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niceguyJ

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I'd just caution you to make sure your desire to serve God stays at a higher priority than your desire to have a woman.
It'd be better to die single than be with an unbeliever. If you get impatient and settle, you'll probably end up in a worse state than you're in now as far as any longing, pain, etc. you may be feeling goes.

Also, it's always nice to see someone here who seeks advice and actually considers what is being said to them. Good on you. That shows some wisdom. :)
 
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Disneymom3

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Problem is if you are just dating then you are usually dating other people to. No man ever commits to dating you without sex. At least I can't find him. And my problem is I fall for someone and am placed in a choice. Move to the next level or they leave. I know we are supposed to think then they are not from God but what is reality? Are there equal men to women who are willing to wait until marriage?
 
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cinder

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Disneymom3 said:
Problem is if you are just dating then you are usually dating other people to. No man ever commits to dating you without sex. At least I can't find him. And my problem is I fall for someone and am placed in a choice. Move to the next level or they leave. I know we are supposed to think then they are not from God but what is reality? Are there equal men to women who are willing to wait until marriage?
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At this point in my life, I would just be telling guys up front that I have faith in God and his commands and so when he says no sex outside of marriage that is what I'm living my life by. If they can't handle that then they should leave now. Keep your heart out of it as much as possible until he knows and agrees to that. If he says one thing then does another, then he is perfectly deserving of any anger and betrayal you might feel and there's no reason to keep it inside.

There are several guys on this forum who have expressed their commitment to wait now (regardless of past failures) and I applaud them as they are a huge encouragement to me (and probably the other girls as well) who are committed to waiting.
 
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ArtsieSteph

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There are several guys on this forum who have expressed their commitment to wait now (regardless of past failures) and I applaud them as they are a huge encouragement to me (and probably the other girls as well) who are committed to waiting.
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Totally agreed. :D It almost becomes impossible to find a person who is a virgin, or is a "born again virgin" as I've heard it called. Basically recommitting the rest of their purity before marriage.

But the best thing always to want and pray for is a help mate. Someone who will stay pure with you, grow in God with you, pray with you, maybe even sing with you God willing. :D It becomes impossible to be like that when the person is not Christian with you as well. Like it says in the word, don't be unequally yolked. Meaning it's like two great big ox pulling a cart. If the harness is sorta not put right on one, or totally not attached at all, it's impossible for the other ox to get the job done.
 
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TaylorTG

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Malcyboy said:
Dude don't worry....Ugly is just one of those people who speak with assumption and without compassion...Unfortunately on this site, many people are just out to enforce their judgments on others, so, take what people say with a pinch of salt, as the saying goes.
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Yeah, I agree. When I first came to Christianchat.com, I expected to develop connections with my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, but instead I got an unwelcome reply to my introduction thread.

http://christianchat.com/new-christ...olic-christian-joining-chat-how-you-guys.html
See post #2.




Not everyone is as emotionally stable as Ugly is; there are some who are more delicate than others, so we wouldn't be able to cope with directness (as Gypsygirl puts it) when it comes.


Perhaps Ugly could benefit from reading [SUP]1[/SUP]Proverbs 15 and [SUP]2[/SUP]Leviticus 19:17.


[SUP]1[/SUP]A gentle answers turn away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
[SUP]2[/SUP]You may reprove your brother, but don't incur sin because of him.




I understand what Malcyboy is saying because I experienced it myself.
 
ArtsieSteph

ArtsieSteph

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I think it seems like there are no Christian guys outside in the world, yet when you go to areas like Christian Mingle or CC (lol) suddenly like all of them are swamping you. But I can't say that girls are any different. I'm sure we swamp poor men too.
 
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