DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX? HOW WILL YOU KNOW IT'S MORE THAN A FRIEND?

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Most men, when given attention by a woman, they usually assumed that a woman has a special feeling for them. Is that true? Or both assumed? Is it impossible for opposite sex to become friends? Even one of them get married?

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It's all assumption until the person actually tells you. :)
 
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Too much diversity and differences between people to answer such a broad question. It depends on the individual and the situation.
 
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yes. i have male friends who are just friends.
 
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I have one friend of the opposite sex. You will know it is more than that if what you feel in your heart indicates this. Hopefully, this feeling will be reciprocated. Unless the other person tells you the feelings in their heart you may never know. Someone has to take a chance and make a move even if it is only a baby step. Ask.
 
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Yes, it happens. It's called the friendzone..

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tourist said:
"Some guys have all the luck
Some guys have all the pain
Some guys get all the breaks
Some guys do nothing but complain..."
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I don't think Charles is complaining. Complainers get moved from the friendzone to the stalkerzone. o_o
 
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How do I know when a girl is more than just a friend?

When she follows me home and sleeps outside my door.
 
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maxwel said:
How do I know when a girl is more than just a friend?

When she follows me home and sleeps outside my door.
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If it starts to rain you might want to invite her inside. I would hand her a towel to dry her hair too, but that's just me.
 
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jer2911 said:
Most men, when given attention by a woman, they usually assumed that a woman has a special feeling for them. Is that true? Or both assumed? Is it impossible for opposite sex to become friends? Even one of them get married?
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Depends on a lot of factors including cultural norms, personality, personal philosophies or views of romance, etc. I have had some close male friends that I was never officially dating or knew it would be a mistake to date, but in those situations I often find that I want to be closer to them than friendship allows. On the other hand, I cannot fathom the mentality that walks up to someone you barely know and asks to start a romantic relationship with them without going through some sort of friendship getting to know you stage first.

Perhaps one of the most interesting situations I was in was when I had a "secret" crush (at least it was never talked about) on one of my friends and God decided to bring his future wife into his life. Now he and I were both so introverted that our conversations (or pathetic attempts at conversation) were laughably awkward. After this woman came into his life she became almost a connecting point between us and we became better friends because she could draw us both out. I'm definitely friends with them as a couple now and not just with him, but I do still consider both of them friends. And I think that is one of the real limitations I see is that when an opposite sex friend gets married then the new spouse should just naturally become part of the friendship.
 
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usually i'm the last to know. i have suspicions but i usually talk myself out of them.

about two years ago, a good guy pal of mine and i were having a discussion about something that i was really ticked off about and i started going off about the situation i was in.

his response was, "you look really cute when you're angry".

and that was when i knew.

so awkward. so very, very awkward.
 
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zeroturbulence said:
Yes, it happens. It's called the friendzone..
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Oh Yeah! I can relate. There was a high school friend/classmate that I got confused the way he treated me. But he never told me his feelings. Our high school classmates thought we had a relationship. It was only confirmed this year when we had a chance to become connected through FB. I asked him if we were best of friends before. He said, "We were more than that." I was taken aback for a moment. He asked me if I loved him. I said, "Yes." But then I paused...."Wait." Do you mean love you as a friend now or before? So, he said, "Why you didn't tell me about it before? I told him, "You never asked!" I got confused at that time for our friendship but if he only had asked me, then I might search my heart if what I felt for him was more than friends. Why should I assume that his ways were more than friends at that time? I didn't want to waste time speculating about his feelings.
FYI, the guy is now married and assumed that I still loved him. I stated, "Well, that's your personal opinion. I respect, that." - LOL. I asked him the same question in return. He said that he never stopped and wanted for us to meet again. He's now a US Navy officer with a higher rank. And so I have lessened our communication for fear of being misinterpreted. And of course, he's married. Though for me I know that it is friendship, I don't want him to have a chance to dwell more on it and hurt himself and his family. But he's really a good friend. He earned my respect and that won't change even after he told me about it. We have a mutual feeling... to stay friends and cherish the memories. Love and respect will not only be gained by having relationship with each other, but doing the best and the right thing.
 
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maxwel said:
How do I know when a girl is more than just a friend?

When she follows me home and sleeps outside my door.
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hahaha! what else can i do? but laugh (^0^) hahaha!
 
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Never had happend to me- that I know of...maybe I never caught on?
 
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