Unwritten dating rules
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My rule for myself is that if I'm on a date and someone calls, I only answer if it's my kids. That could be a REAL emergency. anyone else can leave me a voice mail. It also might just be that they want me to sing them off to sleep. I've done that...put the date on hold to sing them each a song and wish them sweet dreams. My theory is, if she doesn't get it that my kids are a priority, she isn't who I need to be with.
But what about not appearing too needy? Could you explain that to me? I really would like you to elaborate so that I can know how to balance... lols.
But what about not appearing too needy? Could you explain that to me? I really would like you to elaborate so that I can know how to balance... lols.
HAHAHA. I'm not really good at dating stuff and I shouldn't be the one telling you this because I'm inexperienced. Oh well, I'll just share the bits I've heard or observed from my friends and sisters. Uhmm. Just tell her that you had a great time and would like to spend more time with her. But then again, it depends on the girl if she feels the same towards you.
i'm going to point out i haven't read most of this full thread. only parts of it. so hopefully my "rules" won't be terribly redundant.
a couple of my favorites:
+ even if you're nervous, fake it. give me your best effort of attempting to appear confident. you chose me, i chose you and that should be enough for now.
+ ask me some questions. and when i answer them, look in my eyes (this is not the time to check out my unusual ring, boots, or anything else. and when i ask you questions, don't look around, act put out, or say, "i don't know".
+ generally speaking, don't use our first couple date(s) to detail the long list of things that are (or were) wrong with you. or as i call, leading with your flaws.
trust me, i assume your list of flaws is a long one--probably at least as long as mine. but i don't need to know them all in the first couple meetings, such as the gruesome details of your tumultuous past relationships, the fact that all women have "done you wrong", that you were raised by wolves or that you have a third nipple. please, just keep all that stuff to yourself for now. i beg of you.
+ and if we decide to continue to see each other: stay in touch. send me a funny text. make me laugh. it's nice (and flattering) to know you're thinking of me.
but don't smother me. after all, i can't miss you if you're still here.
+ finally, respect that fact that i'm private. i really don't believe that my "love" life is anyone else's business, and the fact that we're spending time together isn't something i'd really prefer you'd go out of your way to be broadcast,--at least not until we're both prepared to "go public". or returned from our elopement.
a couple of my favorites:
+ even if you're nervous, fake it. give me your best effort of attempting to appear confident. you chose me, i chose you and that should be enough for now.
+ ask me some questions. and when i answer them, look in my eyes (this is not the time to check out my unusual ring, boots, or anything else. and when i ask you questions, don't look around, act put out, or say, "i don't know".
+ generally speaking, don't use our first couple date(s) to detail the long list of things that are (or were) wrong with you. or as i call, leading with your flaws.
trust me, i assume your list of flaws is a long one--probably at least as long as mine. but i don't need to know them all in the first couple meetings, such as the gruesome details of your tumultuous past relationships, the fact that all women have "done you wrong", that you were raised by wolves or that you have a third nipple. please, just keep all that stuff to yourself for now. i beg of you.
+ and if we decide to continue to see each other: stay in touch. send me a funny text. make me laugh. it's nice (and flattering) to know you're thinking of me.
but don't smother me. after all, i can't miss you if you're still here.
+ finally, respect that fact that i'm private. i really don't believe that my "love" life is anyone else's business, and the fact that we're spending time together isn't something i'd really prefer you'd go out of your way to be broadcast,--at least not until we're both prepared to "go public". or returned from our elopement.
Note to guys:
Unless you are meeting her dad who is a retired Army Colonel who regularly goes to play golf with his former colleagues and who also legally owns a couple of firearms. In that case you can freak out and make a nervous wreck of yourself. You are allowed to salute him (which he is not obliged to return) and address him as "Sir, Yessir!". You can even call an ambulance to be on standby in the vicinity.
Unless you are meeting her dad who is a retired Army Colonel who regularly goes to play golf with his former colleagues and who also legally owns a couple of firearms. In that case you can freak out and make a nervous wreck of yourself. You are allowed to salute him (which he is not obliged to return) and address him as "Sir, Yessir!". You can even call an ambulance to be on standby in the vicinity.
Spoken like a true intimidator!! LOL! JK Or is that from personal experience?
Or is that from personal experience?
1) Does your dad keep a loaded pistol? (Her response - Yes he does. He can also arrange for more weapons if needed).
2) Has he ever had to use his pistol? (Her response - Not so far. I think he is waiting to use it at the right opportunity).
I am not kidding. My friend had no intention of soothing the poor guy's nerves.
