Unwritten dating rules

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Lynx

Lynx

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So let's write them already!

I was recently informed that it is a rule that after a date you wait two days before calling the person you dated. I'm glad I found out about that - I'm the kind of person I would have called her the next day. What are some other unwritten rules?

I expect we will take a few humorous side-trips in this thread, but the main intent is serious. Help some singles out here, what are the unwritten rules that we probably don't know about?
 
JesusLives

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Lynx said:
So let's write them already!

I was recently informed that it is a rule that after a date you wait two days before calling the person you dated. I'm glad I found out about that - I'm the kind of person I would have called her the next day. What are some other unwritten rules?

I expect we will take a few humorous side-trips in this thread, but the main intent is serious. Help some singles out here, what are the unwritten rules that we probably don't know about?
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What a bunch of hog wash...... two day call rule..... If people like each other they wouldn't care if 30 mins after the first meeting they got a call... Usually during the meeting you get a pretty good idea if you gel with the other person and I can tell you from experience that either I never want to get a call if I didn't like them to looking forward to a call any moment after the first meeting.

Know yourself well first and then know who you just met if there are sparks you both are going to know it right away so let the phone ring....whenever you feel comfortable... She will pick it up or she won't....that might be your first clue....

So a Blond recap..... If there are sparks at the first meeting = Call anytime. If there are no sparks or a few = Then try your 2 day rule as you might not want her to think you are desperate.
 
JesusLives

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Rule I would live by Breath Mints People Breath Mints.....
 
Lynx

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Or dark chocolate. Did you know dark chocolate kills bad breath? It's true, google it. :D

"What a bunch of hog wash...... two day call rule..... If people like each other they wouldn't care if 30 mins after the first meeting they got a call..."

Well, I thought that rule was a bit odd too. That's why I started this thread, to find out the other rules.

Speaking of The Rules...

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blue_ladybug

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Lynx said:
Or dark chocolate. Did you know dark chocolate kills bad breath? It's true, google it. :D

"What a bunch of hog wash...... two day call rule..... If people like each other they wouldn't care if 30 mins after the first meeting they got a call..."

Well, I thought that rule was a bit odd too. That's why I started this thread, to find out the other rules.

Speaking of The Rules...

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​Dark chocolate tastes like a charcoal briquet..lol.. At least the dark chocolate flavor of Ensure does.. :)
 
blue_ladybug

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If you say you're gonna call on whatever day at whatever hour, make sure you call her on that day at that time!! Friends of mine have been through that, and waited for a call that never came.

Otherwise, she will call you and be like, you said you'd call me on whatever day at whatever hour and you didnt!!

"​WHY DIDNT YOU CALL WHEN YOU SAID YOU WOULD?!!!" :) :)
 
seoulsearch

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"If we are dating, we are on the path to becoming one. What's yours is mine, therefore, your food is my food.

Now hand over some of those fries and half your sammich.

Please."

(Gotta keep it ladylike.)
 
blue_ladybug

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If she tries on a pair of jeans and asks you, "do these make my butt look fat," ALWAYS say "no honey, you look great in those"! :) If you say yes, she will say "so you think I'm fat huh"? Or this may happen to you:

12-cat-note-to-self-when-she-asks-if-her-butt-looks-fat.jpg lol..:)
 
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arwen-undomiel

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Don't bring up your ex and mention how dependent you were on her on the first date (true story.. Also same guy who texted me 30 mins after I got home wanting a second date... See where I am going with this...)
 
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Don't pick apart your sushi rolls and play with it, it communicates that you're bored and just rude.
 
Roh_Chris

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blue_ladybug said:
If she tries on a pair of jeans and asks you, "do these make my butt look fat," ALWAYS say "no honey, you look great in those"! :) If you say yes, she will say "so you think I'm fat huh"?
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I think it's a catch-22. Either way she is going to accuse me of lying. :p

Some rules for women:

1) When he drives, DO NOT direct him on how to drive. He knows that very well, thank you very much. You may navigate for him, but do not act like the pseudo-driver. If you want to drive, then bring YOUR car and YOU call him on a date.

2) After the food is served, please do not keep talking. Just let him eat.

3) Don't bring gifts until you're into the third date. And no gifts for his family until you have met them.

4) Do not talk about your ex until he asks you for it.

5) Avoid checking your phone during the date. It shows that you are bored. Answering calls is fine. And if the caller asks 'How long will you take?', do not say '5 minutes'. Instead, say 'You carry on .. I will take a while.' It will give him the hint that you are having a nice time. (On the other hand, if it is boring you can say '5 minutes').


I think those are more like my rules. :p
 
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blue_ladybug

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arwen-undomiel said:
Don't bring up your ex and mention how dependent you were on her on the first date (true story.. Also same guy who texted me 30 mins after I got home wanting a second date... See where I am going with this...)
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Yup, ex's are off-limits. Mention an ex, and the girl will think either 1.) you're using her as a rebound, 2.) you miss an ex and want her back, or 3.) that your still in love with your ex and are only dating your new gf to make the ex jealous. This situation has happened to me more than once..lol..
 
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Dress somewhat decent. No ripped hip hop hoodie and old jeans. Look presentable. Nice pair of jeans, decent shirt and jacket will do. Look clean. Smell good :)
 
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Paying on the first date should be done by the male, unless agreed upon beforehand. Personally, I am always prepared to pay for my meal, and it is a good surprise when he can pay the bill for both. My last relationship, I remembered that he paid, and I returned the gesture and paid the next date.
 
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I'm not sure but I've learnt a lot of late. Somethings I never considered because I've never been in a relationship before, others were just silly, little mistakes. I sometimes feel like a dunderhead though. :)
 
blue_ladybug

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Don't hog down your food in two seconds like a slob. LOL. And no slurping your drink, or blowing bubbles in it with your straw OR making that obnoxious sucking sound with the straw when your drink is almost gone. *Confession: I slurp my iced coffee, AND blow bubbles in it AND make that annoying sound.* :) But I'm at home so I can. :)

No belching out loud, and if you do, say "excuse me" right away. Otherwise she'll think you're a total Neanderthal. :) This all goes whether your home, or at a restaurant or wherever.

Pull out her chair for her when she sits down. Open doors for her. Don't compare her to other girls, ESPECIALLY an ex. THAT is usually the kiss of death for the relationship!! LOL. :)
 
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Good advice Lady_Blue ;-)
 
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Dating rule#1 Separate those who are serious about dating & a relationship from those who like to play games & engage in drama. If he or she display little or no emotion, interest during the date or shortly afterward ... then it may be a sign to move on.
 
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Roh_Chris said:
I think it's a catch-22. Either way she is going to accuse me of lying. :p

Some rules for women:

1) When he drives, DO NOT direct him on how to drive. He knows that very well, thank you very much. You may navigate for him, but do not act like the pseudo-driver. If you want to drive, then bring YOUR car and YOU call him on a date.

2) After the food is served, please do not keep talking. Just let him eat.

3) Don't bring gifts until you're into the third date. And no gifts for his family until you have met them.

4) Do not talk about your ex until he asks you for it.

5) Avoid checking your phone during the date. It shows that you are bored. Answering calls is fine. And if the caller asks 'How long will you take?', do not say '5 minutes'. Instead, say 'You carry on .. I will take a while.' It will give him the hint that you are having a nice time. (On the other hand, if it is boring you can say '5 minutes').


I think those are more like my rules. :p
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Lol @ catch 22 you better believe it buddy! Lmbo!!!!
 
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Women should dress appropriately as well. Classy. Or jeans and boots. No low cut stuff, Christian males will run away -hopefully. Makeup or no makeup whatever, but tone it down. Don't drown yourself in perfume. Gossiping or bringing up people he doesn't know and venting about them is a BIG no no. But it might be could for him to know, so he could dodge that bullet if that's something that really bothers him. On the second date, if you guys are getting the hint that you both like each other, maybe forget to bring your cardigan or extra coat and ask to wear his ;) teehee.
 
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