to be married, the easiest way to pay visits, but still being risky.
e) (5) That´s way you misssed him...
f) (6) Rurals and city people have their own rules nowadays. If you were in a jungle, things would be the same.
z) (7) would that save and spare you daring life? There was a time when I was walking with one of my brother and a lady I don´t know approached me and kissed me in the mouth... The kept on walking together while she grabbed me and stayed tagged along. Meanwhile my brother tried to ask me who she was (and I could tell him quickly) and, the very moment she moved 1/2 a meter to greet more people we encountered I asked my brotherm to go:
"Are you leaving that nice looking girl alone?"
Let´s go! -I said- I don´t know who she is...
These days, when my brother called me to pay him a visit, he also reminded me he felt unconfortable (and jealous) when someone I didn´t know came to hug me and kiss me, in the middle of the street.
It was nice! but I don´t know who she was... When accepting that kiss I endangered to get those STDs that are transmitted by the mouth, btw.
a) (1) Where you online expecting nothing? The more a person exposes the more he / she could be preyed.
b) (2) What do cooks are used to when steaming things? If I don´t want to cook, I never would use that stuff (stove).
c) (3) Each knows what is wanted or expected... That was good! Too RISKY though. There are too many type of wirdoes (and freaks)
d) (4) It doesn´t matter the distance. For a preyer, the farthest, the better. For a lover, one who wants to be married, the easiest way to pay visits, but still being risky.
e) (5) That´s way you misssed him...
f) (6) Rurals and city people have their own rules nowadays. If you were in a jungle, things would be the same.
z) (7) would that save and spare you daring life? There was a time when I was walking with one of my brother and a lady I don´t know approached me and kissed me in the mouth... The kept on walking together while she grabbed me and stayed tagged along. Meanwhile my brother tried to ask me who she was (and I could tell him quickly) and, the very moment she moved 1/2 a meter to greet more people we encountered I asked my brotherm to go:
"Are you leaving that nice looking girl alone?"
Let´s go! -I said- I don´t know who she is...
These days, when my brother called me to pay him a visit, he also reminded me he felt unconfortable (and jealous) when someone I didn´t know came to hug me and kiss me, in the middle of the street.
It was nice! but I don´t know who she was... When accepting that kiss I endangered to get those STDs that are transmitted by the mouth, btw.
